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for being utterly disgusted that someone tried to dob our friend in it

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Jux · 12/08/2010 22:34

Someone told the council he'd been doing some work for us and accused him of benefit fraud. We had two housing benefit officers round this afternoon, asking us about him.

Yes, he had helped do some redecorating/refurbishing. No we had not paid him.

The worst thing is, this friend had a brain haemorhage a few years ago and if he doesn't get out and about, he just vegetates at home. He is highly skilled, but he can't work; you have to keep an eye on him - has he had a drink, does he need food, does he need a rest etc. He can't do more than a couple of hours at a time without his brain becoming exhausted: if you ask him if he'd like a drink he says "I don't know" and he doesn't.

His family are surviving - just. One of his children has special needs and behavioural problems, the other has emotional issues to do with the awful thing that happened to her dad. His wife is a good honest woman who is doing her best. Used to work her socks off trying to keep the family together, but eventually had to give up work due to strain, exhaustion and depression.

This is a family battling with dreadful circumstances, and just doing their best. They are an example to everyone with their tenacity, their goodwill, their hard work, their honesty, their kindness, their generosity.

And someone who knows them thought it was a good idea to report the poor guy. And they didn't even know whether he was being paid. They made it up. It makes me sick.

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scottishmummy · 14/08/2010 21:33

morloth are you peggy mitchell?disliking the filth

Jux · 14/08/2010 22:43

It's not the filth (and I like cops btw), it's the overlords. Who have just proved how they have been ripping us off for years.

I think I'd rather people like my friend could supplement their pitiful benefits with a few odd jobs for a few quid, than pay for an MP's bloody duck house, moat cleaning, movie hire or bath plug. Let alone all the other stuff they get from us, the taxpayers. Get all that crap sorted. Then they can start on us - but they probably wouldn't need to.

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scottishmummy · 14/08/2010 22:48

overlords.omg daleks!are you a timelord too

Jux · 14/08/2010 23:33

Well, if someone thinks it's the filth then I can say it's the overlords!Wink They're both equally ott.

And I am a timelord.

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poshsinglemum · 14/08/2010 23:40

YANBU- people are wierd.

thumbwitch · 14/08/2010 23:55

Jux, I think that's very sad and very small-minded and mean-spirited of whoever reported your friend.
Heaven forfend he might be getting out of the house and trying to have some kind of life where he helps people out.

I am not in favour of ignoring benefit fraud but this man could have done with a bit of charitable thought from the repulsive dobber.

hmc · 15/08/2010 00:06

Poor man - I hope he is completely vindicated.

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