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Original poster

Dare I post this on my "Friends" facebook wall?

37 replies

EsmeDiamond · 01/09/2010 21:59

Someone I know moaning, apparently "extremely pissed off about being given the wrong date for an operation". His reason for moaning is that he couldn't get as pissed as he wanted to at a wedding he was, basically slagging the NHS off saying how inefficient they were.

I have typed this reponse and I will bow to your opinion as to whether I should post it and then obviously de-friend him immediately Grin.

"Oh yes what a bummer for you. Why don't you try moving to the States or indeed any other country that does not provide any kind of accessible healthcare without making you choose between paying your rent/mortgage/bills/eating or a life saving operation. No offence but try thinking about it like that and it might give you a bit of perspective. A real shame you couldn't get as pissed as you wanted on this particular occasion, what selfish arses those underpaid NHS staff are!"

So dare I? It is all typed and ready to go.

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zandy · 01/09/2010 22:00

No. YOu'll end up looking a bigger arse than he does.

MyCatIsABiggerBastardThanYours · 01/09/2010 22:02

I'd probably put something along the lines of 'well at least it's free' and leave it at that. In fact, I would probably say it to his face and not broadcast it across the net.

So I guess my advice is, you are right in what you say but you'll just look santimonious if you post it.

BitOfFun · 01/09/2010 22:03

Agree with zandy. Just defriend the knobber anyway if he irks you.

purplewednesday · 01/09/2010 22:03

Yes. I get really hacked off with pts who think that the NHS owes them a favour.

2shoes · 01/09/2010 22:04

yabu
people are allowed to have a moan about a service that is not free, it is payed by taxes

TrillianAstra · 01/09/2010 22:06

What MyCat said.

curlymama · 01/09/2010 22:06

No. I think it's reasonable that if you are unlucky enough to have to need an operation, then it would be nice for that not very nice event too spoil a lovely event that presumable you are looking forward too.

I do take the point of your reply, but it's harsh and uncalled for. Your friend can be grateful to receive free treatment at the same time as being pissed off about the timing of it.

curlymama · 01/09/2010 22:07

Or even presumably!

loopyloops · 01/09/2010 22:08

No.

vanitypear · 01/09/2010 22:09

Well put curly. YABU. It also makes you look a bit ranty and weird. Sorry - it obviously touched a nerve!

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EsmeDiamond · 01/09/2010 22:09

Its not only the moaning, he has a very unhealthy lifestyle and this is why he is having to have the operation in the first place. Just can't stand this attitude that it is up to the NHS to sort everything out and if they don't do everything totally to suit someone then they are "ineficent" (as he said).

Ok I won't post it.

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Original poster
EsmeDiamond · 01/09/2010 22:10

Yes, I used to work for the NHS so it did bug me a bit.

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SingItBack · 01/09/2010 22:10

I think you might sound a bit of a dick posting that. There are much more subtle ways to put your point across, which I agree, is a very valid one.

Sidge · 01/09/2010 22:12

I would be tempted to put 'get your priorities right'.

RonansMummy · 01/09/2010 22:13

YABU I think its reasonable to be annoyed about being messed around on dates.

Original poster
EsmeDiamond · 01/09/2010 22:14

I asked my mate if I should put it and she said "you are too used to being MN, Facebook is not a forum and I don't think G would appreciate that kind of ranting!" Grin.

She is probably right.

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deakell · 01/09/2010 22:19

That particular response is a little long.

You could just put a "stop moaning" if you felt you had to express your discontent with his moaning, but other than that, just remove him from your list of friends so you don't have to see it anymore.

I've removed about 10 people in the last few weeks who are forever moaning, about anything and everything. Bad enough in itself, wanting fucking sympathy all the time, but they bloody well write it in text speak.

Aaaarrgh

sleepingsowell · 01/09/2010 22:21

Why are you friends with such a loser? Just delete him and don't be friends with people who are so ghastly. End of problem.

skooobie · 01/09/2010 22:25

do it!

oranges · 01/09/2010 22:29

the NHS is not "free" - its paid for by our taxes, so we can expect a reasonable level of service. Not saying your mate is being reasonable, but its a bit much to expect people not to complain as its 'free'

TechLovingDad · 01/09/2010 22:33

Why anyone thinks having a debate, or argument, on Facebook is a good idea is beyond me.

Just remove them.

Some of my friends frequently get pissed off with other "friend's" status updates. Why? What's the point?

BettySuarez · 01/09/2010 22:51

Pehaps you could post "sorry to hear that, are your piles playing you up again? Hugs"

hmc · 01/09/2010 22:56

I'm with TechLovingDad.

Pushmeinthepool · 01/09/2010 23:19

I agree with Techlovingdad

Also, the NHS isn't free; we all pay for it with our taxes.

Rockbird · 01/09/2010 23:21

I'm always confused by the vitriol expressed by people towards their FB 'friends'. If you hate them that much then delete them rather than slagging them off on another forum. And that reply would make you look like a tit, not your friend.