to not allow my dd have her hair highlighted?

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My 14 yo dd wants her hair highlighted. She has been asking since she was 10, and I'm still saying no.

AIBU?

My reasons for saying no - one is the maintenance, once it's been done, it'll have to be done regularly, and that's additional out going costs. And two she's a pretty girl she doesn't need it.

But I say the cost one as someone who doesn't have her own hair done regularly - just not that way inclined, I don't have my own hair dyed, and do not maintain it with trips to hairdressers, bar 4 trips a year for a tidy up.

My dd currently has her hair cut every school term, and hasn't asked for that more regularly.

So AIBU? over to you MN jury.

YANBU

If she can afford to pay for it herself, then fine, but I'm not really sure why you should pay for this - except as a birthday or christmas present. As mentioned by a previous poster, I think this is something to be saved for when you can afford it yourself. Otherwise she'll only be upset when she goes to uni/moves out and can't afford it any more!

Don't be influenced by the fear of home dye kits - as said previously it's a rite of passage and will grow out (plus if you point out that it tends to result in the badger look that should put her off).