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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that in a family, everyone should clean the toilet after themselves

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stubbornhubby · 07/09/2010 10:47

the toilet brush thread seems to suggest that many Mumsnetters take it for granted that the rest of the family will leave their skidmarks behind for mum to clean up later, with the implement of her choice.

Is it really like that?
Other than small children, isn't everyone in your family expected to clean up after themselves?

Or are you the only one who scrapes the bowl out...

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JodiesMummy · 07/09/2010 10:47

No, Im the only one who does it and it pisses me right off. Its DISGUSTING.

BooBooGlass · 07/09/2010 10:49

I want to know what the hell everyone is eating to leave skidmarks on the bowl in the first place.

p2moh · 07/09/2010 10:58

At what age can you get your DC to clean it after them? I'm the only one doing it just now but DD 9 and DS 6 are the worst offenders. Maybe I should give them the toilet duck and say get on with it!!

AgentZigzag · 07/09/2010 11:39

I don't know that many peoples toilet habits, but isn't it usual to use the toilet, shut the lid and flush?

You've washed your hands by the time the flush has finished, so you're not really going to go peering in to see what state the toilet bowl's in.

Of course you perhaps should take the time to wait for the results, but who can be bothered really?

(Of course I'm talking about the other members of my family and not me, I only shit rose petals so never make a mess )

UnePrune · 07/09/2010 11:44

Hmm, yes i DO expect dh to sort it out for himself but I've only recently, by means of a tantrum, been able to impress that upon him.

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stubbornhubby · 08/09/2010 14:12

suggestion - get your family in a room. ask them what ideas they have for who should clean all the s**t off the toilet.

after some merriment, i think it's highly likely that they will come up with the suggestion that everyone cleans up their own....

(it's hard to imagine any other suggestion, isn't it? unless you have a cleaner coming round every hour like at work)

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Lynli · 08/09/2010 14:18

Yes but what they say and what they do are two different things.

Mr nobody always makes the mess.

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stubbornhubby · 08/09/2010 15:28

take a photo with your phone each day and text it to him?

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chandellina · 08/09/2010 15:30

i can guarantee that my DH has never cleaned up after himself and would balk at any suggestion this was desireable and/or necessary.

BunnyLebowski · 08/09/2010 15:33

What kind of radioactive turds do your families produce??

I don't understand the fuss about cleaning the loo. If there's ever any....erm....residue on ours I squirt a bit of bleach round. After an hour it's gone.

I have never in my life felt the need to get on my knees and scrub shite off a toilet bowl.

GetOrfMoiLand · 08/09/2010 15:39

Everyone scrubs their own loo after use.

If I ever encounter a skid mark I shout. I am NOT cleaning the loo after anyone else. I make sure that the loo is clean after I use it, if I can do it so can everyone else.

Dstepson moved in with us and at the start was terrible with leaving skidmarks. I gave him a stern talking to and said if he carried on I would tell his girlfriend

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stubbornhubby · 08/09/2010 15:42

why do women do this?

i would hate to think my proud and independent DDs will end up spending a portion of each day cleaning their husbands poo off the toilet.

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perfumedlife · 08/09/2010 15:45

I cant stand finding the loo in that state. Had serious talk with dh and asked him, did he think of me cleaning up skidy toilets when he first wanted to bed me? Well of course not, so why now? If he wont clean it he can pay a cleaner, I was not put on this earth to clean up after him. Ds is 6 and has been taught to use the loo brush, and he does.

While we are on about it, does anyone ever find snot in the shower

GetOrfMoiLand · 08/09/2010 15:46

Absolutely. Everyone can clean their own shite.

And if you don't have a loo brush, what the bloody hell are you supposed to do it with? Your hand down the loo with a j cloth? Piss orf.

I do think loo brushes can end up looking despicable, I end up sticking bleach in the receptacle but then give up and throw the thing away and replace it after a few months.

UnePrune · 08/09/2010 15:49

I'll tell you why DH doesn't clean the loo.
His mother always had a cleaner.
He went to boarding school where they had cleaners.
He then spent 4 years at university living in a shithole with 3 other slackers.
Moved to Oxford where his digs had a cleaner.
Moved in with me and I have singularly FAILED to get across to him that it's not OK. (This and a host of other housework issues.) He's a prat about housework. I also don't see why it should be my responsibility to train a grown adult, but tbh the argument could go on for ages. It is his failing, really, so I don't really take responsibility for it.

DS is 6. He can put on washing, he can brush the loo, hoover the stairs already. He won't be let loose upon the world thinking shit stains are invisible.

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stubbornhubby · 08/09/2010 15:51

or .... perhaps he doesn't clean the loo because you are there, largely uncomplaining, do it for him?

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UnePrune · 08/09/2010 15:53

'largely uncomplaining' - ??????
Since my tantrum he is doing it. It's pathetic but there you go.

GetOrfMoiLand · 08/09/2010 15:53

Prune - next time there is a skiddy, take him up, show it to him, say CLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF.

repeat until he has reprogrammed his brain. You say he went to Oxford. Evidently then he is not an idiot who cannot follow instruction. Don't put up with him holding his hands up in a helpless manner, the lazy sod.

FuzzyWuzzyWuz · 08/09/2010 15:57

My DP reckons he doesn't notice it. Although after a bit of gentle reminding, he's started cleaning it up himself. It only took 9 years. (he's very well trained in the rest of the house though)

UnePrune · 08/09/2010 15:59

He is a lazy sod, but he doesn't play helpless.
He agrees with me then does FUCK ALL (well, until recently). In retrospect, this should have been a dealbreaker earlier on but we had more fun then, it's all swings and roundabouts...
The skids are under control now.

whatwasthatagain · 08/09/2010 16:03

DH cleans up after himself - but with a toilet brush, which I hate, hate, hate. I'm a toilet duck or loo roll cleaner myself. I refuse to even look at the toilet brush. I buy him new ones for birthdays and christmas.

FuzzyWuzzyWuz · 08/09/2010 16:05

WWTA - how romantic

bumpybecky · 08/09/2010 16:05

We very rarely get skids, I think it's something to do with the shape of the bowl. I have much more of a problem with whole poos sat there in the loo

as for cleaning the loo, I'm the only one who does. I'm still at the teaching them to flush stage :(

FuzzyWuzzyWuz · 08/09/2010 16:06

my cat leaves floaters in our loo... which is grim when it's been there all day... can't see him using a brush though

whatwasthatagain · 08/09/2010 16:13

I agree it depends on the shape of the bowl. Traditional 'deep' loos, no problem, flatter more modern loos - bigger problem. Especially ones with a weak flush.

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