MIL can't have kids to stay on my birthday night because of her 'special plant' !

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Grrr.
I am am being unreasonable I think, and so is she. Basically, she offered ages ago to babysit for my birthday. I never go out, had my first drink since xmas in May!

Most of all I was looking forward to the lie in the next day. And I knew I would have a great time out cos I could relax and not worry about having to get up with kids next day (they are 2 and 3, very much early risers).

My own mum had offered to babysit a few months ago, but she lives over an hour away, and MIL only 5 mins I arranged for MIL to do it. She was round earlier today and casually said 'oh I think we'd better do it here, only I've got my plant in the cupboard, and it's so close to being ready be a shame to spoil it now!'

You know what kind of plant I'm talking about right? Anyway, I don't have any moral issues with her doing that. Actually, can't she just lock the cupboard then they can stay over? (that's where I think you lot will say I'm being unreasonable).

But I just feel like it's ruined my birthday. I am probably being over dramatic, but it's so annoyed me.

could you not just dropp them off at your mums? you have said she offered right

OMG Its a fecking plant!!!! Could you not ask ur mum to babysit instead. and say to MIL that she is no longer needed and can spend as much time as she likes with her speical friend in the cubourd

YADNBU BTW

cant u stay overnight at her house n she at yours?

Tell her it's fine, she can come to yours but only if you can stay over at hers and have a lie-in.

Bit odd that she won't lock the plant away overnight though, surely she doesn't have it out in the living room for all and sundry to see

Have you asked her if she can lock the cupboard?

yes stay at her house with the PLANT that will make your birthday more memorable.

Is it cannabis? If so stay at hers.

I don't drive. I think what's annoyed me is that I rarely ask for help, dp has worked away since before they were born and I've always just got on with it. I find it difficult to ask for help, would feel bad ringing my mum at the last minute now because she has a young family of her own still, plus works fulltime for herself, I know she will have made plans now.

PMSL @ coco

coco . yabu as it's a nice enough favour to babysit she's doing you and DH to sit for free for an evening, but I do sympathise in that it's a crappy reason for ducking out of the overnight she had promised!

Yeah it's cannibis. I'm sure she said it has to be in pitch black at night.

I thought about asking her to stay here, but she's so 'particular' she wouldn't sleep in anyone else's bed because she might not sleep well.

Stay and hers and conduct an early harvest.

I do agree, have a midnight harvest and then get the munchies

I'd threaten to drop her in it if she doesnt take them

I should point out that she has history for this.

She has offered to babysit for dp in the past, and then denied it closer to the time, so unfortunately it's just a bit predictable.

More motivation to save for driving lessons though, then I wont be dependant on her and can take the kids to my mums myself as someone suggested.

Maybe she forgot she offered, weed can affect your memory

Oh God it IS cannabis. I thought it was a hyacinth or something.

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lololol @ hyacinth

gosh my mil thinks a glass of sherry at bedtime is daring!

You need to find a reliable babysitter close to home really i think - I couldn't cope if I didn't get out sometimes.

She's being over dramatic. Unless she has loads of hydrophonic equipment, lights and filters buzzing away the plant will be pretty useless anyway and the kids are only 2 and 3 so what's the problem. Tell her you don't mind, let the kids go there and have a good night out!

Get her to babysit and then come back to yours early in the morning and take the dcs out, then you can still have your lie-in.

PMSL (sorry OP) I really thought it was some kind of rare orchid just about to flower and she was worried the kids might affect its nerves or something!!!!

YANBU and she is.

Stay at hers ;0)

Yep, it is squeaver. That's no big deal for me. I don't touch anything apart from alcohol and the odd cigarette, but was brought up around it, so not worried about her looking after them. But I thought I might get told I was being unreasonable for suggesting she just lock the cupboard, since I'm probably a bit more relaxed about it than a lot of other people!

BTW, when they stay there, both kids stay in a travel cot together (their choice, they have a cuddle and sleep really well for her) so they wouldn't even be able to get out of that without her help!

I would at least ask my mum and see if she could do it tbh.

I think looking after a 2 and 3 year old by yourself a lot of the time must be hard work and don't blame you for wanting to rest and a lie in for your birthday.

maybe she just doesn't want to look after your kids and she doesn't have to.