to feel angry that everyone feels entitled to comment...... about everything!

[giantpurplepeopleeater]

Ok - so maybe I am being unreasonable, and if that is the case then I would appreciate someone calming me down as I am new to all this and getting quite and at all this.

I am a new mom to be... not even that far along (24 weeks) but have just started to really show - although I still think I look like I have just eaten a few too many pies!!

But for some reason, my friends, family and even complete strangers have taken to felling that they can comment on absolutely everything I do/ say/ the way I look and I think it is bloody rude.

I'm normally a very private person and don't spend hours discussing myself with friends/ family and can be especially shy around strangers so am not the type to start randomly chatting on the bus or anything. However in the last few days I have had the following comments from people that have not been solicited in anyway - in fact sometimes we haven't even been in conversation or talking about my pregnancy.

Mom -
'is eating all that cheese healthy for the baby (2 x cheese on toast in grill)'
'you know your going to put a stone on in weight - you should look into joining a gym now'
'are you ready to be parent? its the hardest thing in the world'

Friend -
'God you look really pregnant in that top. My god thats the first time you have actually looked pregnant (this while showing her the new maternity top I just bought '
'you know I couldn't live with out x, y and z - you must really buy these expensive piecies of tat and follow this book I did'

Strangers in the street -
'Oh look your pregnant. Ooh you just wait till the birth, mine was hell'
'See! They are everywhere. People popping out sprogs for the Government to support' (old man to his friend as he walked past me in coffee shop)

So what is it that I am doing wrong that people can say these things to me without my even bringing up the subject????

And AIBU to tell them all to keep their comments to themsleves in future???

[kelly2525]

For me, the most annoying thing is people TELLING me what i should or shouldnt do. I had a private gender scan, when i told friends and family i`d booked it, most were quite happy to tell me i shouldnt be finding out, it should be a suprise, one family friend even went to my mum to ask how much it was costing me, then when she was told how much it was, she said thats stupid, think of all the things she could buy with that money, errrr, yeah, like a fucking 4D gender scan. Taking an interest is one thing, but to have people around you act like they are offended by your choices gets on my tits

[LittleMissHissyFit]

Jeez yourself DreamTeamGirl, that's a bit harsh!!!

OP, your PG is literally nobody's business but yours and your OH.

If anyone makes a move toward the bump, especially strangers, then a swift side step, and a fould look accompanied with a DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT! I'd been told about this, a friend with twins told me. Thankfully though it never happened to me. I think I must have one of those faces....

If anyone makes a comment, tell them to mind their own business, actually your Mum and friend included. If you want their comments you'll ask them....

Nip this in the bud now, cos they won't know to shut up when your baby comes....

[3Trees]

I am sure I would have hated it, but as someone who was on the large side before getting pg, and then LOST 2 stone whilst pg (I had hyperemesis) no one I hadn't already told realised I was pg the WHOLE TIME - I am jealous!

So to the people who never offered me seats on buses, or the chemist who didn't believe me I was pg at all ,never mind 8 months pg looking for something safe to take for the toothabcess pain I had (FAR WORSE imo than labour, weven when labour is back to back and accomplished with only gas and air) I blow raspberries and WISH someone would have said something nice!