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Original poster

AIBU in thinking that if you are waiting at the bus stop

104 replies

princesspuds · 03/09/2010 11:28

do not open my gate to put your kids in there because you can't be arsed to keep an eye on them.

Just had some stupid bitch parent do this, she opened my gate and urged her brat child to play in my garden.

My garden has no toys or play equipment, but plants, solar lights and a few pretty windchimes and ornaments as my dd is in a wheelchair and enjoys being out there, I did approach the mum and got "he's only a baby" he was about 2ish and had managed to pull out some ornaments which had a spike attached, when I suggested she use reins she stil kept on harping on about her ds only being a baby, so I asked her if she would like it if I got my kids to come and tear around her garden.

If her child or anyone elses got injured in my garden (as this happens a lot) I bet the parent would be kicking off about it.

Bearing in mind that my garden has a gate which is always closed, am I being unreasonable in wanting my garden kept for me and my family, not every kid whose parent is at the bus stop and they feel it is an option instead of looking after them themselves

Sorry rant over

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PlumBumMum · 03/09/2010 11:58

things like that really bug me so YANBU

FlyMeToDunoon · 03/09/2010 12:06

YANBU
Large 'Beware of the Fierce Dog' sign?

SayItWithWine · 03/09/2010 12:12

Absolutely 'BEWARE OF DOG' sign, and one of those loud barking recordings (movement activated) near the gate to put them off opening the gate. What a CHEEK!

imahappycamper · 03/09/2010 12:13

Why would anyone think it is OK to send their child to play in someone else's garden? You are lucky in that you have a fence and a gate. Here front gardens are open plan so if people decided to let their children play on our garden there wouldn't be much I could do. On the other hand you are quite lucky to have buses and bus stops tooEnvy

TheLadyEvenstar · 03/09/2010 12:14

Well I can't believe you are getting stressed about this!!! I regularly let my DC run in peoples gardens, walk into open houses to use toilets and games consoles, I even make myself a coffee while there.

Seriously she must have been on another planet...DS2 is almost 3 and is a climber, I am forever removing him from walls and fences as "That is someones garden" he is returned to his buggy if he doesn't walk properly.

YANBU - get a recording of a dog barking and set it off if someone does it again Grin

LittleMissHissyFit · 03/09/2010 12:16

Trespassers will be waterbombed????

Seriously, I never thought anyone would do that!

He's only a baby?????

"HOW ABOUT ... IT'S ONLY MY FECKING GARDEN, YOU MUPPET!"

TheLadyEvenstar · 03/09/2010 12:17

oi!!! I like the muppets!!!Grin

esselle · 03/09/2010 12:19

Bus Wankers!! Grin

Liv77 · 03/09/2010 12:21

YANBU - What a cheeky cow, definately agree with the Dog sign and then maybe borrow a friend's dog for the day ideally a large noisy one. A garden sprinkler may also be a good deterrant. I remember my Dad using that one when kids kept climbing up on his shed roof. Grin

Galena · 03/09/2010 12:21

Definitely a sign seems the way to go - maybe 'Private property' or 'Uninvited children will be filled with E-numbers, Fruitshoots and Greggs sausage rolls'

warthog · 03/09/2010 12:24

yanbu

BUT i lift my kids up to walk on walls. i'm right there beside them. so i think yabu on that score.

but they musn't come into your garden.

Nancy66 · 03/09/2010 12:24

what is wrong with people?

A bloke was having a pee up against my car the other week - when I had a go at him, he said: 'It's gonna rain in a minute, what's yer problem?'

NestaFiesta · 03/09/2010 12:30

YANBU. I also have a bus stop at my front gate but my garden is used as a litter bin for teeenagers who seem to have nowhere else to go in the world other than a bus stop at night.

I cannot believe that the woman argued back with you when you challenged her. Unbelievable. Just because he's "only a baby" doesn't mean the whole world has to help look after him when she can't be arsed.

LOL at esselle's Inbetweeners nod "bus stop wankers" Grin

ernestTheBavarian · 03/09/2010 12:30

warthog, I let my kids walk on walls, but in a park or something. I wouldn't let me kids walk on someone's garden wall, I think that is BU.

Respect for other people's property and risk of damage as well as injury.

Original poster
princesspuds · 03/09/2010 12:34

Warthog, I am more concerned about the fact they lift the kids on the wall and don't hold their hands, just leave them, if a kid was to topple off the wall into my garden, the height on my side would cause a nasty injury or worse.

I do actually have a large dog but I would probably get people saying he is nasty because he is a rottie as he stands on his hind legs to say hello and has been known to sit on you and render you immobileGrin

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sc13 · 03/09/2010 12:48

YANBU, what a cheek.
But I have to confess to similar forms of misconduct - my DS has ASD. When he was around 2/2.5, one of the things that he HAD to do was walk up to each door on the street, opening the gate and up the front steps if necessary, point to the number and say the number on the door. He wouldn't touch or disrupt anything (other than the gate, to open it); he just had to go to the door and say the number. If I didn't let him, he'd have a massive meltdown. If the owner was around, I would always apologize and explain; everybody was fine with it, with the exception of one woman who said she'd call the police.
Thankfully, he doesn't do that anymore, but I'd like to know how people would view something like that - do you think I shouldn't have let him do that, because of reasons similar to what has been said here?

Rockbird · 03/09/2010 12:49

Why do blokes have to pee up against something? Must ask DH...

Sidge · 03/09/2010 12:51

Can't you lock your gate?

I am astounded that so many people waiting for a bus seem to think your garden is a playground.

If I were you I would go out and say "you have 15 seconds to get out of my garden or I will let my Rottweiler out", then start counting Grin

BubbaAndBump · 03/09/2010 12:53

I am so Shock at this woman! How very, very bizarre! We have no gate or fence/wall around our front patch of grass, and therefore it's fair dinkum for anyone, although I would be a bit Hmm if kids were put there to play by their parents. I certainly pull my kids out of gardens if they tear away from me and run into one...

The wall thing, slightly less so ~ my parents have a low wall (I think the only one on the street) and it's en route to a place frequented by older folks, often old people take a seat on it and admire her front garden. Never seen a problem with that.
(though I've just seen it's older kids and no hand-holding on your wall - that's weirder)

Original poster
princesspuds · 03/09/2010 13:06

SC13, If you lived near me and your DS did that and it was explained to me then fair enough, I would not have a problem with that at all.

I actually had a child with Autism about 6ish who escaped from my neighbours garden (hers is completely open) and just walked into my house and scared the crap out of my 12 yr old because he just grabbed her and the mum was completely oblivious to the danger her son was in by being out of sight.

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tortoiseonthehalfshell · 03/09/2010 13:08

OP, is there something you're not telling us? Like, is your house actually Disneyland?

Because otherwise I do not understand why this is a recurring phenomenon. People open your gate and usher their children into your property? What?

moomoo1967 · 03/09/2010 13:12

YANBU how damn cheeky.

AvrilHeytch · 03/09/2010 13:14

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cumfy · 03/09/2010 13:22

Get thisWink

FlyMeToDunoon · 03/09/2010 13:25

Does your gate have 'Welcome' written on it?
Grin