To think DP's therapist has more than a professional interest in him?

[ReformedCharacter]

DP has been seeing a therapist for about 6 weeks now. He goes every week and they talk and she gives him some homework. His homework is always something to do with going to watch an Arsenal football match - so, stuff like searching online, phoning the ticket office to find out prices, speaking to other people about matches etc... It sounds odd, I know, but I believe it's helping him.

Last week his homework was to phone someone every day and try to keep a conversation going for 10 minutes - this is to help him overcome his phone phobia. She has given him her mobile telephone no. and told him to call her at 8am in the morning while she's on her way to work if he can't think of anyone else to ring. I said nothing about this but I thought it was a bit odd. He did phone her, but only because he had to reschedule today's appt.

So, today he came home from seeing her and he was very pleased with himself. He announced that his therapist has 3 tickets to go and see Arsenal - cue me wondering why he needs 3 tickets when this was always supposed to be an outing for just him and DS. I'm embarrassed to say that I assumed the extra ticket was for me. Then he said that his therapist needed to clear it with her boss first , and that she would be going along with her friend and that the extra ticket was for DP . So her, her mate and DP. That's a bit strange isn't it? Personally I can't see her supervisor ok'ing it.

Am I being unreasonable because I'm not exactly thrilled about this?

It sounds unlikely he'd leave you if he's too scared to go out alone. He sounds quite hard work to me.
It sounds as though you maybe need to see someone to work on your self esteem though so you don't feel inferior to him, otherwise when the relationship dynamics change if he gets better and more confident you will start becoming the clingy, neurotic one.

I studied Counselling and Psychotherapy for 3 years although i have not worked as a therapist yet (i hope to in time).

This sounds very very unprofessional, the 'client' should not become dependant on the therapist in any way, be it phonecalls or meetings. She should be encouraging his independance by all means but not encouraging a dependant relationship upon herself.
I would be very tempeted to talk to the therapist directly myself, she would not be able to comment due to confidentiality but i would bet that meeting clients and handing out her mobile number is NOT regular practice.
During my time studying we were repeatedly told it would be unprofessional to give out our mobile number never mind anything beyond.

YANBU your husbands therapist should not have given out her number or be attending football matches with him, this has nothing to do with therapy and all to do with this woman fostering a friendship with your husband outside of therapy. I would actually suggest he be reffered to a therapist who can work withing an ethical and moral framework and who can respect professional boundaries.

ITake care.

I'm a CBT therapist the phone thing sounds normal, I've also done behavioural experiments with patients in the community, gone with them on a bus, gobe to cafe etc. mainly for anxiety and OCD related issues. i think you need to check it out a bit further.

She could just be trying to get a football trip funded by NHS funds mind you, a bit cheeky!

I can understand in certain areas of CBT therapy (like with extreme anxiety,or OCD)maybe needing to do something occasional outside of the office environment but as minxofmancunia says i would definately check things out further and not be fobbed of.
Wonder what the therapist's mentor would make of it.

ReformedCharacter: WTF? How is some numpty with zero social skills, who can't pick up a phone without an army of therapists holding his hand, a 'good catch'?
Look, OK, sorry to all the billions of people with social phobias and other mental health issues who need a lot of therapeutic intervention but has it occurred to you that this bloke 'stood by you' when you were an active alcoholic because no one else would have him?
You are not a failure or a bad person. You beat your alcoholism. Your H may well be not a bad person either and he is at least having therapy for his own issues and making the effort and all that. Just don't fall into the trap of thinking that he matters more than you and you have to indulge his whims and issues at your own expense.