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to reprimand the girl who let her dog...

39 replies

motherbeyond · 04/08/2010 17:12

SHIT outside my house,and then not clear it up.
we live in a culdi-sac,in a nice village.
we have found crap outside our house(well by the wall on the road) a few times in the last couple of months and have wondered who could be so brazen as to do this in full view.
so,i have been leaping to my feet everytime a neighbour walks past with their dog,but no, they always clear up.

this morning i was taking my young children (4,2 and 10 weeks) out i nthe car.

i see a girl letting her dog crap on road ouside house opposite.
i wait,and she senses me there and puts her hand in her pocket.
i wait.
she puts her hand in her other pocket.
i wait.
she crouches down and adjusts her sock,looking over her shoulder to see if i'm still there.
i lower th window and say "well,you're not going to find a bag in there are you?

she says no.
anyway,i asked her why she'd come out with no bags,and told her that i wasn't happy,that i wanted her to go home,get a bag and clear it up.
when i came home it was gone.
my mum reckons i'll have her parents round later
i said i'll tell them as well!
aibu?

OP posts:
Porcelain · 04/08/2010 17:14

Not at all, if you have a pet, you are responsible for cleaning up after it.

scrab806ble · 04/08/2010 17:16

No

Sammyuni · 04/08/2010 17:16

At least she learned her lesson and better yet she took heed of it.

curlymama · 04/08/2010 17:16

Haha! I would probably have done the same! Having just got a puppy, I know it's it's a pain in the butt to have to do the poop scoop thing, but you just have to get on with it. Other dog owners who don't bother give the rest of us a bad name, so it does wind me up too.

MrsC2010 · 04/08/2010 17:19

YANBU. My lovely husband often picks up other people's dog poo when he's walking ours if it is right outside someone's front door or in the middle of the path or something. I'm not quite that nice, I only pick up ours!

Original poster
motherbeyond · 04/08/2010 17:24

well,it's just gross isn't it?especially on pram wheels that i then roll into my hall!!

it was just her face...she looked like she might cry.but i did think the point neded to be made

OP posts:
sue52 · 04/08/2010 17:25

yanu I have always picked up my dogs poo and I drummed it into my children to do the same. I never go walkies without an adequate supply of poo bags.

zisforzebra · 04/08/2010 17:26

YANBU. My StepFIL would always walk the dog and not clear up after it until one day a lady turned up on his doorstep with a bag of poo and said "I believe this is yours!" She'd been watching him for days and, on that day, had picked up the poo and followed him home!

sanielle · 04/08/2010 17:28

YANBU what could the parents possibly complain about?

minipie · 04/08/2010 17:28

YANBU to be annoyed about people who don't clear up their dog's poo

but how old was she? if she was quite young, maybe she really did forget the bags and you could have just asked her to come back later with one?

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 04/08/2010 17:30

Perhaps another time you could give her a nappy sack - they make perfectly acceptable poo bags - with a cheerful "Here you are - it's a pain when you come out without a bag, isn't it!" - same result and gets the point across, but with a bit less confrontation.

But, bottom line, you were well within your rights to tell her she must pick up after her dog - I'd be furious if I thought my boys weren't picking up after our dog - and if they came home and told me they'd been told off by a lady for not picking up after Coco, I would be round on your doorstep - to apologise and to get them to apologise too. Plus they'd do a dog-poo clear up of the road near your house too!

But then I am a cruel and heartless mother.

LucyLouLou · 04/08/2010 17:42

YANBU and unless you used very bad language or were harsher to the girl than you said, I doubt there's going to be a problem with the parents.

ShinyAndNew · 04/08/2010 17:44

YANBU. But if she hasn't been taught to pick up after her dog then I doubt her parents will be bothered.

peeringintothevoid · 04/08/2010 18:02

at zisforzebra - that's hilarious.

YANBU OP - I'm a dog owner, and it sends me apoplectic with rage when I see people not picking up, or see piles of dog shit everywhere. Or worse, people having bagged it, and then left the bag hanging on a tree like some grotesque dangling crap-ornament. Why on earth would you do that???

[breathes deeply]

The girl should know to pick up, and if she doesn't, then three cheers to you for telling her.

Oh, and MrsC2010 your husband is an angel!

justonemorethen · 04/08/2010 18:26

Mmmm. I don't think intimidating a young girl is something to be proud of.Why be confrontational? Justtell her to pick it up as you are worried about your kids.

Yes it's dangerous if it gets in your eyes and it's disgusting but ulimately it is bio degradable (and it won't be in a bag).

I do bag mine in public places but am quite happy to flick it under a hedge rather than send it to landfill or a doggie bin that then does a 50 mile journey to an incinerator.

Look forward to you telling someone off for dropping rubbish, theres loads more of that around. It's dangerous for health too (see rat population) and really bad for the wildlife.

GeekOfTheWeek · 04/08/2010 18:28

YANBU

DaisySteiner · 04/08/2010 18:30

Sounds like she knew she needed to pick it up but had forgotten to take a bag. My older kids walk the dog sometimes, and being kids, they have occasionally forgotten to take bags. They always come home to get some and then go back to pick the dog poo up. I'd be pretty upset if someone had a go at them for making an honest mistake. Why couldn't you have offered to get a bag? That would have been a nicer thing to do IMO than upsetting her.

chasingrainbows · 04/08/2010 18:49

Peeringinto - just what is that bout eh? The doggy poo bag ornaments. Is there someone employed to collect them in at some point in time?
YANBU
nowt worse than having your kids come in having trod in dog crap.

deaddei · 04/08/2010 19:14

Hardly intimidating the girl.
YANBU and I hope the girl has learnt a lesson.

lazarusb · 04/08/2010 19:15

I did that once to a girl who had let her dog on my front lawn- she ran away! Ten minutes later she was back with her mum who said she would phone the police for 'abusing' her daughter. Since then I have never tackled anyone about it again

WillbeanChariot · 04/08/2010 19:29

YANBU.

It makes my blood boil. I was in a park a couple of weeks ago and saw a woman let her dog shit on the path and walk off. It was about 30 yards from a poo bin too! I asked if she was going to pick it up and she blanked me completely. I wish I had thought to offer her a nappy bag.

stripeyknickersspottysocks · 04/08/2010 19:34

Sounds like she forgot to take a bag. How old was she?

My DD is 9 and has started walking the dog on her own, she'd have been mortified if she'd forgotten a bag (has happened) but she would have come home sobbing if someone had spoken to her like you did. I totally agree with saying something but there are better ways of wording it.

The one time DD did forget a bag she came straight back and told me and me and her went back together with a bag and picked it straight up.

You could just have nicely asked her if she was going to pick it up.

diddl · 04/08/2010 19:34

I would have taken her a bag out if I´d had one.

This happened to us-it was a woman.

I bagged it & then daughter hared off after her shouting "you´ve forgotten this"

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