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Original poster

was the doctor unreasonable to make me pay???

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annoyeddotcom · 17/08/2010 19:50

i'm married, 2 kids and had a split condom on sun night. called doctors on monday wouldn't see me for the emergency pill. told to ring today and spoke to the nurse who called thro to doctor who apparently shouted at her for interrupting him Shock and he wouldn't see me so have ended up having to pay £27.50 in boots for the emergency pill.

absolutely ashamed, having to pour out my sexual accident to a 20 something pharmacist- MAN- who seemed as embaressed as me!

Please tell me I am not bu!!!!!!

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annoyeddotcom · 17/08/2010 20:40

40nappies- i think that was quite a horrible comment, i do not like to discuss my sex life with strangers that is not immature in the slightest. i am a very private person therefore- regardless whether they have seen 100 women like me that day, i felt it degrading.

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expatinscotland · 17/08/2010 20:45

'40nappies- i think that was quite a horrible comment, i do not like to discuss my sex life with strangers that is not immature in the slightest. i am a very private person therefore- regardless whether they have seen 100 women like me that day, i felt it degrading.'

Oh please.

Hmm

Asking for MAP is not 'discussing your sex life' and a pharmacist is a trained professional, not a tramp in a bus shelter asking you detailed questions.

If you're that 'private' you really need to get some other contraception in place to use in addition to condoms until your spouse gets the all-clear post vasectomy.

Copper coil, spermacides, NuvaRing, cap/diaphragm, etc.

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annoyeddotcom · 17/08/2010 20:51

i've just googled nuvaring as not heard of that one. i have a list of reasons why i can't use hormonal contraceptive, one being breast cancer and i have a severe reaction to spremicides thats why i have to use condoms, without the spremicide. i am not irrresponsible when it comes to contraception just a bit unlucky with my medical history. surely it is personal choice whether i would like to ask for map in a private room or at a busy pharmacy desk.

and yes i know that map is a hormonal drug however apparently it is fine for past medical history as it is not a prolonged dose.

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MaamRuby · 17/08/2010 20:52

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expatinscotland · 17/08/2010 20:52

copper coil has no hormones.

scottishmummy · 17/08/2010 20:52

behave!do not like to discuss my sex life with strangers.mn is open internet forum the wee wummin next door could be reading this

the pharmacist hears about puss,itches,sti all damn day.your contraception drama is probably welcome respite

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 17/08/2010 20:53

No it wasn't a horrible comment. What discussing does there need to be, seriously?

You just say 'I need the morning after pill please', they ask you when your contraceptive failure was, you tell them. End of discussion.

prozacfairy · 17/08/2010 20:55

Doctor didn't have to be so harsh but I'd have gone to Boots or wherever in the first place. 30 odd quid is a lot to me too but raising a baby cost a hell of a lot more than £30! so you know, YABU.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 17/08/2010 20:55

You can ask to speak to a pharmacist privately you know, they all have big signs up saying just that. So you don't have to ask infront of a queue of people if you don't want to.

expatinscotland · 17/08/2010 20:55

'surely it is personal choice whether i would like to ask for map in a private room or at a busy pharmacy desk.'

Surely the onus is on the service user to ring round the pharmacies to find one that offers such a service? Not everyone cares or wants/needs a private room, not all pharmacies have the space to provide them.

Ring round and find one.

Ring round and find one that offers female pharmacists.

lyns2 · 17/08/2010 21:00

gosh I am astounded by the level of support this lady getting on here(hmm)
sisterly solidarity eh?
Said it in previous post but will say it again.IMO you were not being either unreasonable or irresponsible to ask gp for the map. so nah nah nah nah to all you haters

Sidge · 17/08/2010 21:01

"No it wasn't a horrible comment. What discussing does there need to be, seriously?

You just say 'I need the morning after pill please', they ask you when your contraceptive failure was, you tell them. End of discussion."

It's not that simple - you have to establish any other epsiodes of unprotected sex in that cycle, so you have to ask when the last period was, when (and if any other) episodes of unprotected sex were, what contraception is normally used, medical history (ECP is contraindicated for some women) and explain about how to take it and what to expect afterwards.

Tiredmumno1 · 17/08/2010 21:01

Yanbu,

it should be the same cost of a prescription, then there would be no need to waste anyones time.

money grabbing so and so's

and btw i do not think the op needs a lecture on contraception.

just like the pharmacies dont need to charge ridiculous amounts

Tiredmumno1 · 17/08/2010 21:04

Lol lyns - well said Grin

scottishmummy · 17/08/2010 21:09

lyns what is "sisterly solidarity"?misplaced notion all us burds stick together...just because are same gender

i see.beacuse somone is female.irrespective of situation described are we all supposed to rally round

yeah because thats reasonable

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annoyeddotcom · 17/08/2010 21:12

scottishmummy have you had a particularly shit day or something

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expatinscotland · 17/08/2010 21:12

'so nah nah nah nah to all you haters'

Hmm

'haters'?

Some people agree with certain people. Others do not. The emotion hate, however, is only rarely involved.

upahill · 17/08/2010 21:13

HARD HAT ALERT!

Oh Crikey!! Is it all going to kick off now!!

Animation · 17/08/2010 21:13

Annoyeddotcom I should imagine the root of all this - was that you felt quite shamed by the Doctor's reaction. There was no need for him to be so rude to the nurse.

Being humiliated like that must have made you angry. Going to the pharmacist and paying for the prescription probably wasn't what really bugged you.

scottishmummy · 17/08/2010 21:13

now whwre is your sisterly solidarity,like what lyns said,or do you only want folk to agree with you

mn is awash with dont disagree with me indignnation at the mo

Tiredmumno1 · 17/08/2010 21:13

Scottishmummy - nice to see you are your normal heartfelt self

GrinGrinGrin

expatinscotland · 17/08/2010 21:13

Post in AIBU and write, 'Please tell me I am not bu', then anyone who disagrees, round on them.

Okay.

lyns2 · 17/08/2010 21:14

sorry do not know what a burd is? are you referring to the lady who posted on here loking for some advice and support? Yes of course we are all entitled to our own opinions but imo the tone of this thread has taken a decidedly bitchy turn which was completely uncalled for.
As for sisterly solidarity surely that is clearly implied by the name of the site you are on? wink

scottishmummy · 17/08/2010 21:17

no its mumsnet,not kissmybahookie.net.mums and women are not a homogenous mass and gender doesnt confer shared values

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annoyeddotcom · 17/08/2010 21:19

i wasn't looking for you to kiss my arse, however so far i have been irresponsible for a condom splitting, a time waster, immature... if i scrolled back i'm sure there would be more, either you enjoy belittling people or you are looking for a fight regardless of how unoffending the post.

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