to get annoyed at people who let their DC stand in supermarket trollies?

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I just think that it is disgusting when you see people letting their DC put filthy feet and shoes (which could have walked in poo) inside the trollies where I am going to be putting my FOOD instead of sitting them in the seat or letting them actually use their legs and WALK.

op YANBU IMO because I'm the same about the fact it says not to.

I just think what kind of example are setting our children if we let them break the rules and stand in the trolley instead of behaving themselves and sitting in the correct seat or walking.

Best thing I ever did was buy a huge A4 sized calculator for ds to add up the shopping as we went around!!!

Oooh people... you are all wrong. I DO IT IN WAITROSE!

And also I allow my toddlers to sit in a buggy without being strapped in. So yes, they have fallen out once or twice. So what? That way they learn not to mess about.

And I don't use straps on highchairs or in trolley seats. I can't see the point. I am there to watch, and if DD tries to stand up in her highchair, I either tell her not to or she comes out of the chair.

Oh and I can't imagine anyone would ever use the straps on those fold down changing tables that you find in public loos - would they?

I am a health and safety nightmare.

But this thread is about poo if I remember correctly

Maybe I am boring, but yes I do follow the rules, and happily allow my children to run around in the appropriate areas, and climb over equipment and areas that are approriate to.

However I do not see allowing my child to climb around something that is designed for carrying food, where I want to put my produce, nor running around (not walking next to the trolley) a shop, will ruin their childhood but will make it a more pleasant experience for me and for fellow shoppers.

No it's because they have a department for elf and safety!

surely you have to wash, peel or remove what you have bought from a packet anyway, produce could have God knows what on it from production and transit.

So IMO YABU from a dirty shoe perspective. Should they be standing in there, no in case it tips - different question. But sitting in the main trolley is OK imo

poppin, he wasn't walking because I was standing in one place choosing bloody UV suits. He would have stood still next to me but had more fun in the trolley. I quite like him to have fun when it is not causing any problem or danger to him or other people.

Given how snippy and judgemental you have been I might let him do it more often just in case you are local to me. Extrapolating about people's ability to discipline their children from whether they allow them to have confined fun in a supermarket? Pah to you!

Toddlers having fun? What an outrageous concept! They should be well behaved, sit still, walk on an adult's hand at all times and only speak when asked.

I put DS1 in the trolley every time we go. And then I pile the shopping on top of him so he can't escape.

I do find you have to be careful with eggs though...

Shculte yep that's exactly how children should behave.

And let them play in the parks, on the beach, in the forest, in the gardens, just not in the supermarket trolley.

I've just had a thought I wonder if the drunken teenagers who get their kicks from pushing each other up and down the streets in the middle of the night were once the toddlers whose parents idea of fun was to let them stand in a supermarket trolley!

poppin, so I take it you don't subscribe to the idea that you make every experience one where they can learn through play?

From my years of experience with teenagers, many of those teenagers who are out of control are rebelling against parents who had very staid views of what was appropriate behaviour, or who didn't bother to engage with their children at all. I am quite happy that my polite, well-adjusted children are enjoying a happy medium.

YABU I let my DD stand in a deep trolley while DS sits in the seat. It means I can actually get round the supermarket in 1 day without stopping to look at everthing/be nagged/or have them kill each other because they are wedged into a 2 seater.

FYI I do most of my shopping online, but sometimes have to go in to the shops.

Yes, that probably is a reflection on my terrible parenting, but frankly, I don't think it is the most important thing in the world. Why do some people feel the need to inflict their standards on everyone else???

So you don't like it. So what? Is it the end of the world? No!! We all have to live in this world and if we spent more time worrying about important stuff maybe the world would not be in this mess!!!

Rant over

Oh believe me my children enjoy themselves and I'm certainly not rigid in the having fun.

But play is appropriate for setting - in the supermarket it would be building with the products, counting the items into the bag, i-spy. If they don't want to walk sat in the trolley reading a book, playing ipod, dsi etc.

And I'm certainly not risk adverse with the playing, and I write this with one child currently in a cast due to a playing accident.

BrightLight - that's almost enough reason not to put kids in trolleys - eurghhhhh

You let your toddlers use a DSi? Time for me to don my own judgy-pants...

Building with the products??

Nor sure the supermarket would want kids sticky dirty fingers all over their produce, or kids building can pyramids in the aisles.

Is that better than being in a trolley. Are they taking up a special needs trolley to play on their DS, or do you steer them round by the hand whilst they look at the screen and bump into people.

I avoid tantrums because it exhausts my son and he's a little off for days if he goes at it, because other people are entitled to shop in peace, not listen to me make an example of my son so he can learn a lesson about how to behave in a supermarket, and because I'd rather take 10 mins in the supermarket than 45 minuts sitting on the floor by the toy section calming him down.

What about trolley-surfing on the sides?

I don't let mine in the trolley (some notion of it being lazy & slovenly looking on my part, never occurred to me to fuss about shitty shoes).

But I quite often bimble round aimlessly & at some point notice that ds or dd1 or both have climbed on to the side.

I don't care

ditto clem!

No they build with the cereal boxes that I want to buy, i.e. they are loading the trolley with the items I want to buy, they class it as building, I class it as putting the food in the trolley, but they are 'playing'.

No they are sat in the seat of a normal trolley, and actually the dsi was recommended for use when eye patch was being worn as it encourages focus of the lazy eye, so my youngest has had one since they were 2.

How old are your children? I thought the weight limit of a child's seat was 15kg so just over 2 stone. Would hate to think you were breaking H&S guidelines

My almost ten-year old still likes to ride in the little seat at the front. I'd never fit anything in if she sat in the main bit though.

I honestly didn't know there was a weight limit to the seat - always willing to learn. I will have to weigh youngest and check weight.

My eldest most definitely too old - I can send her to go and do the shopping for me now!