thinking dp was wrong delaying dds bedtime?

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dd 3.1 needs 11 hours sleep at night and doesnt nap in the day.

dd starts nursery in 2 weeks and has 12.15 start so i need her up at 7am for breakfast so she will be slightly hungry by 11.30 for a very early lunch before walkng to nursery.
i explained this to dp and have been bathing her at 7pm so se is asleep by 8pm to get her ready for this new routine.

tonight his parents visited, asked them to come at 6 as dd baths at 7.
they came at 6.20 so at 7 when i mentioned bathing dd, dp said she will be alright for a bit, i finally got her in the bath at 7.30 and she has just fallen asleep.
dp cant understand why im pissed off that tomorrow dd wont wake till 7.45 and my ne routine is out.

im a sahm, its me who will need to be getting her to nursery on time, dp works fulltime, went straight to the gym after work and got in the same time his parents turned up so has spent 1 hr with dd today but thinks he should say when she goes to bed.

aibu?

oblomov, i thnk you'll find i gave it a rest a long time ago, about when i said im chilled now and wil try to relax but was tired and hormonal, i can hardly walk with achy hips/back and dd is an energetic 3 yr old.
but thanks anyway

I agree with later posts - all in all, YANBU, for the reasons summarised by inveterate & others. The small interuption of the routine is not a big deal but his inconsiderate behaviour and rubbishing of your wishes is. Poor old you. I am also pregnant, knackered and grumpy, and if DH called me hormonal I'd hit him with half a brick.

I'm actually shocked you want her up early I understand needing breakfast but trust me if you had a dc up EVERY day at 6-630am you'd be loving it.

If she wakes at 8am naturally it will not harm her to have a large breakfast, moderate snack/lunch at 11.30am then again at 4ish whens she's home. Not that tomorrow will matter.

My ds is first and only child and I always wanted to have the 'routine' and although I do still have one I'm happier and so's he now we have give or take.

OP yanbu to be cross that dh went against what you'd discussed but I would advise you to reliquish the rope a bit as when you have a newborn you may find they need feeding at 7pm then your preplanned routine will need to change anyway.

Best of luck for iminent arrival.

YANBU for wanting her in bed as early as possible if you are feeling tired. But a bit U for not chilling a bit, but you know that. Sticking rigidly to a routine is bloody knackering too sometimes.

I bet she has a great time at nursery and will get into your new routine quite naturally once she's tired from all the exciting things happening there. I remember the stress of getting food into DS1 before nursery etc etc. Unfortunately for DS2 (who starts nursery next week) I'm a bit slacker now and he will just have to manage if he's not hungry at 11.30! I can't wait for a couple of hours off...hahaha...Until DH realises and makes me get a job.

I would also let her sleep until she wants to in the mornings. You will really welcome that when new baby arrives. Like others have said you could give her a big breckie then snacks before nursery. [she will probably have a snack at nursery too?]

Im at SAHM and used to get annoyed with DH messed with my routine did his own thing. However someone pointed out to me that surely as her Dad, he should be allowed to have some input?

I decided that as long as DH made it very clear to DDs that eg letting them eat in front of DVD was his treat, then that was fine. I think a 3 year old can understand this.

It also made me feel better-it took the pressure off me, as I wasnt the only one responsible for blooming everything to do with DC!!

YABU I'm afraid,

BTW I hope your DD gets on well at nursery and all the best with the new baby.

Try not to worry, she will settle into her new nursery routine soon.

All the best.

thank you all, you have a point that a big breakfast and then a snack at 11 might work as she will have fruit at nursery.