AIBU in thinking that if you are waiting at the bus stop

[princesspuds]

do not open my gate to put your kids in there because you can't be arsed to keep an eye on them.

Just had some stupid bitch parent do this, she opened my gate and urged her brat child to play in my garden.

My garden has no toys or play equipment, but plants, solar lights and a few pretty windchimes and ornaments as my dd is in a wheelchair and enjoys being out there, I did approach the mum and got "he's only a baby" he was about 2ish and had managed to pull out some ornaments which had a spike attached, when I suggested she use reins she stil kept on harping on about her ds only being a baby, so I asked her if she would like it if I got my kids to come and tear around her garden.

If her child or anyone elses got injured in my garden (as this happens a lot) I bet the parent would be kicking off about it.

Bearing in mind that my garden has a gate which is always closed, am I being unreasonable in wanting my garden kept for me and my family, not every kid whose parent is at the bus stop and they feel it is an option instead of looking after them themselves

Sorry rant over

An Air rifle is definitely the way to go ...... start by firing a few warning shots at some strategically placed jam jars, if they don't take the hint, shoot at the little shit, that oughta teach 'em

Come out of your house on the phone and say clearly 'yes police please, we have tresspasers on our private property who are refusing to leave'. Have camera in other hand. 'yes I can get a picture to use as evidence bear with me a second' If they don't move then they really are twats.

Oh - sympathise OP - we live v. near a school - we not only have the parking but we have the mums and their kids traipsing all over our place, dropping litter. I've had the mum's shove my ds off the path - (a private path that leads to my place but also to a back area - also private - that cut's through to another road).

In fact the other morning I heard a bit of a issue outside and there was a group of mums sat our our bench outside our home.

Some people have noooooo idea.

Massive - the mum's or their kids didn't have earrings though (wink).

I'd tell them that it's private property - to get out. It's only happening as you've got a nice garden.

sc13 I don't think it's the same, driveways are designed to be walked up and front doors are designed to be looked at.

Gardens are not meant to be used as a play area, litter bin or plum dispencary.

As for the lady who threatened to call the police perhaps you could've advised he was in training to do the next census - or you could've made a little t-shirt with google map written on it

fwiw - I have a veeery low down doorbell that I must remove to stop poor harrassed mothers of toddler who spy it from the pavement and go running toward it with an uncontrollable urge to push a button in reach. If we were doing a thread about that I would definitely declare myself as YABU for having a stupid doorbell - the odd one that breaks free and makes it in time to press normally runs away in a panic when I do answer, or ask "do you live here?" And I reply "yes, would you like another go on the bell before Mummy comes?".

I'd have said.. 'Oh I hope your baby hasn't touched anything if I'd know I was having visitors I wouldn't have put all that rat poison out!' She'd have moved her toddler quick smart..

Starbuck, in a pp on here I stated I was concerned for the safety of any lo's who were not having their hands held on my wall as it is very high on my side of the garden and they could sustain a serious head injury, its only waist height from the pavement but a lot higher at my side due to a disabled ramp going down the side of the garden.

Chipping, I can assure you that I am not a troll, just a new member.

My house was used as a community centre prior to me moving in 2 years ago then it was turned into a residential property adapted for my disabled daughter, is it really too much to ask for in wanting my front garden nice so my daughter can enjoy it?

princessspuds I wasn't saying you are a troll!!! I just cannot believe the out and out cheek of some people - it's so gobsmackingly rude!!! My post might have needed a few more 's but I have been trying not to over use emoticons as I do quite like them :)

Maybe they still think it's a community centre - perhaps you need a nice sign. 'Princess DD lives here - so unless invited, stay out of my bloody garden you muppets!! Hmmm maybe that's too complicated for some of them - maybe a simpler one 'Keep out of my fucking garden'.

I still want photos though - I want to see what someone so unbelievably rude looks like

I can't believe (except I can) that people would be so rude.

If you don't want to get a lock for the gate you could try just a normal slide bolt but put at the bottom of the gate on the inside. This would probably be enough to stop people opening it from the outside because even if the ignorant bastards managed to work out what they needed to do they would really have to reach over the gate to undo it.

Also get a beware of the dog sign with a picture of a really vicious snarling creature on it.

I hope something works because I would be furious if it was my garden.

Chipping, HOW DARE YOU not think I am worthy of your cheesy grins I am most put out

skulks off for a cry sulk

I'm sorry, what??? That is utterly insane. Why does your house's proximity to a bus stop imply that it is public property? You have a very good case to get the council involved, and at the very least, you should keep your gate shut and perhaps put up a "no trespassing" sign to deter them. Frankly, I'm astounded there have been multiple incidents; it is utterly ludicrous for a parent to use another parent's garden as a playground without asking in the first place. It is also illegal. You have my sympathy.

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I keep telling MNHQ to give ME control over the emoticons - for some wellknown unknown reason they keep ignoring me :( I really don't know why they want to keep all the control

Please have a while you consider what to put on your sign :)

see op had troll status queried.maybe anti feminist will follow.for that nice name calling thang.much loved on mn

see what you do in this situation is;

YOU: hi, lovely day/horrible day. are you local?
HER: yes i live on such'n'such a street.
YOU: oh do you? so does my sister, what number are you?
HER: number 17
YOU: you know i don't even know what number my sister is, i never look. ha ha. see you later.

then next week you pack the kids into the car, find her house and offload them into her garden to play.

Chipping, its PUDS not SPUDS

I do have a pet snake but I don't think he will stay on the gate all the time to scare everyone off
Although I could put up a beware of the snake sign

beware of snake sign.fuck youd have a queue at yer door

Why Puds? - Spuds are loooovely :)

Hmm - I think you might need to upgrade to one of <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=very-bored.com/pics/bigsnake/1.jpg&imgrefurl=very-bored.com/index.php%3Foption%3Dcom_content%26task%3Dview%26id%3D20%26Itemid%3D29&h=390&w=520&sz=54&tbnid=7rqpcluxMM0ttM:&tbnh=98&tbnw=131&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dworlds%2Bbiggest%2Bsnake&zoom=1&q=worlds+biggest+snake&hl=en-GB&usg=__6lQ2O1Yj8kkjYyT5yzbeKVeoLps=&sa=X&ei=IbiCTM65Bc6e4Ab-yLSEDA&ved=0CCQQ9QEwBA" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">these

Not if it said, snake roaming free enter at your own risk, small children will be eaten

Is that why you are called Chipping then

LOL, no it's not, but it could be

snake roaming free sign=gagging for it munters beating on door

Wire the gate up to the mains?

Think about the poor postmen/women

SDTG's suggestion reminds me of a story from my childhood. Apparently a man who had a busstop outside his garden got fed up with night-time drunks pissing into his hedge and ran an electric fence through the hedge. You can imagine what a shocking experience it was to piss on that.

The owner tried to convince the police that it was to deter stray cats and dogs, but they made him remove it anyway.

You could warn the postman and buy him a pair of rubber gloves.

But I suppose that a motion activated sprinkler system would be a more sensible option.

YANBU. You don't let your child play in someone elses Garden.