to think fuck fuck fuck is a bit much for a 10yr old

[domeafavour]

We have had visitors to stay over the weekend
A friend of DH and his 10year old son. Son had a bit of an accident getting a ball back from next door, and was shouting fuck fuck fuck. Dad was laughing!
Then all the boys sat around telling stories with lots of swearing and adult content!
I don't want my son to grow up like this.
Am I being horribly naive? You should curb your language right? or do 10 year olds swear?!

My adult children do swear in front of me,because they are ,well adults

People are so different with their children. I just had to leave the room cos he was saying he has told his boys that if they come home and announce they are gay.... Well actually I can't repeat what he said. Glad this guy is going home tomorrow!!!

But how do you stop them copying other people?
I hear kids out on the street all the time fing this and fing that. If DC's hear it from the mouths of otherchildren they will copy it.
My DS1 has shouted out swear words in the garden and I have taken him inside and put soap in his mouth. He stil does it though!

my son's 5 and the children in our street are around the same age,some older.i caught my son and his two friends(5 and 6)talking about things the other day of a sexual nature and swearing.fair play to my son he know's he's not to talk like that so it was mostly coming from his friends.it absolutely infuriated me and i made my son go indoors before i stomped off to the see the other twos mum.
when i spoke to her about it she didnt seem bothered,like it was natural.im not perfect and i do swear when pushed but to hear it coming out of my "baby's" mouth mortified me

I swear like a navvy when sans enfants, but I get apoplectically cats-bum face when the DC say "fart" or "Oh my God".

I expect them to hear swearwords at school, but woe betide if they repeat them in front of me.

It is about respect, and knowing when it's appropriate.

agree Brittany
My almost 18 year old would not swear infront of me - nor my other two teens- not nice swearing in kids

I heard a boy saying 'suck my dick you fucking bitch'!!! He was talking to his friend about someone. He was about 10-11. I was sooooo shocked!!

AlisonDubois "put soap in his mouth". Are you serious??

That's a far, far worse thing to do than swear!

YANBU. Children will swear if they heer others doing it. So yes adults should watch thier language and aslo not laugh if a 10 year old swears.

ds is 5 and i have noticed him chancing his luck with words like 'crap' and 'flipping' and 'bloody' as in bloody hell. but i have nipped them in the bud because his dad swears and he finds it amusing whn ds does it so i am trying to lay down the law so ds knows that none of it will be tolerated here. it isn't really about the words because flipping isn't really swearing but it the lack of respect that is shown when he uses it.

I try to be strict about swearing at school but have lost count of the amount of parents who either don't care about the language their children use or who actually condone it. Also hate Parents' Evenings when parents swear at their children in front of you.

My mum put soap in my mouth when I swore as a kid and it stopped me doing it again.
Soap in the mouth will not kill him BTW. Sometimes I think drastic old fashioned action is called for when sitting down and talking about it, the PC way, gets you nowhere.

might find a few reasons not to here

Hoping that this thread will slip away quietly AlisonDubois?

I have been quite sweary for a long time, but would bite my tongue in half before I would swear in front of my Mother, even a "bloody" makes me feel uncomfortable.

Alouiseg...no I don't want it to slip away quitely at all.
I completely stand by my actions. I cannot stand to hear young kids swearing, especially mine.
And I don't think there's anthing wrong with thinking that the 'it never did me any harm' phrase is true...even these days when we are surrounded by the PC brigade.
Sometimes having a sit down and a talk with kids just does not work....suppose that is what you would do.
Well what works for one does not work for all...horses for courses.

Well Alison, as he still swears, it obviously doesn't work, does it?

I think there is a happy medium between talking politely about not swearing and forcing a childs mouth open and putting soap in it.

YANBU at all. Did you tell ask them to stop?

Neither did sitting down and 'talking' about it the PC way

Is he still spitting as well?

Or blowing bubbles whenever he speaks?

Sorry - not really laughing. It's a bit of an odd thing to do really, putting soap in someone else's mouth on purpose.

I hate swearing and would not allow a ten year old to swear in my house.

My dh does sometimes which drives me nuts but my ten year old dd certainly never swears at home.

Alison I was made to eat soap at school, made me gag, it made me think my teacher was a bitch, I remember being in total shock.

Didn't stop me swearing, what did was my Mum explaing they are adult words to be used only by adults.

I still don't swear in fron of my mum.

PC way my arse. Put soap in a childs mouth is pointless and nasty.

Yes he is still spitting...not blowing bubbles though.
Look, if I thought for one minute that just talking would work, I would do it. But it doesn't.