Bit of background - I no longer speak to my mother, have not done so for 10 months. She didn't raise me (was left with abusive gran, saw my mother a handful of times in childhood) and only got to know her when I was 17. It was a difficult relationship, and to cut a very long story short, we had an argument about a will in October and we have not spoken since.
The will was my gran's - she had died March 2009. Basically she had died intestate, so all money was left to her children (none of whom spoke to her). My mother had said that she would give me some of the money as she felt I was entiteld to a share as I had been raised my my gran as her child. Anyway, she changed her mind about this, and provoked a nasty argument calling me all the names, hence why we have not spoken since.
Anyway, my gran had had loads of photos of me as a child. I do not own any photos of me prior to 16, i would like these photos. I can't imagine my mother would want them as we no longer talk. My mother also has pics of dd which i would like copies of.
Would I be unreasonable to ask for these, and how should I go about it? I don't want her thinking I want anything else from her, least of all the money, so should I write a letter?
Or should I just leave it, as there is a chance that my mother could tell me to get stuffed and will refuse to give them to me, which will probably bring up all the bad feeling again.