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To actually really dislike being pg?

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moonminmama · 11/08/2010 17:17

Don't get me wrong, this was an entirely planned pg and I absolutely can't wait for dc no2 to arrive. But the actual pregnancy part, I hate! I so wish I was one of the ladies that 'glow' and 'blossom' during pg.

Someone please tell me I am being unreasonable and tell me all the good things about being pg as opposed to the fat, tired, spotty, sick aspects of it!!

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Numberfour · 11/08/2010 19:38

YANBU. I detested being pregnant, waiting in vain for the "blooming" moment. And even after my DS (now 5.10) was born, although it took an hour or less for the carpel tunnel syndrome to ease, it took a year before I felt vaguely human again.

Sweetsherry

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moonminmama · 11/08/2010 19:38

Thankyou mistyb just the post I needed to read out to dh. Who has been fantastic, if it were roll reversal, I would have hired a hitman by now!

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pigletmania · 11/08/2010 19:46

No Morloth you should be able to buy children at about 5 when they have been through that coliky stage, the terrible 2s and 3s, potty trained and are more independent , oh and are at school for most of the day.

MissMarjoribanks · 11/08/2010 19:48

I fucking hated being pregnant.

In fact, after DS was born at 33 weeks, I confided to my DH that although I would, in all honesty, have preferred not to have a premature baby, the absolute relief of no longer being pregnant was amazing.

sharon137 · 11/08/2010 22:30

I am another in the "hated being rgnant" camp. What really dove me insane were some people around me at that time who told me I should embrace it all, and that they had LOVED every MOMENT of pregnancy and labour, even the sickness, spots etc. Really made me feel guilty, and ENRAGED.
It still amazes me when I see pregnant women who really do have a glow, and look just like they have swallowed a football, gliding around beaming.
I was a spotty, greasy, sweaty, grumpy mess and gained weight EVERYWHERE - neck, ankles, face, knees - and was a forgetful, angry vomit machine.
Yet I am still ttc a second baby :)

Jux · 11/08/2010 22:36

I loathed being pg, for every single minute of it. Totally ghastly. You have my sympathies.

You do get a great baby at the end though

AngelHMum · 11/08/2010 22:55

Yanbu - I never liked being pregnant - loved the results though

I never bloomed, was constantly tired - even with the first, I could never get comfortable in bed at night and had the worst backache ever.

I still envy those lucky women who breeze through it all with glossy hair, neat bumps and I even met one the other day who said she'd never had so much energy !!
I needed charging up each day just to get out of bed

Chathappy · 11/08/2010 23:31

Yep, also hate pregnancy! I'm 36wks today with dc3 and can't wait for it to be over.

Also hate the guilt trip when other women say how much they loved pregnancy and missed it after their dcs were born.... Crazy much??!

Love the end result though of course although I am actually so excited that this will be our last and I never have to go through it again after this one.

Although obviously I would pick to be pregnant a thousand times over the heartache that some people must suffer when they struggle to conceive

Petsville · 12/08/2010 08:06

YANBU - and I'm one of the relatively lucky ones who haven't had many health problems (though I've had SPD since I was 30 weeks, which is no fun at all). I really hate it and desperately want my body back, and would even if I wasn't in pain - I was miserable before the SPD struck. The only problem is that I think life with a newborn is going to be even worse, so I'm stuck in this ghastly state where life is grim at the moment and there's absolutely nothing to look forward to except, as a different thread puts it, a joyless existence on 3 hours' sleep a night.

sanielle · 12/08/2010 08:16

My farts stink of a dirty kebap and I can clear a whole room in a matter of seconds.

I am this close to shaving my head becasue I haven't had a dinner in months with out a fucking long hair in it as I now seem to be going bald.

I wake up at least 2 times a night now for a wee. Resulting in me being so tired I can't function, and am ready for bed on a late night at about 7.

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moonminmama · 12/08/2010 08:21

I maybe we are in the majority? There hasn't been a single person come on telling us how fab their of was. Maybe they're too scared lol

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sanielle · 12/08/2010 08:26

Only beautiful skinny rich people off the telly like being pregnant. It is just one more thing to lord over the rest of us. Oh and the bitch who used to teach my spin class with the biggest bump ever. Actually not a bitch at all- and quite nice really-- maybe she was ok.

MadameG · 12/08/2010 08:51

I really don't like being pregnant either. I am really excited about our first ds, and so pleased we conceived, but the actual pregnancy part has been hell.

I don't see what's enjoyable about having acne so bad that it looks like I've got measles, feet that feel like they'll explode, burping sick up into my mouth, painful constipation, swollen hands and ankles, awful sciatic pain and pains in my legs, being so exhausted I can barely move, going to the loo every 5 minutes, being boiling hot and sweaty, horrid nausea, I could go on.

I'm 34 weeks and it can't go fast enough. I miss having a normal body like you wouldn't believe.

5inthebed · 12/08/2010 09:02

Oh I hated being pregnant, all three times. The end result is amazing. The only thing I enjoyed about being pregnant was feeling the baby move.

