I belong to a mother and baby group, originally met through health visitor. We meet up at each others houses once a month or so. Some mothers I like more than others but we all get on. It is DS's 3rd birthday. I invited all the other children (and parents) in the group round to my house for a small party. I have a small lounge, big dining room (which we have been using as as tudy/ dumping ground while husband sets up his business etc. I have taken today off to clear and tidy dining room ready for party.
Got an email from one of the other mothers who said that she felt my house was not suitable as she needs to manage two children (she has a toddler and a baby) and could we meet at one of the other mums houses which has a playroom, is bigger etc She says the other mum (who she has approached) is fine with it.
I explained that I had worked a lot to clear the room etc but just ended up being quite defensive, and said I would mull it over.
I am aware that I am not the most tidiest of people and work to the 'good enough' principle, perhaps which is why I feel quite (perhaps irrationally) upset . Does this other mum reallyfeel that my house is not tidy/ too small.
AIBU to feel upset over this? How should I respond?