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to be in desperate need of completely uncritical sympathy?

31 replies

Goddammit · 19/08/2010 23:32

I've had a bugger of a day. DS has tanked his a levels (hey, who said everyone gets As these days - not in our house!) and now has disappeared off with his Totally Unsuitable Friend on what looked to me like a spliff and booze bender in the rain. Meanwhile younger DS who has Asperger's and possible ADHD has been kicking off so much that by 8am today I had had a total mummy meltdown and screamed at him like a fishwife, which of course brings out the best in him, ahem. Took the younger kids to toy story 3 this afternoon and just slept through it I was so knackered. The house is a bombsite and I have just had to cancel this weekend's visitors as I truly cannot cope with them. DH is being a twat and to top it all I think all this crying, yelling and ranting on my part might be the beginning of the menopause. I feel pathetically sorry for myself...

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scottishmummy · 19/08/2010 23:43

sounds like a bloody hard day for all,is your son ok

chins up.live to face another day. sleep on it and weigh up his options

Greensleeves · 19/08/2010 23:45

what a horrible day you have had Sad

warm bath, glass of wine, toasty slippers and a good novel?

lots of sympathy here from me, days like that are hellish, and self-pity is TOTALLY in order.

Buzzybb · 19/08/2010 23:45

Poor you, exam days and results are crappy esp when they only concentrate on those that do really well, your DS will find his way and be the best he can be doing what he loves in time this is just 1 day and 1 exam of his life,
So you yelled that is ok we all do it, remember you also gave them a lovely afternoon and tbh it is not so good that you missed anything but I do admire that you managed to doze off.
Forget the house, do the wash up and put on a load of laundry.
Men tend to be twats esp when they are upset, ignore go pour a glass of wine/ make a cup of tea and find a bar of choc and enjoy while checking your diary to reschedule friends
And go to bed and try and get some sleep/rest, tomorrow is a new day
I dread the day my lot have to do exams

Mowiol · 19/08/2010 23:47

Awww - this too will pass. honest. "There's a day not been touched" Ignore the house for the moment. Have a gin and tonic/glass of wine. It'll be fine. I'm at the start of the menopause - it's not so bad really. Have a big old cry and a good night's sleep and it really will be better tomorrow.

sharbie · 19/08/2010 23:47

tomorrow will be better - sorry to hear it has been crap today

Ronaldinhio · 19/08/2010 23:49

If only i were there

i wish you a wine and a rest

kayah · 19/08/2010 23:50

maybe go to the garden and have breath of fresh air :)

not sure if you can see any stars tonight

I feel for you....

maryz · 19/08/2010 23:51

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Bunnyjo · 19/08/2010 23:59

Oh Goddammit, please accept my very uncritical sympathy and a very un-mumsnet like (((hug)))...

Hope you're feeling better tomorrow.

ChippingIn · 20/08/2010 00:09

Goddammit - completely and totally uncritical sympathy and huge hugs - wine & chocolate.

As they say, tomorrow is a whole new day.

Hopefully you have gone to bed and are getting some sleep, if not, tell DH it's his job to wait up for DS (if you feel one of you has to).

curlymama · 20/08/2010 00:16

You are allowed to feel sorry for yourself. Have some sympathy from me too xx

ragged · 20/08/2010 01:21

Well, on the bright side, your teenager didn't total the car, your other son still loves you, you didn't destroy your voice with all that shouting, you got a nap in the afternoon, and you have a lot less cleaning and cooking that needs doing tomorrow and this weekend.

See? It's just a matter of seeing the glass as half-full :).

Jamieandhismagictorch · 20/08/2010 01:29

This too shall Pass. Uncritical sympathy from me heading your way ......

Totally agree with maryz that I cope better when I don't care so much.

Schnitzel · 20/08/2010 09:26

I felt like weeping just reading your post. I really hope you have a better day today.

MassiveBumperlicious · 20/08/2010 09:39

OH dear, complete sympathy from me too. Today is another (hopefully better) day :)

Alouiseg · 20/08/2010 09:42

The day that just keeps giving. It must have been bloody awful to hear everyone being snide about a level results. So you have my first ever mumsnet hug to start today. I hope that you can start today afresh.

Bugger the house. Even if you clear it all and clean it all it will just need doing all over again in 6 months time. :)

Lizcat · 20/08/2010 09:46

Hope you had a large G and T last night. Number 1 all male members of the species are naturally crap with occasional good bits. Teenage boys are really good at hiding the good bits.

However, as the wife of a male who totally disappointed his parents with A-levels (an E, a U and an N) sometime in the last 16 years he some how managed to pull himself out of the spliff/ booze fuel benders get a job and make a success of himself. They get there in the end just not by a very direct route. And when I talk to many of DH's friends this is a very common pattern.
Well done for concelling your visitors and giving yourself some space.

BuntyPenfold · 20/08/2010 10:41

hope today is better for you. If it is any consolation, my (allegedly) very bright son with good grades in everything has written off 2 cars - not so clever then.
Sending hugs and sympathy.

cupcakesandbunting · 20/08/2010 10:47
proudnsad · 20/08/2010 10:47

Hope you're feling better today!
You had a bitch of day yesterday and deserved the unbridled sympathy you asked for. Y were NBU!

ginnybag · 20/08/2010 11:03

My lovely hubby got a D, two E's and an N at A-level.

He managed to lose his glasses on the bus home form a bender once - and didn't realise, he was so drunk. He has eyesight like a Mole.

Ten years later, we earn the same, he's been in a good job for eight years, is a fab father and looks back on his late teens with an 'Oh, God, what was I thinking grin'!

He'll find his way.

Beat your DH for being a knob, though. There's no need.

Hope you're feeling better today!

bumpsoon · 20/08/2010 11:10

Not sending hugs as i cant do it or air kissing ! but i am sending you a pointy splintery stick with which to beat your DH , calming thoughts for your ds with aspergers and the best idea ever to get into dragons den for your ds who didnt do fantastically well in his exams ,oh and a very big bottle of bombay saphire , a christmas size bar of galaxy , a pretty fan for future hot flushes and finally a wopping great sound proof shed ,you decide which side of the door you want to put your family Grin

bumpsoon · 20/08/2010 11:12

as for the fishwife bit ,i got caught screaming at my dh ' you bastard son of the fucking cunting devil' by the jehovahs witnesses ,they didnt leave a magazine Blush

Earthymama · 20/08/2010 11:34

Get outside for five minutes if you can, and take some deep breaths, I find that if I do this when I am overwrought it helps a bit.

You have much uncritical sympathy from me, along with many blessings and good Welsh Cwtches.

It will pass and A-levels are not the be-all and end-all, however, it seems today.

Minda · 20/08/2010 11:59

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