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Original poster

To put dh's tea in the bin?

40 replies

deaddei · 13/08/2010 19:16

Before he went out to the pub at 5pm, he called me a bit wobbly.
Now bearing in mind I weigh 11 stone 5 and am 6 feet tall, and was feeling pretty good about myself- I have tossed his portion of the frittata I had made in the bin.
He's due back about 9- there is NOTHING in the house to eat, not even bread for toast. So he'll have to have cornflakes.
Bloody bastard. He's not exactly Mr Six Pack.

OP posts:
Lulumaam · 13/08/2010 19:18

you're both childish.

and unreasonable.

if you feel good about yourself, who cares?

and what's the point of wasting food and escalating the situation?

BenignNeglect · 13/08/2010 19:19

YANBU. 11 stone and a bit at 6 foot is absolutely fine.
And even if it wasn't he should have more sense.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/08/2010 19:25

What Lulu said.

NarkyPuffin · 13/08/2010 19:29

YABU. Fish the frittata out of the bin, wipe any obvious mess off with damp kitchen paper and serve with a smile.

dexter73 · 13/08/2010 19:32

Agree with Lulu.

FoghornLeghorn · 13/08/2010 19:32

Seems a bit excessive to me

Original poster
deaddei · 13/08/2010 19:35

Yes I suppose it was childish.
He just has this habit of rolling his eyes at me when I'm in the shower/getting dressed.....I'm not 25 anymore, I'm 50 with 2 children. I go to the gym and am careful about what I eat....
I have fished it out Narky, and it still looks tasty.
Perhaps a glass of wine would calm me. Smile

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/08/2010 19:37

He needs to stop doing that - I find it so weird that people are so judgemental of each other's looks in a committed relationship.

Lulumaam · 13/08/2010 19:40

yes. that is definitely a bit much, by passive aggresive food chucking won't resolve it

be blunt ! but don't then add, 'you're not mr sixpack yourself' that kind of knocks you off the high ground when you are doing the same criticism you are upset about.

Original poster
deaddei · 13/08/2010 19:42

I told him before he went out I really don't like him calling me that- he laughs and says "it's just a bit of fun".
No wonder I've had therapy.

OP posts:
Greensleeves · 13/08/2010 19:44

no no, put it back in the bin

never mind the holier-than-though types

he was bloody rude, why should you cook his dinner and serve with a smile

let him eat cornflakes

Hassled · 13/08/2010 19:44

FFS chuck it back in the bin. The situation deserves childishness - what a tosser.

sanielle · 13/08/2010 19:44

agree with narky puffin

NarkyPuffin · 13/08/2010 19:45

With a smile because she knows where it's been Greensleeves

DaisySteiner · 13/08/2010 19:46

Tell him that as you're already 'wobbly' you thought another portion wouldn't hurt, so you ate it!

Lulumaam · 13/08/2010 19:46

i don't get the 'fire with fire' approach
it's not about being holier than thou. it's about not stooping to the same level

so someone is rude, you can then thrwo about their dinner? who is then the 'better' person?

if this is an ongoing theme in the relationship, throwing away dinner is the least effective way to tackle it really
althjough i totally accept the OP would have felt much better for doing so !

Hassled · 13/08/2010 19:51

Lulumaam - I suspect you're a much nicer person than I am :). I see your logic, but equally I know that if my DH called me wobbly and rolled his eyes when I was in the shower then he wouldn't see his frittata for dust.

kildare34 · 13/08/2010 19:57

YANBU - He's a gobshite! When he gets home from the pub asking for his dinner, tell him its in the chipper!

Angelcat666 · 13/08/2010 20:13

Next time he mentions anything about your weight serve him up a salad and tell him it's the new healthy eating regime he's going to support you in.

Lulumaam · 13/08/2010 20:17

maybe so hassled, maybe i should embrace my inner caaaaah ! Grin

Librashavinganotherbiscuit · 13/08/2010 20:21

Fuck being the better person or not stooping to his level. Fish that dinner out the bin, spit on it then serve with a smile...

OrientCalf · 13/08/2010 20:24

he rolls his eyes at you when you're getting dressed? that's just horrible.

EightiesChick · 13/08/2010 20:32

Having now read that this is a regular occurence (looks/comments about weight) rather than a one-off thoughtless remark, I am very much in favour of the frittata going back in the bin. Tell him it was a bit too wobbly for him to eat.

Being the better person / not stooping to someone's level is highly overrated in my view. Generally leads to putting up with a load of shit in the name of keeping the moral high ground. He's hardly being fair and reasonable by persisting in this - I suggest you think of a long-term strategy of your own.

RunawayWife · 13/08/2010 20:37

Good for you

nikki1978 · 13/08/2010 20:39

Thats awful. I am the same weight but 5ft 3 and my DH would never say anything like that or put me down about my weight. Your DH should think you are gorgeous and sexy just the way you are. And FFS you are not even overweight!

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