to be freaked out, my 3yo DD has blood in her knickers :(

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so, picked up DD from nursery (daycare where she goes two afternoons a week) this evening and the staff said she'd been crying earlier (very unusual!). it transpired that a boy had hit her with a car, unfortunately I can't work out the name as DD's speech isn't very clear.

anyway, they've said before that when somebody pushes her, she doesn't retaliate which is good, but she never tells anyone. I'm a bit worried she just accepts it :(

tonight she was on the loo, she said her bum was hurting (though she actually means at the front IYSWIM) and there was a bit of dry blood in her knickers.

am going to tell the nursery but what do we do? is it normal for an injury to happen and cause bleeding like that? couldn't see any cut or anything.

will it get better by itself, obviously would see doctor if necessary but I'm sure it'd be awful for her.

sorry for rambling post it's a bit hectic here, may not get back online til tomorrow now, any advice would be great. :(

Too many strange dogs licking them Maryz?
Even the Very Best of families have been known to have worms...
Ahem.

any news OP? x

Yes gtamom was just saying what we thought in less words. Thats I posted needing answers for the paperwork as nursery will need to know to ensure no accusasations are made without proof.

i agree that it is highly unlikely, and probably the result of the accident with the other child

however, i would still have taken her to get it checked out just in case.

Algebra how is DD this morning? Did you take her to the GP's or find a scratch or anything?

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UTI can result in blood in underwear (ie not just coming through urine). I had a UTI in pregnancy with DS2 and the doctor said it was probably blood from my kidneys

I really would think that it was a UTI there would be a smell of urine along with the blood?

I think I broke my hymen when I was very little falling sharply onto a bar - had blood in my knickers then.

algebra hows DD - did you take her to see GP???

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hi all. thank you so much for all your responses, it's been a busy day hence me not getting online before. sorry if I worried anyone

first off - I am well aware of the abuse issue - painfully aware in fact, as I was sexually abused as a child. I am keeping it in mind obviously, but DD is adamant it happened when the boy hit her with the car (as she said he hit her in her bum (in the front).

DD was right as rain today, said it didn't hurt, and no more blood. I reckon it was from the car, but some of you mentioned that little girls often get a bit obsessed, and DD definitely is ATM! she's only been potty trained a couple of months and suddenly getting out of nappies (very quick training) meant she was suddenly much more aware of that area, and since then we are constantly telling her to get her hands out of her pants - precisely because she'll end up making herself sore. she used to get really bad nappy rash too.

we didn't go to the GP as DD seemed absolutely fine, she's forgotten all about it. will have another look at her tomorrow though.

so it's the verdict that I should still tell the nursery, right? just tell her what she said about the little boy (and try to work out who it was) and that she had blood in her knickers, probably caused by the injury?

I would mention it - as the boy needs to be watched if nothing else before he does some damage to some poor child.

Glad all turned out OK and sorry to hear you were abused - I'm sure this has made you even more scared and concerned for DD but be proud of yourself that you've let your head rule your heart with regards to this.

aw, thanks

DH was an abused child as well (much more severely) so it does take a fair bit of effort not to let paranoia take over.

having said that it was of course a fair point to mention abuse as a possibility, these things DO happen, and we will keep an eye on things.

I wouldn't report it to the nursery, not unless you want a big fuss made (as per homeboys post), you don't know if that's what caused it, you don't know which boy it was - you will have to get DD to point the boy out (thus making it a bigger issue for her too), they will have to inform the parents - SS will possibly want to speak to DD, it will be one big drama over something that, if he'd done it to her knee, no-one would be giving another thought to.

You did very well not to over-react given both of your backgrounds! Well done! (Sorry to hear about them though).

actually I think chipping and homeboy have a valid point. I didn't think of the SS involvement as a possibility. I mentioned paperwork but forget how intrusive these things can.

Hope you and DH are OK today - just keep telling yourself how far you've come and you'll continue to be the level headed parents you obviously are - I tend to over analysis things and it ain't always helpful

Yes, homeboys, ChippinIn and mumbar have a very valid point. SS can be very over enthusiastic, and will probably try to make something out of nothing.
Whilst totally ignoring some poor child who has chocolate smeared over wounds on the face!

aglebra - how is she now? Did you find out the cause of it?

thanks again all. she's absolutely fine - had another look and couldn't see anything except a tiny bruise. I've just told her again that if anybody hurts her she has to tell one of the teachers because if somebody is naughty they need to be told off!

anyway, good point about SS making a big issue of it, and yes, if it was her knee, nothing would happen! I've had 'dealings' with SS before, as I had depression in my teens, so when I was pregnant SS visited to make sure I'd love my baby - fair enough but I couldn't help thinking "helloooo aren't there kids who need your help RIGHT NOW!?" but that's a whole other thread.

yes, I'm absolutely certain it was the boy at school who hurt her - I did ask if a grown up ever hurt her and she laughed and said no! if it'd been a more severe injury I'd have to follow it up but she's fine now.

thanks again everyone :)

That's all good then - pleased to hear it!! :)

:) she was a bit worried about going to nursery today (first time since friday) because of the boy, I think he's a bit rough with other kids generally. I spoke to her teacher about it - I told her she is still upset, and DD told her who it was (she already had an inkling as to who had hit her) and the teacher will keep an extra eye on them. didn't tell her about the exact nature of the injury though.

I think you've handled it really well Algebra :)