to be offended with 'here comes trouble'?

[Scaredycat3000]

He's only 16months FFS. His own Gran thinks its appropriate to label him and his cousin 'here comes trouble'. They are not 'trouble', they are very small toddlers and do not need clothes that demonize them before they get a chance to show what they can be!

I'd like to give her a T-shirt with 'Fat Bitch' an offensive untrue comment for her to wear, how would she like it?

And yes I know it's only a T-shirt, just like those padded bikinis are just an item of clothing.

Surly if you constantly tell a child something they will give in and become it?

Your dp must have inherited his mother's poor money management gene. Her choice to buy clothes she can't afford. His choice to buy food for the masses that he can't afford. Maybe he should only spend what he can afford and then you wont feel the need to blame other people. We are all responsible for our own spending after all.

You know there is no gene and that she taught him to live on credit cards! The masses are only P/B/Sils. I wish I could stop MIL doing her sob stories but she is clever enough to know I can see straight though her so only does it when I'm not around and DP has spent OUR money before I find out.
Anyway I have digressed, back to t-shirts?

My FIL bought my little boy a tracksuit with 'here comes trouble' on the front. I wasn't offended in the slightest, in fact I was very grateful as I found it a real struggle to buy clothes for 3 children. He looked really sweet in it too. He has turned out to be a very well behaved 13 year old.
Sorry OP, I think you are over reacting.

yabu- I say here comes trouble when I see my dd sometimes! It dosn't mean anything. Don't waste sleep over it.

YABU.

So she doesn't have much money...and she spends what she has on your children.

Then your DH buys lunch for his family.

They sound DREADFUL.

She doesn't have much money, and she spends what she has on something the OP's DS doesn't need.

Then the DH has to buy his mother food with money that he and the OP can't really spare, because his mother has spent her money on clothes for his DS (that the DS doesn't need).

So overall as a family everyone is skint, but the DS has a big pile of T-shirts that he'll never manage to wear all of. It's not the end of the world, but it's a bit pointless.

If you repeatedly buy a "gift" for a family that ends up costing them money, it's not actually madly generous overall. And it's not ungrateful for them to wish you wouldn't.

"Thank you HQW, my spelling is so bad the spell check struggles alot"

I wasn't correcting your spelling. I was talking about the idea that your son is being demonised.

Chill out lady!...people call me trouble tis affection and means he's smart as a whip!

at least thats my interpretation

I hate t-shirts like that, but you're taking this way too personally.

yabu

Seriously, unclench Scaredycat about the tshirts.
The lack of funds all round is more of an issue.

Thanks all, I have 'unclenched' . I have vented and feel better.
Some of you agree, some disagree, that is life, I am not alone. I'm not totally mad.

YANBU
I hate that stuff.

socialsciencetastic chuff,only a t shirt.calm down

"Surly if you constantly tell a child something they will give in and become it?"
lol oh ok then i will get the weans a t-shirt saying " prosperous genius"