To think that skinny doesn't equal pretty?

[MandyMcFly]

One of the prettiest most attractive women I know, is not super skinny, a size 14 she is. Lovely curves and a beautiful face.

A girl I know said about her today 'Yeah, she'd be lovely if she was skinny'

No, she's lovely the way she is. And whilst there are plenty of very slim women who are stunning, I dont think that you have to neccesarily be skinny.

Unfortunately it seems that in this society you have to be really thin to be considered beautiful and glamourous. I am a size 12, and spend so much time feeling worthless because I'm not as thin as I'd like to be, and that's not right is it. Im happy with every other aspect and that's enough for me!

So to all women who are not as small as maybe they want to be, you can still be just as beautiful, the most stunning woman I know is a size 14.

Don't judge a book by it's cover, this includes people I think. Pretty is not as important as being compassionate and honest.

Skinny doesn't particularly mean being pretty - but fat definetely doesn't. (IMO)

Fat is not attractive but being skinny doesn't make them pretty.

I wish I could find the self-confidence you 'sex goddesses' have, of whatever shape and size.

Someone up the thread said pretty was a state of mind - I truly agree.

I lost my extra weight earlier this year, back to around 9 and a half stone and a size 12 (5ft6) - the size I was in my twenties. I was thrilled for about 2 weeks. Then I remembered I still had a face like a hatchet.

And then it bothers me that I even care. I have a husband, we're happy, what does it matter that I don't feel I stand out in a crowd?

Oh good and my introspective moaning has killed the thread. Will go and eat cake...

Xenia was your comment directed at me? If it was what a wierd thing to say!

And AuntieB - face like a hatchet, thats a new one to me! Well done on your weight loss, sorry that you feel that way. It's true that you shouldn't care, but its much easier said than done, so much seems to be about looks in this day and age (that makes me sound very old!)

I think being too thin looks equally bad as being too fat, there is definitely a happy medium, which for women of an average height I would say is usually a size 8 to 18, depending on how well the weight is carried.

My friend is a size 8-10, fairly curvy, she has a fabulous personality and is very pretty. Her sisters are the subject of much envy from her and a lot of our women friends. They are extremely thin, constantly trying to be thinner (maybe a size 4 currently) and all hair extensions, tan, make up and accessories. I think they are the sort of woman who looks attractive until you see their faces close up, very gaunt and old looking. I was shocked to find out one was only 30 recently, she looks very close to 40! Odd that women are jealous when men seem to despise them and think they are rude. They never get approached on nights out as the are too busy concentrating on how they look to have a good time.

Nigella Lawson is very attractive and I think it comes from that fact she is comfortable in her own skin and with her own size.

"Unfortunately it seems that in this society you have to be really thin to be considered beautiful and glamourous. I am a size 12, and spend so much time feeling worthless because I'm not as thin as I'd like to be"

No you don't OP - that is just your society, not society at large.

Considered attractive by whom? People like your small minded friend?
Instead of worrying about what everyone else thinks, why don't you worry about yourself? You say you feel worthless because you are a size 12!!!!! Why not focus on that statement, changing yourself so your sense of worth isn't all tied up on being an unrealistic/unobtainable size. That is a very hateful comment you made about yourself there.

Do you read a lot of 'woman's/celebrity magazines' perchance? You could start feeling better about yourself by stopping reading them.