If you could say I do again would you do it differently?

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Its the time of year to dust down your glad rags and attend hen do's and weddings,but have you began to think arghhh not another hen do or wedding and thought its all so the same, Weddings just dont seem to be fun anymore.
B&G get carried away with all the minor details that cost thousands,I just wander when its us we will do it so that its about me and dp and dc and the people we are closest to us being a great part of it with not all the cost.
For me its a special day and as long as im with the man I love who cares if its not all colour coordinated,and costing thousands we love each other and thats all that matters.
So if it was you would you change anything about your special day if you could do it all again?.

I'd have used a different caterer. I used my dads friend and he didn't cater correctly to the amount of people and it wasn't co ordinated very well.

However my H and I are divorcing now as he's had an affair. But I would still marry him as he's given me 2 gorgeous DCs and that is one thing I don't regret from the last 6 years of marriage

The only thing i would change would be the grooom cos 13 years after we got married he had an affair with my best friend!!

Having done it twice now (and yesterday scanned both sets of photos!) I did do it again!

For my second wedding I definitely skipped the bits that I thought were worth skipping - cake, speeches, cars, bridesmaids, loads of formal photos.

I got married in Novemember at 5 pm, so it was dark. We only had 21 guests. The formal photos took no longer than 10 minutes and then the rest were informal. We just had a great time with our very closest family and friends. I drove myself and my husband-to-be to the venue and we greeted out guests on arrival and entered the wedding room (library in a lcoal country house hotel) together.

My only regret is that I was 6 weeks pregnant (wedding planning before this!), so I felt slightly sick at times and couldn't drink alcohol. It would have been nice if I was 1 stone lighter, too.

I think for the second one I just had the experience to really think what would make it all more enjoyable and easier for our guests and know what was really important for us, and what wasn't.

I have been to a couple of weddings this year and am still no closer to changing my mind about getting hitched much to dps sorrow.

I went to my cousins wedding at the Weelend and got asked about 100 times when it was my turn.... my stock response was 'oh im not marriage material' with a big grin on my face.

Not a thing - we didn;t want a wedding as such, just to be married, so thats what we did.

Went to registry office then out for a meal and then told everyone about it afterwards.

We got married same year as two other couples who we were very close to and all the stress that they were going through about seating plans for relatives they'd never met and matching bridesmaid dresses to table cloths (I kid you not) put both of us off.

We've been married over ten years and it cost us £75 for a licence and £100 for DH suit and £70 for a dress from Laura Ashley for me

Wouldn't change one thing about my weding to DH. It was a perfect day.

I do feel I missed out on not having a 'wedding' dress though. I didn't at the time but feel I may have missed something special, IYKWIM. I've never even worn a posh prom dress

I'm not even married yet (4 weeks to go) and I'd elope instead

I would do it the same in terms of structure We had a 1.00pm wedding, reception at hotel on the river until we left at 6.00pm, then everyone went whereever they wanted too. The 'modern' habit of an evening do leaves me cold. If you want to have a big party, put on a different frock and get pissed then, err, have a party.

A wedding that starts in the morning , involves some costume changes and doesn't end until the early hours seems like waaayy to much to me. No wonder people spend so much money and get so stressed.

I used to feel guilty about how much we spent on the dress but now DD tries it on and asks about where I bought it etc and I don't mind so much

I wouldn't change anything - we had a fabulous time! However, I was so not a Bridezilla - the photographer was a friend of DH's family, and he said he'd never seen a bride so relaxed! My attitude was that as long as DH turned up, along with the minister and two witnesses, then we were fine - all the rest was window-dressing.

We spent a fortune and even though the day was everything we could have dreamed of I do, at times, think of the money we spent and go a little pale.

It's our 3rd anniversary next month and we always get the pictures out and look through them each year. We had a church wedding followed by a pretty traditional dinner and reception in a big hall so it was quite posh. Although it was really stressful and very expensive, there were highlights that I definitely wouldn't change, e.g. photos in front of St.Paul's Cathedral, surrounded by tourists taking photos of us, the Routemaster bus with our names on it, etc.

I am planning my wedding now - starting with a halloween themed engagement party in October!
I recently went to a friends wedding and saw how stressed she was planning it all. She enjoyed her day but for me I will not be doing the stress of seating plans, and worrying about people who don't get along and blah blah blah. My main mission is to lose some weight so I can wear the leopard print wedding dress I have my eye on and hope everyone has a fun and relaxed time!
Maybe I will be posting a different opinion after February...

No, ours was pretty perfect for us. Was a bit of an el cheapo family production because we spent a great big pile on the honeymoon instead.

Was great, we had a great time, everyone else had a great time.

I do enjoy a "posh" expensive wedding though, as long as I don't have to pay for it!

I have very happy maemories of my wedding, it was a small affair on a tight small (2K) budget only one thing that I would do diferently, I would remember to get some group photos, we couldn't afford an offical photographer so we asked friends and family to take loads of pictures to then be pooled together later and we have some fantastic photos but dh and I were so busy talking to and enjoying the company of our guests that we forgot to get any group shots, you know the parents, extended family etc (we have ones of just dh and I and cutting the cake, first dance just non with all the family groups). I do think back and kick myself a bit but also remind myself it was because we were enjoying our guests and thats what really matters. I also wish some of the friends I have now could have been there, it would have to be time travel as we didn't even know each other then but I have some people in my life now I wish I could have shared that day with. Thinking about it I would also beg dh to get a diferent best man, he was terrible, asked dh to do all the stuff a best man should (pick up suits and things like that) and then topped it off with a horrible, filthy best mans speech that left everyone with a red face and open mouth, we look back and laugh now though, made for intersting stories to tell, we haven't had much of anything to do with the best man since then, limited very definatly to facebook!

Yes I would do it differently. I would sod off abroad somewhere hot just the 2 of us, and then have a massive party when we got back. We had a tiny wedding in a registry office with just 7 people there. And then went for a meal afterwards. I would love to go back and do something bigger to mark the occasion.

We got married at the registry office with my dad, sister and best friend plus my children then a blessing with about 50 guests the next day. I loved it all! Only thing I would change is perhaps not drinking so much champagne and actually talking to the guests instead of just dancing the night away but we were very chilled out about all of it. My son (8) made the place names/table names etc and decided to to name each table after a football team - was the best!