to want to thump the next person who sighs 'three boys: how do you cope?'

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I'm sick of it!

Nah, I have 3 girls, I get a lot of

"your poor husband"
and
"all those weddings"
and
"all those hormones"
and
"all that fighting"
and
"all that hair"...

three kids are hard work period

And people sometimes are simply looking for conversation. I had a friend in england who was getting wildly pissed off because when she expected her third people would ask her "how come you decided to have another one, you already have a boy AND a girl" !!!!!

So, YANBU to get annoyed, but people will say a lot of things that don't make sense, so I'd just shrug it off. Say something along the lines of "what child is easy to cope with?" and change the subject

No, YANBU. I even think some mothers of boys conspire along with this idea that they are more of a handful.

But anything out of the two children, one of each norm provokes comment doesn't it? It's like people talking about the weather - they're just making conversation but they don't realise how annoying it is to hear the same thing over and over (I had a tiny baby and got really fucked off with loads of people saying "Isn't he small?" - my brother in law said I should reply "no, he's just far away" which I thought was brilliant but never had the nerve to use).

Everyone I meet says 'my he's big for his age.' Gee, thanks, I hadn't noticed that my 14 month old is the same height as a friend of his who is nearly 3!

Of course, they say that and then eye my 5'2"ness and say 'takes after Daddy, then, eh?'

I always want to burst into tears and say 'I wouldn't know, there were so many men....'

People are generally just trying to make conversation, these are not big meaningful comments or criticisms to dwell on, just throwaway comments / smalltalk.

A mistake to read anything into it or get annoyed IMO

is it because it is sssooo hard?
poor you.

people say odd shit all the time just to make chat. I bet some of us have even done it.

I get "oh, he has SN.......

but he is so handsome"
how awful for you"
weren't you brave to have another one"
when will he go into a home"

...

People reach for small talk and miss

It would be very sad if polite small talk died out and to be honest, that's all this is. You'd complain if people remained silent and didn't show any interest in you or your children. They don't mean to be mean and they don't know you have heard it before. What's the alternative? social silence? That would be a very sad day.

I have two boys and I'm knackered. Someone saying three is hard work is actually trying to be sympathetic and kind to you. YABU.

Oh.

I have two boys, who are lovely and lively.

I might have been the one saying that.

Obviously would be shocked and surprised if you thumped me!

YABU!!! and scary.

well I'm sure it's no reflection on your boys

I get that all the time, as well as ........

"Are you going to try for a girl"

Erm, no, three is quite enough thanks.

I have 3 boys and I LOVE the fact they are mummies boys.

I also tell people I love noise, chaos and an upside down house, just not the fact the started turning me grey when I was 28!!!

I get that all the time with just two boys!

People say this regardless of the gender of your DC. In Sainsburys yesterday, with DS and 2 DD's I got two

'you have your hands full' and a
'bet you cant wait for the holidays to end'.

It's just stuff that people say. Sometimes I smile politely and sometimes I comment back.

The 'cant wait for them to be back at school' irritates me. If I didnt like having my DC around why would I have had them?

But YABU, there's no need to thump someone for being predictable in their conversation is there?

people are just making conversation.

My usual response when pople ask me how I cope is "I find a bottle of vodka a day helps".

True 5inthebed, but I say wine

I don't actually like vodka, don't drink the ghastly stuff.

I haven't since I was a teenager and got sick