Would you describe this woman as poor?

[MeganFox]

I have namechanged as I don't want to get "stalked", but I am a regular.

DH's ex is always going on that they are so poor (her, their DD and her fiance). She says that they often have to eat beans on toast as they cannot afford food. DH pays her a very reasonable sum of maintenance every month and has never fallen short on payments. If it were all spent on DSD it would guarantee her a very comfortable lifestyle. Yet on the bank hol weekend the payment didn't go in on the normal date due to the bank hol, but went in on the Tuesday. She kept texting to say that he must check his bank as she had direct debits coming out and that he needed to sort it out etc. He explained the reason why, but still she was asking. She has also asked for extra money for DSD's school trip, which we genuinely can't afford, but she thinks DH should pay half, even though he already pays maintenance.
Anyway, it's DSD's birthday coming up, and she said to DH that instead of getting her a present, he could just give her the money for the school trip.
The next thing you know, bizarrely she has sent DH a text listing all the things she is buying for DSD's birthday:
An Ipod touch
Speakers for it
A Links of London bracelet
Tickets to JLS concert
A day out at Chessington

In addition to this she got an early birthday present of a pair of genuine Ugg Cardy boots.

I just cannot fathom how you would be able to afford all this if you were struggling financially? Also, if you really were struggling or wanted your ex to think that, why would you send him a text listing all this?

I can't work it out .

Pag x posted again - I'm somewhat relieved to find you are still the person I 'know'

chipping
I am pleased. I am only talking about a first child not being treated as less than a child of a second family. Not a first child having priority IYSWIM

justone.

Actually if we split up I would expect them to remain exactly the same. But i recognise I am fortunate in being able to.
But to be honest if we split I expect him to make good the deal we made when I gave up my highly lucrative career 10 years ago to stay at home with our children. Any future romance upon which he would chose to embark would need his responsibility to his children and to me to be factored in.
Just as we chose not to have more than three children, the arrival of a new wife would need to factor in the same criteria that limited our family.

If he can only afford three children - well he already has them.

( although actually that is technically true but factually bollocks as I am covered whatever he does )

OP I don't think you do come across as resentful, I'd question this woman's spending too.

If you're buying all that stuff but can "only afford baked beans on toast for tea" and no school trip, then the priorities are all wrong. You say your DP can't afford the trip and if that's the case it's a shame but DSD will have to deal with it.

Also that list doesn't sound like she was simply making sure you didn't double up when buying DSD a present. That sounded like bragging.

I am a bit shocked at that present list. Who is she- Paris Hilton?

can't be Paris
That would be :

Dog In A Bag
Bail Money
Coke

Pag sometimes I really don't want your life and other days I really do - today I do :) What did you do before DC were you a lawyer? Can you/will you say how you are covered?

Has to be an expensive bag for her coke though Pagwatch. No cheap shit for Paris. It costs lotsa money to look that trashy

They are not poor if she can give those things to her daughter for her birthday. Or else they have no common sense, plain and simple.