What happened to the 'AM I a Victim? thread?

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do we all have to be so nasty? Comments about her spelling and her alleged 'smugness' aren't very edifying really. when people talk about bullying on mn is this what they mean?

I think the kind of posts above just give fuel to the media and anyone who thinks women are nasty bitches quite frankly

Agree, i love foody blogs, with great recipes and restaurant reviews. But one that just talks about the bloggers life...when it is as mundane as a million other lives? well...i just dont see the attraction. There was a crazy amount of personal info on there, and it really worries me that people are so naive with their privacy! Pictures of the outside of the home, the hometown, their names, pics of the kid, the dad, her...If you want to share it only with family and friends then put it on a password only site! not the blooming world wide web for anyone to access.

yes, LA

and also her full name, name and DOB of her dc, where she lives, the groups she attends and when

and so on...ad infinitum

we should not give her a hard time though, she is only 21

Surely if you do a "blog" though that is what you are opening yourself up to?

Aren't they all just wannbee writers anyway?

I've never had the time to read one to busy on MN....

I have all that info available on my blog I think, and it is a really boring blog to boot. I'm not all that worried about remaining anonymous as I wouldn't put anything on there that I wasn't happy for people to know.

The bitching I mean.....

I couldn't help it, I went and looked for the blog after reading this thread. I think my IQ just dropped ten points after wading through that blog post.

Do you think she asked for ID from the social worker and police woman? Presumably it wasn't a uniformed officer because the woman said "and I'm from the police".

Well, if she didn't say "can I have some ID please" (or proof that they were who they said they were), it could have just been anybody?

Do you think there's a chance that it was a wind up bearing in mind it allegedly took place on a Sunday morning?

What Fluffy said. The blog made my insides die, but Jesus, this isn't the sixth form, folks...

"we should not give her a hard time though, she is only 21"

A hard time was probably what the doctor ordered, unfortunately. A little MN brusgueness is not bitchiness. There are just too many incidents these days of naive people cheerily giving away personal information on the net and either getting identity scammed, bullied, stalked or worse. Whether the problem she had stemmed from her blog or not, I think we were justified in getting her to think about the meaning of privacy - especially when there's a small child in the mix.

Having said that, I know what it's like to be accused of something that never happened and having to deal with the inevitable investigation that follows. I actually feel quite sorry for the woman.

LA - You are opening yourself up but why would people want to be nasty for no reason?

I just think that all these posts about her blog calling it dull, boring, stupid etc, faulting her spelling, calling her smug, there's just no need really is there. Leave the poor woman alone.

I'd rather be stupid, smug and dull than a nasty bitch (yes, yes i know, im probably both, thanks )

I have linked to my blog from a post, but I asked permission from MNHQ first

chil - no problem re explaining about privacy and the safety aspects of the internet, ive done the same on here myself, its just the nastiness, yes, well done, you can spell and she can't, here have a house point.

We could do with a recommended blogs section.

chil...I was being a bit ironic there

What did I miss?

I shouldn't leave the computer ever.

I felt sorry for her - she was only a kid. I was a right idiot very naive at that age too. She is just a kid trying to grow into herself - we've all made fools of ourselves. At 21, I thought I was an intellectual and had a leather bag and a slim volume of poetry and a Palestinian Liberation Army style scarf round my neck.

Mind you my stomach did turn at the "My Son is not just my Son, he is my Best Friend, we do everything together, I understand him and he understands me"...

Now, my DD (14mths), bless her, is the same age as said Son, and DD is about as far from "understanding me" as I am from understanding a hypothetical theory of quantum gravity.

Indeed, DD is so empathetic that when mummy was screaming having trapped her fingers in the drawer yesterday she thought it was the funniest thing ever and giggled for 20 minutes (despite me f-ing and blinding and sobbing).

I am now quite obsessed with her blog.

Especially the sycophantic comments from her friends!

I dunno - posting on a forum annoymously sometimes gets rid of my inner bitch and I expect to open myself up to it by some of my posts.

I am a lot more antagonistic, bitchy and forthright in my views than I am in RL.

In real life I am the most unbitchy, kind person you could meet, and I quite often get walked over...

Maybe I should start a blog.......

Saw that thread and read the whole thing earlier but didn't comment. Sadly I think there are people nowadays who live their lives on the Net, their complete world seems to be FB, blogging, Twitter etc and real life is just secondary. I really think the OP of that needs to get off the computer and reconnect with the real world. The protests of "I was doing a clear-out" etc. rang hollow to me. When the social worker suggested an extra chest of drawers I took it to mean that she was offering some practical advice rather than criticising the OP.

It reminds me of those teenagers who go in for X factor or Britains Got Talent because they have some misguided idea that they can sing. And then they get laughed out of the place.

The sad fact is that if you are lacking in talent, and also lacking in the self awareness to prevent you from making a dick of yourself, then you're opening yourself up to ridicule.

The blog was awful... badly written, mindnumbingly boring, and screamed 'low self esteem' all over. And so she's opened herself to criticism. It was the sort of stuff you should write in a personal notebook, if you feel so inclined (and then probably rediscover in 25 years and die of embarrassment). Unfortunately she has learned the hard way that if you choose to live your life in the public arena, then you're choosing to not retain that privacy

Its not against mn guidelines to link to a blog... its when you link to your own blog that it goes against the spirit of things. Mn is not here to boost your blog viewing numbers!

Chicken- you asked hq, and you were probably linking to help answer someone's specific question, rather than big yourself up, which is firmly in the spirirt of mn IMO.

I dunno... I just get a bit sick of all the viral marketers, blatant promoters, wanna be writers, and lazy media researchers swarming all over MY site!

actually fluffy she didnt get a hard time untill she started being nasty.

Oh, come on.

She blogs. You may not have liked it, it may not be particularly well written but it was sweet and she was here looking for advice after an incident that shook her.

Why the horrible comments?

Anyone who blogs does it because they want to. There are many reasons for blogging and none of them are so bad that they deserve this kind of ridicule.

If you don't like blogs, then do not read them.