Background: Friends of the family. The mother and father (let's call them Jean and Jim) are in their fifties, they have three daughters in their twenties. The middle daughter, let's call her Jenny, is twenty two, married, and pregnant.
Jim seems to have a particular 'favoritism' where Jenny is concerned. My mother worked with Jim and when he was away on business she needed to open a password-protected document. Jim phoned and told my mum the password was 'Jennybaby'. Could be normal, could be weird, but in this context it felt creepy. Read on...
On Jenny's 21st birthday, she was wearing a very short dress. I was at the party and Jim said 'Any shorter and I'll need to give you a haircut' - meaning her pubic hair, of course. I've heard the haircut joke before but he was going to give it? Weird. Jenny and Jean both laughed.
In the run up to Jenny's wedding, Jim gave her a gift of underwear for her wedding day. From Ann Summers, it was explicitly 'naughty' underwear. I know because Jean thought it was hilarious and put a photo on her facebook page. Jenny laughed it off in a comment on facebook e.g. 'Better not tell [future husband] that dad bought those!'
In the wedding photos and video, there's one scene of Jenny and her father. He's standing behind her, really fondling her breasts in his hands. In a sort of Benny Hill, caper kind of way. She was saying 'Dad, behave!' and he said 'Tits out for the lads, Jen!', pulling at the straps of her dress. It seemed so inappropriate.
In his father of the bride speech, he went on and on about how lucky Jenny's husband would be on the wedding night, and spoke in innuendo about the kind of oral sex Jenny might give him. It made me feel really uncomfortable to hear, other guests thought he was pissed and inappropriate, but I feel that he acts towards Jenny in a very sexualized manner.
I'm thinking about it now because Jenny is expecting her first baby and Jim keeps commenting very negatively about how her fanjo will never be the same again.
Am I being unreasonable to think their relationship is somewhat inappropriate? It makes my skin crawl.