To think that hating/ not liking children is an unacceptable predjudice.

[GothAnneGeddes]

Children are human beings and we were all children once, yet people think it is acceptable to dislike them, just for being children.

Often people will say that they don't like bratty, ill behaved children, but then adults behave far worse and yet it is generally unacceptable to say "I hate men/women".

People used widely say I hate Jews/gays/black people, but now people generally (not all, sadly) know that it's wrong to think that way, so why don't people realise that about children?

Before anyone thinks I'm being over sensitive, there is far too much ill treatment of children (there's been some heinous threads on here, where I've wanted to weep for the children involved) and I think we really need to change our attitudes.

Shirley Knot - Even by AIBU standards, you're just being unpleasant now. I am well aware that MN is not an all powerful entity to cure all there worlds problems thanks.

I still don't think it's acceptable to dislike children. If others think that's unreasonable, that's their opinion and I accept that. No taking home of the ball required.

Whatever. You have no clear argument.

Calling me unpleasant made me hate the kid on the bus tomorrow. I hope you're happy.

Can I take the ball home too?

No. It's mine.

< laughs>

MINE

No, no, no, I am the Op, so the ball is mine!

So close.

Not playing with you two any more.

i dont like kids i dont know

My first husband didn't like children. Any of them, at any time. It was a kind of phobia I think. Being kind to him, he disliked the unpredictability and the reminders of his own miserable childhood. Being nasty to him, I think he also disliked the fact that children tend to get attention, removing some of it from him. I don't think it was totally unreasonable of him not to like children, but the way he reacted if required to be in the same room as them was indeed unreasonable. Different things but he couldn't see it.

Will you be wanting your Martyr Medal now or at a specia; ceremony?

//Often people will say that they don't like bratty, ill behaved children, but then adults behave far worse and yet it is generally unacceptable to say "I hate men/women". //

No, adults don't, actually. I work in a restaurant and children behave like dicks far more frequently than adults do. Adults generally don't just start screaming when something untoward happens. Toddlers do. It's not an enjoyable sound for anyone. It's not unpleasant because of who's making it, it's unpleasant because it's fucking annoying.

//People used widely say I hate Jews/gays/black people, but now people generally (not all, sadly) know that it's wrong to think that way, so why don't people realise that about children?//

Fucking awesome argument. I'm sure black people, Jews and gay people are all psyched to be compared to a demographic that is defined by its inability to not shit its pants. Good job. Idk, maybe it escaped your notice that children actually typically do behave like assholes until they're taught not to? Whereas an intrinsic quality of a Jew, a black person or a gay person is not that they suck? Amirite?

I'm a "dislike the behaviour, not the child" person, as clearly are a lot of people here, but think I am perfectly entitled to find a lot of behaviour totally unacceptable which just happenes to occur mainly in children.

I try to teach my kids not to exhibit that behavour, which is in the main about getting them to behave in ways that consider the rights and comfort of other people. Most of us are probably trying to do the same.