Am I being over-sensitive?

[trollieddolly]

I'm a SAHM having given up my career to look after DC.
Would you be offended by this comment from DH having had a bikini wax?
"Come on then, I want to see what I'm paying for!"

tankini surely tethers?

A bikini can look a little cheap on a man unless he is neat in his person

Maybe he was trying to get you to shag him?

Sounds humorous to me, are you a bit sensitive about him being the main breadwinner?

Tell him you've had colonic irrigation next time and present him with a bucket of watery faeces (doesn't need to be yours)

I would have taken it as a joke unless there are other underlying issues. If it makes you feel any better my husband just walked in the bedroom and saw my lying on the bed after a shower. I am also 39 weeks pregnant...said "I am so conflicted now" and walked out Im giving him the benefit of the doubt.

If the implication is that you need his approval for what you are spending money on as he is the breadwinner and therefore it is his money then you are right to be mega pissed off.

If its said in a "Phwoar fancy giving me a flash" over eager teenage boy type way then no harm done

I'm used to alot of the boob-grabbing (ho,ho,ho) schoolboy humour but just found this a bit odd.
He does tend to be a bit tight (no comments pls) and 1950's in his attitude to married life so maybe I should take this in the way it was probably hilariously intended.

And yes, I'm a bit about being a SAHM as it was not by choice.

fernie3 - it's nice your DH still fancies you when you're 39 weeks, poor guy must've been taking his parental responsibilities very seriously that day.

DF - my ladyhair grows outwards downwards rather extensively. I don't find it attractive esp in a swimsuit so I remove it.

you could always get a job so then you'd have better things to worry about than the state of your muff

My salary doesn't cover the cost of subsidised childcare for 2 children under 2 years old

trollie, I find what your dh said inherently offensive, even in a jokey way. That is because it would never occur to me, if I was the breadwinner, to think I am 'paying' for my spouse, who surely is pulling their weight in childcare and other spheres.

A person has not 'bought' his wife just by virtue of being the breadwinner - it is just his equal contribution to the household. He sounds deeply sexist. I personally would not put up with it.

You say your being a SAHM is not your choice. If SAHM-ing was imposed upon you by your dh, if I were you, I would skid out of the house and get myself a job so quickly you could not see me for dust.

In fact, I would think in any case seriously start of making my way back in paid employment. It is against my principles and everything I worked for to have to financially rely on a sexist man who thinks I am his property.