to find it really irritating that every time somone posts in AIBU someone comes along and says 'I wouldn't post that in AIBU if I were you, you'll be flamed etc..'

[kittycat37]

I mean, AIBU really ISN'T that scary - GET OVER YOURSELVES.

Or am I BU?

I said that to someone today..so thanks for starting a thread about it..

I was being nice to someone who seemed fragile.

Don't know if YABU, but YAB RUDE.

yadnbu.

i think others like to think they are 'ard

yabu

If a poster could get better advice elsewhere then what's wrong with suggesting it.

Well, thanks to you as well!

Nice.

oops, that thanks was to Tiredmumno1

aibu is the moany old hag section of mumsnet

Oh come on fanjo dont take it to heart

Yes, so saw someone pregnant and upset about their mum posting there and said it might not be best there...pardon me for being considerate eh, just like to think I'm 'ard I suppose!

fanjo my first comment was to the people who do the flaming not yourself

Sorry Fanjo - really not meant to be personal at all, or about any particlar thread - I've had it said to me and I just thought it was funny because there's nowt scary about talking to strangers on net is there?

Well, I don't take it to heart and lose sleep over it if people are blatantly rude.

I just think they are twunts.

well fair enough kittycat, but Tiredmum had just seen that I thought it was about me, and still posted stuff, so my twunt comment still stands, to her anyway.

OMG, I wouldn't post this in AIBU! You gonna get flamed, girl.

So to clarify i think the flamers are twunts.

there is nowt wrong with advising posters to post on other parts of mn, thats what we are here for.

Yabu. It's not every time and it can be 'that scary' if you're on the receiving end.

well, if you weren't saying I am a twunt, I don't think you are a twunt

Soz fanjo i shoulda made that clear i seriously was not aiming that at you or others that give the advice

ok, sorry too

you shouldn't have posted in AIBU

you'll get flamed for this

well no, it really does make a difference where you post. I posted the same thing in two topics and got very different views - I don't know if different types of people hang out on different boards or if the boards just have different cultures themselves - but for eg 'AIBU to have an abortion' rather than 'I don't know if I can continue this pregnancy' - the poster will get very different responses and if she's in a bad emotional place it makes sense to advise her to post elsewhere.

YAmostlyBU, IMO. Sometimes people do post stuff on AIBU that would be handled better/more sensitively on a different board, especially if they appear to be in a fragile state.

However, sometimes people who appear to be in a fragile state are just spoiling for a fight to vent their anger etc. so they are in exactly the right place for that moment in time.

Eric is right - different people do hang out on different boards - some of the MNers never go near AIBU because of its "feisty" nature so much valuable advice could be lost by posting there instead of a more relevant board.

Well thumbwitch and Eric, I think the best thing about MN is the support available and as a relative newbie maybe I'm not so familiar with the difference in all the boards in terms of tone etc.

I would always want to be sensitive and supportive if someone is feeling fragile no matter where they posted and the majority of posters I've read seem to have that attitude.

What pisses me off is when it seems that someone has written 'ooer you going to get flamed here..' almost as a sort of green light to others and then..suprise suprise they get flamed. On the other hand, telling someone they might get better advice on another board is, of course, supportive and worthwhile.

kitty, I think you might be attributing cause and effect a bit wrong there - people only tend to put "you're going to get flamed" because they know from past thread experience that it is likely to happen. I can see that it would look like it's an open invitation to flame, but it really isn't - it's just knowing what presses some of the more rampant MNers' buttons, I guess.

Glad you're finding MN supportive though - it is a great place, really. :)

im glad you started this thread i posted my first aibu today and was surprised at some of the harsh comments i got but most were really lovely and really helped me , im still feeling fragile though ds is only six weeks old and im very sleep deprived will be back to my feisty self soon hopefully lol mumsnet has been invaluable to me during pregnancy and sleepness nights

im glad you started this thread i posted my first aibu today and was surprised at some of the harsh comments i got but most were really lovely and really helped me , im still feeling fragile though ds is only six weeks old and im very sleep deprived will be back to my feisty self soon hopefully lol mumsnet has been invaluable to me during pregnancy and sleepness nights