Am I being over-sensitive?

[trollieddolly]

I'm a SAHM having given up my career to look after DC.
Would you be offended by this comment from DH having had a bikini wax?
"Come on then, I want to see what I'm paying for!"

i would have been offended by that comment but as i don't know your dh, maybe he thought he was being humerous?

Nooooo id just think he was having a sexy joke lol ......unless theres other comments,dont get upset.

He's being funny surely?

Men have very strange humor sometimes

I would laugh as I would know my DH was being cheeky!

Only you know what your DH is like.

Are you a bit sensitive about being a SAHM?

I can see why you'd be offended, but I assume you're husband was joking. I work part time and my dh can make comments like that sometimes; it gets to me if I'm feeling less than 100%. Most of the time I tell him to sod off .

Ooooo it's male humour all over isn't it - about as sensitive as a tank driving over an egg box....

My husband used to find it hilarious to grab my norks all the time in a Sid James style, until I started squeezing his nob back really hard.

Did you show him? Slap a post it note on your mound telling him to get stuffed and show him then.

I dunno...does he always make dickhead-like comments ?

I could let the odd one go, if I was also allowed to make ridiculously sexist "jokes"

If DP came out with something like that I'd take it as a joke. But that depends on your DH, I guess...

Though IMO yes, you're being over sensitive.

Offended?? the comment was from your DH right??

God woman lighten up.

I am the first one to hate sexist jokes but I really feel that between a man and wife who are respectful of each other, this is just a bit of fun.

I think it depends what the actual financial arrangement was. If you had to ask for the money to have it done and he genuinely felt he'd paid for it (and often makes you feel like that), then yes it might have made me see red. If it was your decision to have it done and you paid for it either from money that is "yours" or your joint resources, then no, he was just (trying to) have a laugh.

I wouldn't like it either, it's the implication that it's his money and you have to justify spending it...

Only you can know whether he just phrased it badly or whether he does resent being the sole breadwinner and thinks you shouldn't spend money on yourself or if you do, he has to 'approve' of it....

I would have said 'Maybe later when the kids are in bed and you've had time to adjust your attitude,' and winked at him. He'd have got the message loud and clear. Later on he'd say he didn't mean it like that and ask if he could have a preview

It's the sort of thing my dh wiuld say...along with "while you're down there".
Makes him sound like a pervy lech, but actually he isn't.
Banter.
He came out with a classic a few weeks ago "you bleed me dry"- which he regretted as as soon as he said it, and I have made him pay for it ever since

I find the phrase "wait till I tell the girls"usually has him cowering in the corner.

I would want to know why my DH had a bikini wax, tbh.

deaddei are you married to my DH?

depends how he said it, but if it was might DP i'd know it would be a normal male joky thing

tethersend!
(Although I had to scroll back to see what you were getting at!)

I think you are over thinking it. It would have never even occured to me to think it was anything other than him wanting to see it.

Why shouldn't a DH have a bikini wax? You sexist pig!

It's not the waxing per se, more the wearing of a bikini...

If it was my DH, I'd know it was just a joke (well he would want to see but he wouldn't be making a dig about money!), agree with DetectivePotato -you are probably over-thinking it!

why do you have the bikini wax?

Depends on the tone of voice. Probably a silly joke. Tell him he needs back/sack/crack waxing.