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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think dh is bu expecting me to be able to cut the lawns when i'm looking after a 3 year old allday?

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carriedababi · 01/09/2010 22:06

hes got home tonight, and told me i really should be able to cut the lawns, i guess it would take about 45 mins, as i'm at home allday.
[sahm]

he was going to the gym tonight, which he seems to have time for.

so should i be doing the grass cutting while looking after a 3 year old?

OP posts:

scurryfunge · 01/09/2010 22:08

If it is your lawn, then yes, surely you are capable of doing it?

thisisyesterday · 01/09/2010 22:08

i think it's do-able

i have a 5yr old, 2.5yr old and a 1yr old and I manage to do ours.....

KnittingisbetterthanTherapy · 01/09/2010 22:08

YANBU

Not unless s/he was in bed. I would never take the risk of mowing the lawn while a toddler was running around the garden - not worth it.

One of you could do it at the weekend while the other one entertains toddler indoors?

colditz · 01/09/2010 22:09

Manjob.

KnittingisbetterthanTherapy · 01/09/2010 22:10

Lol! I'm on my own then!

Must be paranoid about chopping off limbs .

Trifle · 01/09/2010 22:10

My friend pays a gardener to cut the grass. Her husband has no idea and thinks she does it.

OptimistS · 01/09/2010 22:10

Well i'm a working single mum with 3-year-old twins and I do mine, but being a SAHM isn't carte blanche for the working partner to expect the SAHM to do EVERYTHING on the domestic front. If you're a SAHM then your role is to look after your child for the hours DP is at work. If you can get other household stuff done in that time, great, but anything that isn't done should be divided between you. You should both have equal 'me' time.

LadyBiscuit · 01/09/2010 22:10

How on earth do some of you think single parents manage?

I cut my grass - takes about 45 mins. My DS watches through the window.

MadameBelle · 01/09/2010 22:11

really, looking after one 3 yr old, you couldn't find 45 minutes to mow the lawn? Do you spend every single second of your day interacting/watching over your dc?

How bizarre.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 01/09/2010 22:11

YANBU.

My 2.4 year old hates the lawnmower, so I wouldn't be able to cut the lawn when it's me and him at home without leaving him completely unattended in the house with the doors and windows closed (it's the sound he hates).

Maybe with an older child it's do-able, but not for me atm unless I wait for both ds's to be safely tucked up in bed.

colditz · 01/09/2010 22:11

Personally, LB, I just didn't cut my grass until my youngest went to preschool.

annh · 01/09/2010 22:12

I think it's perfectly do-able unless he is demanding that it be done on a particular day, but just expecting that you might get around to doing it sometime this week it reasonable.

TheBountyMuncher · 01/09/2010 22:12

Yeah I think you'd manage!
Ds has a little plasic one he pushes and gets in my way while I'm doing mine.

Does it really need doing? If not, leave it for now and do it when your 3 yr old is back at nursery (if at nursery)

inveteratenamechanger · 01/09/2010 22:12

I was going to post exactly what OptimistS said - to the letter. (Apart from the bit about three year old twins, that is - hats off!)

thisisyesterday · 01/09/2010 22:12

i actually have 2 big rabbits now and haven't had to cut it for weeks as they keep it nice and short

maybe you should do that?? :-D

ChippingIn · 01/09/2010 22:12

I wouldn't do it with a small child in the garden, mowers throw up stones and sticks etc, it's not safe, so I suppose it depends on how safe it is to leave your DS for 15 mins at a time?

However, it does somewhat depend on what he does around the house?! and how he said it!!

colditz · 01/09/2010 22:13

It depends entirely on what the three year old is like. Mine weren't the colouring book kind,.

Meglet · 01/09/2010 22:13

YANBU. No way would I ever get the mower out unless the dc's were out with someone for a couple of hours or tucked up in bed.

I'd do it with an older child, but never with a toddler running riot. You can't hear what they're doing when the mower is on for s start and I wouldn't have them in the garden at the same time, that's asking for an A&E visit.

LadyBiscuit · 01/09/2010 22:13

I am a very keen gardener colditz - it ruins grass if you don't cut it :o

My DS also hates the noise - hence me leaving him in the house. But 3 year olds can be relied upon not to kill themselves if given cbeebies and a piece of toast I've found

TheBountyMuncher · 01/09/2010 22:14

Oh god I've just made myself look really negligent!

Can assure everyone that I have never ran DS over with lawnmower- and I do hoover the lawn 1st in case of stones flying (bit odd, but needs must!)

thisisyesterday · 01/09/2010 22:15

i must be very neglectful then as i've mowed the lawn with my 2 smallest out there!

what is the risk? i mean, i am not flailing the mower about with the blades in their faces. it's firmly on the ground, and i can see where they are at all times...

LadyBiscuit · 01/09/2010 22:15

You hoover the lawn first?! You're joking right? Please tell me you're joking

sapphireblue · 01/09/2010 22:16

I have a 2.5yo and a 6 month old and I haven't managed it yet. I recon I could possibly do the back lawn (although my eldest would be screaming bloody murder as she hates the noise) but don't see how I could do the front with both of them out there with me.........nothing (apart from me!) to stop them escaping down the steps to the road. I guess if I was a single mum I would have to do it after they were in bed and hope they didn't wake up.

sanfairyann · 01/09/2010 22:16

nah, that's a job for the man of the house to do, he is bvu not to do it bit like putting out the bins. man job. you could get guinea pigs = we haven't cut our lawn in two years!

HumphreyCobbler · 01/09/2010 22:17

I do lots of stuff with DS around, but I wouldn't cut our lawn. I wouldn't be able to hear what he was up to , I wouldn't be able to see him at all times as we have quite a hazardous garden unless you are watching.

I think it depends on what your house is like. There is no window my ds could look out of here.

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