to NOT want to report this to FB

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DH and I have just had a disagreement and he has gone to work.

Over a year ago fred told me a secret about freda. It is a BIG secret and I promised not to tell. However it was too big and I had to so I told Bob who promised to keep it secret.

This was really bad of me and I know that and feel terrible.

Bob let it slip so I pretended I made it up. Freda's daughter Freya has just found out about it and has private messaged me on FB to have a go at me for "making up something so sick". DH read it and has reported her to FB. She thinks I spread it round everyone. Apparently everyone now hates me.

The way I see it I didn't keep the secret so ] I deserve to be had a go at even though I didn't make it up, and its better for her to think I made it up, as I have now moved away and them hating me doesn't impact my life, than to tell her it was true.

DH says I shouldn't put up with being spoken to like that for something I didn't do. He said that my involvement was small and that Bob, Fred and Freda should take the flak.

Opinions please!

facebook is the work of the devil.

What are you 15?!

Of course you should put up with being "spoken to like that" as you couldn´t keep schtum in the first place.

thanks diddl, thats what i think :-)

i'm not 15, but freya is

i don't think facebook are going to care tbh

and you deserve to feel awful, you told a huge secret and then lied about it.

get a grip

I'm sorry....what?

You were told a secret and blabbed so of course people will have a go.

Don't know why he reported her unless of course it contained threats or what not.

yes you should just ignore the message & let them think you made it up if that will be better for them as wasnt your place to say so if its public knowledge is your fault

why didn't you just keep the secret? If you can't keep secrets then you should warn people when they say "don't tell anyone but..."

This is why you should mind your own business.

Is this to do with the golf club?

WTF is fred doing telling Freda's secrets anyway?

He's the one at fault here and your dh is right, you dont deserve to be spoken to like that.

How do you know the "secret" is true anyway? And why was Fred telling others and (I'm guessing) potentially harming Freda's reputation or dignity? Gossip is not a good thing IMO.

I just wonder what the hell it was to be called 'sick'

not run of the mill affair then.

I'm thinking siblings or possibly mountain goat.

OP - you betrayed a trust. You just have to take the fallout on the chin. You have nobody to blame but yourself, sadly.

And in future, stop people before they confide in you and tell them "look, sorry, but I am not good with secrets."

what's the secret? Go on, you know you want to tell us!

Is Fred called Freda just at the weekends?

Your fault - you blabbed.

Your un-trustworthy obviously.

It was freds secret too, I did tell him not to tell me, but he really wanted my advice, and I did help him sort it out.

I am rubbish at keeping secrets, but I did tell him that before he told me!

Maybe fred isn't freya's dad?

I don't think Fred should have told anyone then and if you warned him...

But if you don't see these people I'd just block them and ignore

So, whats the secret then? :o

Why report a youg girl who was upset? we have a magic FB button technique for avoiding people - block and delete friend

exactly my view! thank you lunar