Would I be unreasonable to scream down the phone to DH demanding he come back?

[AmazingBouncingFerret]

DH is at a stag weekend, he has been gone since Friday afternoon and doesnt come back till late Monday afternoon.

Since he's been gone the children have played up, DD wont go down to sleep as easily as she usually does and DS is refusing to sleep in his own bed.

Im in major stress about sisters wedding and where relatives are going to be sleeping the night before (they coming from oop north)

It all sounds very trivial when I type it like that but add the fact that ive been in work all day yesterday and today and have had to organise childcare for today and pick up DC's from childminder yesterday (I dont drive yet) I jsut really struggled, im finding it hard to carry anything now that im back at work and basically feel like jacking it all in and disappearing off somewhere! (on my own of course!)

WIBU to ask DH to come home?

It would wouldnt it...

Yes. It would. Very.

yes, it would

It would be VVVVVVVU.

Don't do it.

Just make sure you've planned a weekend away for yourself and your closest girlfriend(s) in the very near future.

have a ((hug))

psst- we have a mutual overall employer.

When is the wedding? Not this next week? forget it for now.

Think how proud you'll be of yourself if you don't call him

Probably, though I do sympathise. I'm a lone mum and it's often similar in this house wrt chaos, responsibilities and children playing merry hell.

Sometimes when this comes up people will ask how the hell you think lone parents cope day in day out but that doesn't make it any the less hard for you at the moment.

Can you bite the children bullet and store up your hard work in guilt brownie points so that you have perfect justification in organising a weekend away alone/with friends and leaving DH with the children for a weekend soon?

yes it woukd. presumably he gave you plenty of notice.

yabu

YWBU

Don't do it!
Put ds in your bed tonight.

YABU

Sometimes yu just have to get on with it, its only for a few days.

Then sort yourself a girls weekend away somewhere

Wedding is next Sunday.
My mum has already told me off saying not to worry about it. Gah.

Things will be better in the morning. I'll drug myself up on painkillers and maybe stop at my mum and dads tomorrow night.

Im such a loser cant even hack a few nights alone without DH. I should be used to it, he works away often, yet this time things have been a bit harsh.

Are you serious about asking him to come home or are you venting? One part of your post sounds quite desperate but you end it on a light note. Not sure what your situation is...

So ... he's been gone a little over 24 hours, have I got that right?

oh im venting about asking him to come home. He wouldnt even if I asked lol!

I do often feel quite desperate tbh. But I cant change the things I struggle with so I do make light of it. But sometimes the crappiness of my condition becomes a bit too much.
(god that sounds so depressing!)

ok, so you have just started back to work after mat leave; you are taking painkillers; you didn't get home until later than normal and your dc are playing up becasue they can sense you are stressed. Not u to feel like that, but why not take your mum up on the offer?

Why are you on painkillers?

Yes it would be out of order to ask him to come back.

Nutella (im intrigued about our mutual employer, shall quiz you one day) I have very severe scoliosis and also have Diastematomyelia which is a split spinal cord, which has caused Neuropathy.

Im due spinal fusion and rib shortening in a few months time, which im absolutely shitting myself about because I have 1 in 80 risk of paralysis.

Ouch, that sounds horrid Ferret. I hope that the painkillers work in the short term and that the op is an absolute success.

You definitely deserve some r 'n r with friends when DH returns.

OP that sounds awful, go and stay with parents for a break tmorrow.

Take your parents up on their offer. You have spinal problems and let's face it a lot of our job involves bending to pick up and lifting I'm not surprised you are in pain.

Don't call. Let him have a great time. Then plan a trip away yourself :)

Nutella, do you work for the TakerOverer? Or the BendOverBackwardsWe'llDoItYourWayer?

I wouldn't because him calling me on one of my weekends away for anything less than a hospital trip would go down like a lead balloon.

you big sister co