I was certainly not one of those blosoming people, I got acne, greasy hair and my hair grew ridiculously fast, resulting in me needing my eyebrows waxed every week otherwise I'd look like a member of Oasis.

Psammead · 12/08/2010 09:10

I didn't mind being pregnant. I didn't get sick, never felt too awful. I can't say I loved it and felt all earth motherly about it, but I didn't hate it.

YANBU though - I know many many people who went through hellish pregnancies.

sparkle1977 · 12/08/2010 12:05

I'm another one who disliked being pregnant, I have done it twice and thats plenty for me.

As others say tho the end result is always worth it.

Another thing I would add (which may cause some to dislike me intently for admitting to but here goes..) is that I actually did not like feeling the baby move, it just felt really odd to me and gave me a really sicky feeling. Saying that tho I did get panicky if I didn't feel the baby move each day for health reasons.

mummysgoingmad · 12/08/2010 12:14

YANBU it awful. i hated it with a passion, i was constantly in a bad mood and hated being so big so quickly. I'm a tiny person so with the extra weight made it really hard for me to walk in the late stages. I wish there was such a thing as the stork!!

MorrisZapp · 12/08/2010 12:25

YANBU.

I must confess, I'm a 'glowing' type and haven't had any real problems to speak of other then all the very minor niggles.

But what I hate is the restriction. ie no booze, can't take medicine, have to think about diet, too fat to squeeze past my bed, can't have dental xray despite toochache etc etc etc.

Also I don't actually enjoy feeling the baby move - I know it's a lovely, healthy sign and I do thank god for it, but if I'm honest it makes me feel a bit weird.

A very dear friend of mine is struggling with MCs etc so I am very aware of how lucky I am, but I think the lucky feeling will only start being truly genuine when the baby comes out and the dog can see the rabbit so to speak. At the moment it's all pain and no gain.

BigMommaOfAlmost4 · 12/08/2010 17:48

Ah yes, I have just come through the other side (DC4 is almost 3 weeks old) and even though I am more knackered than any knackered person can be, I feel 100 times better than I did while pregnant, can run up the stairs, wash my feet, cut toenails, stand for more than 5 minutes and that FUCKING awlful sour taste in my mouth has gone so I can enjoy food again .

Needless to say DC4 is my last but is well worth it!

germl · 12/08/2010 19:04

YADNBU - I hate being pregnant and hated it last time. I felt like absolute crap in pregnancy - SPD from about 18 weeks, ended up in a wheelchair and generally just feeling pretty shite what with the hideousness of my face (nice and pasty or red and blotchy) as well. Also, stupid insomnia from about 32 weeks. The best bit of all my pregnancy experience was the epidural and the subsequent EMCS as 41 weeks - I suppose because that meant it was over!

I really am struggling to stay on the right side of sane now as all I can think is I have 28 more weeks to go and it'll all go downhill .

I feel like a total shit though as I know that other people who can't conceive would go through this so very willingly

Duritzfan · 13/08/2010 01:05

I hate it too .. I have struggled to have this baby - huge history of mcs and fertility treatment but in so many ways that makes it harder because I'm so bloody terrified something will go wrong ...I can't relax and enjoy it for a minute ...

Not that I could relax between high blood pressure, SPD and horrendous indigestion .. I thought pregnancy was supposed to be a natural state ? someone forgot to tell my body that for sure.

BEAUTlFUL · 13/08/2010 01:44

For a year after DS2 was born, I'd wake up every morning and my first thought would be, "Hooray! I'm not pregnant any more." No lie, a year.

BootyMum · 13/08/2010 11:37

I have to say I mostly enjoy being pregnant [15 weeks now] as I am very aware how lucky I am being able to get pregnant and carry a baby at all [being at the 'wrong' side of 35 yrs]. But the constant nausea and tiredness is a drag. Also hate being fat. This is my 2nd pregnancy. In my first i just looked fat for ages and ages. No slim figure and neat basketball bump for me. So at all the yummy mummy types who managed to be pregnant and glamorous. i just looked like a big blimp and think this pregnancy is going the same way. Ditto for swollen ankles and sausage fingers, triple chin, etc. So not a good look! But thus far all is well with DC2 and I guess that is the most important thing

Duritzfan · 14/08/2010 10:23

Lol Bootymum .. I'm the wrong side of 35 too....
Think that doesn't help does it ? I was a good ten years younger last time I was this pregnant and boy it was a different ballgame ! Not that I've ever been one of those women who bloom and glow though .....

Threelittleducks · 14/08/2010 10:31

It's ok, it's not that bad. I don't mind the spd, puking for 8 weeks, being so huge, waddling like a pained cowboy, crazy urge to eat very very unhealthily, being isolated for the last 2 months due to high bp, sleepless nights, raging hormones, crying at shit I never even thought about before, being sore in various places, planning to have scary scary surgery to remove said child due to complications, being out of action for 6 weeks afterwards, struggling to bf while courting patronising mws/hvs on a daily basis.....

I could just really do with a night where I take my pg off and hang it up in the cupboard so I can have a drunken night out!!

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