To be holding my head and rocking

[ande]

I strongly believe the flat above us is a brothel. I have been proactive to a point beyond what I think would work and that hasn't worked in dealing with this. I have pnd .

So. I am not unreasonable to be sitting here and frankly still rocking, or am I?

How does one be 'proactive' with a brothel?

What makes you think it is a brothel and what action have you taken?

if you think it's a brothel then have you informed the police?

Please elaborate on the proactive. I have visions of you crossing out "phone me for a good time" messages in the local loos.

But surely inform Police?

ande, if you seriously believe there is a brothel, then report it.

Oh, bum. I posted in aibu and forgot what it entails. Look up "proactive" + "brothel". Disregard that and then add common sense. I am having a shit time and irrespective of where i have posted this I believe the posts will probably help.

You actively sought out a prostitute to see if you'd be directed to your address? Blimey. Respect.

Plan B, I'd suggest, would be to talk to your local constabulary.

Of course I have phoned the police. Bejesus I'm better off sitting and rocking.

I have looked up proactive + brothel, then - that, then + common sense and im still non the wiser. Mind you math isnt my strong point.

I think if you want some sensible advice and the opportunity to stop rocking you need to tell us wtf you are on about, preferably in key words of one syllable.

waaah i don't geddit??

Nope, you've lost me. (Not difficult, admittedly).

Regardless of my stupidity, what have the Police said?

Are you sufferinng insofar as being disturbed by noise/approached by dodgy men who have got the wrong flat and so on?

What makes you believe that it's a brothel? Not suggesting you're imagining it or making it up, but surely if you have good enough evidence the Police should take it seriously. If they won't, would you consider taking it further and writing to the Chief Constable, cc-ing to your MP? That's the only thing I can think of, I may be being OTT, I dunno.

ande - people who lived near us at address virtually the same as a nearby brothel - they kept getting inappropriate visitors at unsuitable times of the night - got the planners to close it down and speedy quick too (which is completely not normal for planning I assure you). Keep working on any avenue open to you. Have you tried your local councillors, or your local paper, or residents group. Do other people know about it, would they care and help you complain if they did. Weight of numbers complaining will always help to persuade that a problem really is a problem. Would citizens advice be able to help? Are you a council tenant. Brainstorm solutions, don't give up at the first hurdle.

Ande, are you saying that you strongly believe the flat above is a brothel and its not, its your imagination?

Sorry if i have that totally wrong, but im trying to make sense of the clues you are giving.

bosch, I love your phrase "and speedy quick too". Hope you don't mind if I keep it for my own.

If you have any evidence at all that it is a knocking shop, how are Police/council not helping you?

AIBU was the wrong place to post this. Sorry. I log in every day. I have pnd. I have reported the flat to the police. I don't believe I am unreasonable to be sitting here rocking. i have pnd, I am not crazy, I should have put this in chat. Sorry.

Upstairs is a brothel, you called them and also the police, right?
In that case... what did the police say?
why are you rocking? The noise?
Are you in council accommodation? If so, have you spoken to them? If not it might be worth ringing them anyway.
How many prostitutes did you call before you got lucky with the flat upstairs?

ande - I think our baffled response would have been the same wherever you'd put this - you were a bit vague, you have to admit :).

Do you have a partner/DH? Are you on the case re the PND - getting all the help you can, etc? What did the police say re the brothel?

ande, don't be sad. People just aren't understanding what you've already done.
You've contacted Police, what did they say they'd do?

No, you're not being unreasonable, but you are being quite difficult to understand.

Have a cup of tea, then write a list of what leads to you believe it is a brothel, and what action you have taken.

You might want to keep a diary of comings and goings, I'm sure you can get the place closed down.

my honour tippychooks (though might keep it in mind next time I need emergency name change!)

ande, really, don't be surprised if you need to press your complaint, it doesn't mean that you're not right. Find out what evidence the police (planners, councillors, whoever) would take seriously and work out how to collect it. Might be where your neighbours can help you - logging visitors, car regs, etc etc.

Thanks Tchoocks. I have to keep a diary, a log. It is a brothel, hey ho. Where we live is a private block and it is adjoined by two housing association blocks. Bugger it I should not have posted this here. Because of me my family still have silence.

Ande, I don't know IF they can help but it might be worth speaking to Environmental Health in your local council re noise and disturbance. Likewise your local councillors and/or MP.

I'd also suggest that you speak to your Health Visitor and/or GP and get them onside, given that the neighbour's activities are causing you so much distress. It never harms to have professionals fighting your corner.

Try MP, CAB, even a housing officer from the housing association that runs the flats next to you.
To be honest Ande, you sound a more than a little worried and wobbly.I don't really get some of your comments (like the silence thing) so I may be reading it wrong.
Are you seriously OK?

I am really looking for help.

My gp IS BRILLIANT. Sure anybody could do more, frankly my GP does above and beyond.