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to have deleted my facebook account

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superv1xen · 27/07/2010 16:46

.....my name is superv1xen and i am a facebook addict.

have had my account for a few years now and i think i have been spending FAR too much time on it, have even got it on my phone, i hate the way everyone can see what everyone else is doing to the point where when you meet up with your friends you pretty much have nothing to talk about! yet at the same time i was always logging on so i didnt feel "out of the loop" in any way!
and i am also fed up with the competitive stuff that goes on on there, ie people boasting about stuff, their cars, houses, holidays, how fecking AMAZING their kids are.....and then theres miserable, attention seeking updates, bitching, passive-aggressive statuses...(most of which i am afraid i too have been guilty of ) i was out on my best friends hen night at the weekend and when taking pics i was just thinking about putting them on facebook to show what a great night we had anyway....ffs!! i am a 30 year old mum of two and i think i REALLY need to get a real life. the people i am close to will hopefully keep in touch by phone etc anyway as well as meeting up like we do anyway, i just dont want to do it all via facebook anymore!

but i know its gonna be HARD!! its only been a few minutes since closing my account and already i am literally feeling weird about it ....so i am going cold turkey and am going to try my best not to go back on there. so please, fellow mumsnetters that have done this too, or hate facebook, i am begging you to keep me on the straight and narrow.

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SpringHeeledJack · 27/07/2010 16:54

well done foxy

now you can come on here all the time instead

FindingMyMojo · 27/07/2010 17:00
ISNT · 27/07/2010 17:06

i deleted mine

Have never looked back or missed it TBH

I am on here all the time though

EightiesChick · 27/07/2010 17:09

Good for you! I am a refusenik who has never joined because I hated the sound of all the stuff you described - the competitiveness and the 'oh, must check what's happened, it's been 3 minutes since I updated my status' malarkey.

I do occasionally wish I got access to it, but I have maintained my friendships without it so it can be done.

BollockBrain · 27/07/2010 17:09

i never had one, so wouldn't know what i am missing, except everyone seems to spread shit on facebook.

Shaz10 · 27/07/2010 17:14

I don't think you can permanently delete them can you?

Celery · 27/07/2010 17:17

I deactivated last Thursday. It's been okay. You can do it.

LaundryLyne · 27/07/2010 17:19

YANBU

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superv1xen · 27/07/2010 17:55

i know, i think i probably will end up on here more instead

but it really was getting to the point where it was taking over my life.

i am hoping that my true friendships will be ok anyway as i would hope we dont need some sill social networking site to maintain them.

shaz no - you can "deactivate" them (which means all you have to do is log back in and you are back on ...talk about temptation.

celery how have you found it? have you been tempted to go on again? have any of your friends wondered where you are? have you found that people still stay in touch with you?

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superv1xen · 27/07/2010 18:39

oh dear i think i do have an actual problem...i logged back in a few minutes ago just to see if anyone had noticed I had gone [sad cow emoticon] they hadn't.

help me with this PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!1

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ISNT · 27/07/2010 18:45

supervixen maybe switch your computer off completely and go and do something else - read, telly, walk, cook, anything.

I'm not trying to get rid of you but while your laptop is on the temptation will be there...

sapphireblue · 27/07/2010 18:50

MN is taking over my life.........

menaceandmayhem · 27/07/2010 18:53

I think if you contact facebook they can permanently delete accounts, so they can't be reactivated. I feel your pain though. Have decided that in Sept I am going to totally tone down my facebook, if not delete completely. Starting uni and don't think it will look to professional with some of the stuff I put on there

Druzhok · 27/07/2010 18:56

I updated my status to (briefly) explain I was going, deleted all my 'Friends', then deactivated my account.

bunlove · 27/07/2010 18:58

Good for you SV. I deleted mine about a year ago after some particularly nasty stuff happening on it and it's still a blessed relief!!

When people mention Facebook to me my response is automatically "FACEBOOK IS EVIL". Tongue in cheek really ladies but I do hate it and loath its power and slightly ominous undertone. Also you have to be really careful what you write as employers and potential employers/universities all check Facebook so it always feels like you are being watched.

GOOD ON YOU!

missnevermind · 27/07/2010 19:05

Change your pasword to a bunch of random letters, then you cant log in to check as you wont remember your pasword!

hippipotamiHasLost92lbs · 27/07/2010 19:09

I have never had one, never felt the need. My SIL is on fb and whenever we meet up as a family all she bleats on about is "when I was talking to so and so on facebook", and "where is my phone, I have not checked facebook for half an hour" (No you daft mare, we are at a family BBQ, enough already!) and to be honest I find it so very pathetic.

I have a handful of close friends. We do that oldfashiond think - we pick up the phone. And (gasp) arrange to meet. In person. Face to face. Fancy that! They are not interested in logging on to see when I last went to the cinema or what I did yesterday afternoon. I lead my life, they lead theirs. And when we meet we talk about what we have been up to. Much more fun.

You can do this - you dont' need 300 facebook friends. You can have a life. (and spend some of it on MN )

Mind you, I am biased. Ds was victim of a fb bullying campaign which some girls in his class had set up. Ds himself is not even on fb.
So it all has bad connotations for me anyway.

hippipotamiHasLost92lbs · 27/07/2010 19:10

think? I mean thing!

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superv1xen · 28/07/2010 16:33

hi thanks for all the supportive replies!!!

well its been about 24 hours now....i am still finding it very strange, and have had seveal texts and phone calls from concerned friends wondering where i was!

i am missing it though....

right sad cow arent i....

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Pwsimerimew · 28/07/2010 16:53

How brave... I want to do it too...but scared!!

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superv1xen · 28/07/2010 17:27

i am ever so depressed and grumpy today, i almost feel as if i have split up with someone or something, how ridiculous is that

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cocopear · 28/07/2010 20:12

well done super!!!!

Gleeb · 28/07/2010 20:48

Oh my god, the thought of deleting my facebook account is just.... . I check it about a gazillion times a day. Don't scare me in such a fashion.

Katisha · 28/07/2010 20:52

I deactivated a few months ago. I realised that everyone's status updates were annoying me hugely. Especially the cryptic ones where you had to say "ooh how do you mean" and they would fail to explain, in a lordly fashion.

I think it's OK for people who need it to keep in touch with family and friends who they don't often see, but why anyone over the age of 19 wants to use it as genuine social interaction beats me.

cocopear · 28/07/2010 21:45

oh god yeah i agree with katisha re the "cryptic statuses...

i love it though and can't stay away....

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