To be really shocked at the way SS has behaved?

[phoenixflower]

I am worried about the situation being recognised but would really appreciate some advice on what ( if anything) I can do as feel totally stuck.

Will try and keep it as brief as pos so it is less recognisable.

Friend's dd talked to her teacher about things at home, school reported on to SS and friend had a visit from SS. They had 2 young crap girls visit who looked round the house, interviewed her dd on her own, talked to my friend etc and after all their pointless questioning etc, they have concluded that her DD is clearly in a loving home and is not in danger etc.

It's absolute bollocks as I know she has hit her DD on numerous occasions as she had told me herself how angry she gets with her etc.

It is not a loving home most of the time as she cannot stand her DD most of the time and I can't believe she has been able to pull the wool over their eyes and make things appear hunky dory.

What can I do now? I feel totally helpless about the situation as I know what is going on at home but SS have been for a visit and have said all is fine?

I can't just do nothing but feel I have no options? If I report back to SS she will A) know it was me and B) SS won't be interested as they have just witnessed for themselves what a 'loving' home it is.

Yabvu

these social workers that you are maligning (were you there when they visited? How do you know they were "girls"?) are people who were trying to evaluate a situation with incomplete information, not wizards blessed with second sight.

How can you have expected them to see what you know from a decade of acquaintance?

Imagine how differently they would have interpreted what they saw and heard had they arrived with a report from you as well as one from the school.

To be withholding this information and then angry that it hasn't been used in the decision the sws had to make is placing the blame in the wrong place.

agree with skidoodly, witholding is also quite irresponsible.

but im not sure what you want op - did you just want us all to say 'oh yah ss are just sooo crap arn't they and all sw are rubbish rah rah'

how does that help the child?

Hi Altinkum, am on my phone ATM as went on hols this morn and Internet is temperamental and typif on my phone is a bit difficult. Will answe thread when I am back :)