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AIBU?

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to be offended with 'here comes trouble'?

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Scaredycat3000 · 27/07/2010 14:24

He's only 16months FFS. His own Gran thinks its appropriate to label him and his cousin 'here comes trouble'. They are not 'trouble', they are very small toddlers and do not need clothes that demonize them before they get a chance to show what they can be!

I'd like to give her a T-shirt with 'Fat Bitch' an offensive untrue comment for her to wear, how would she like it?

And yes I know it's only a T-shirt, just like those padded bikinis are just an item of clothing.

Surly if you constantly tell a child something they will give in and become it?

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uggmum · 27/07/2010 15:08

My ds has a t shirt which says 'sister for sale' on the front. He thinks its great but dd hates it and kicks him when he wears it.

It does not work though, no one has made me an offer yet

muffint · 27/07/2010 15:13

I'd like to say YABU as it's just meant lightly but having said that my MIL always gives me a cup with "cheeky beggar" written on it when she makes a cup of tea and it really winds me up.

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Scaredycat3000 · 27/07/2010 15:22

That gives me an idea uggmum, maybe a T-shirt next time we visit with 'Gran for sale'

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usualsuspect · 27/07/2010 15:23

YABU ..

ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave · 27/07/2010 15:24

My mother bought DS a T-shirt that says "Will trade sister for video game" and he is quite pleased with it (he says "I have a T-shirt with a lie on it. Well, it's a joke really.") but will not wear it outside the house because he is afraid that someone might think he means it.

megonthemoon · 27/07/2010 15:31

ProfessorLayton said exactly what I would say.

I loathe these, and the fact that they are always gendered - little princess is as bad as here comes trouble IMO. I'd just rather not have my children in slogan stuff anyway. I even hate things with the manufacturers name on (e.g. Next or a lot fo the Debenhams stuff or Gap) as my child isn't a walking advert for a shop either.

But if people buy them for us, I'm not offended. I just think they don't have as good the same taste as me, say thank you and then keep them as emergency haven't done the laundry t-shirts.

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Scaredycat3000 · 27/07/2010 15:48

I'm currently trying to work out how I am going to cover up the huge Gap logo on the hoodie that came with the t-shirt, can't use that inside much

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goodmorning · 27/07/2010 16:03

take the offending articles back to the shop and get an exchange, or give them to charity.
My mil bulk buys shite clothes for my twins, luckily with the tags still on, so they tend to go back and get changed for things i actually need.

prism · 27/07/2010 16:06

I think there a huge difference between saying "Here comes trouble" with a wink and giving a small child clothing that labels them that way. You're quite right, Scaredycat3000- if you keep telling children things (or even adults) they might end up believing them. They may not, too, but it seems daft to rely on that.

Of course the slogan on the T shirt may be meant to refer to the oncoming gran, not the child within...

Firawla · 27/07/2010 16:15

overreaction, yabu

MistyMooBags · 27/07/2010 16:18

My MIL loves the Barbie pink 'Princess' t-shirts and is horrifed when she sees my 16-month-old DD dressed in a child-sized Guns 'n' Roses t-shirt... :D

Just personal taste, I guess.

Chil1234 · 27/07/2010 16:24

I don't like the 'cute/knowing slogan' t-shirts much as a rule. However, my mum made me laugh when I got my 3mo baby DS a little England babygro for fun during Euro 2000 or a World Cup or whatever it was at the time. "They'll think he's a hooligan!!" she sniffed.....

KarenHL · 27/07/2010 16:30

I've always found the slogan T's in dubious taste, personally - I won't let them in the house. I would like to find somewhere that stocks plain, affordable coloured T's with no slogans or logos.

I imagine plenty of people who do find them amusing and funny, otherwise the shops wouldn't sell them.

Personally I'd donate the T-shirt to a shop or save it as a cover-up for painting/gardening.

I must admit I'd hate for my child to be described as 'trouble', no matter how affectionately it was meant.
YANBU to loate these dratted T's.

Vallhala · 27/07/2010 16:40

Good grief, do people have nothing else to worry about?

YABU.

prozacfairy · 27/07/2010 16:59

YABU.

But only because it's a phrase I use alot to talk about my nephew it's said with affection, as I'm sure it is when youd DS's gran says it.

Chill out love. If you don't like the t shirts your DS don't have to wear them. My MIL has bought loads of stuff that DD never wears coz the vileness of it is so offensive.

MisSalLaneous · 27/07/2010 17:11

It's not exactly a White Company linen shirt, but getting so worked up about it is pretty silly.

I affectionately call my ds my little monster. His affect on the room (sadly) fits the word, but I love him more than anything and of course I don't really think he can breathe fire / scare toddlers - or whatever it is monsters can do nowadays...

People get offended too easily.

tuggy · 27/07/2010 17:25

JJEEEEEESUS you are being unreasonable!

rubbersoul · 27/07/2010 17:26

I actually think some of the slogan t shirts are quite cute. 'cheeky monkey' and 'little monster' etc can be very affectionate- I wouldn't buy anything with these on though unless I knew the parents wouldn't be offended

DinahRod · 27/07/2010 17:38

Although a little ott Scaredy in your OP, I agree with the sentiment.

I dislike most sloganised Tshirts, especially for little boys because they are nearly always negative and encourage a negative stereotype - cheeky monkey, trouble, mess - none of which describe my ds. Similarly the tshirts a relative bought for dd that had 'diva in training' or something equally naff was returned to store.

Next are one of the worst culprits but they actually have some nice clothes in bright colours actually appropriate for children in the autumn/winter catalogue. Maybe they've been reading MN!

prozacfairy · 27/07/2010 17:42

I too do not mind slogan t shirts myself rubbersoul. My daughter has had a few. My only "issues" so far have been that although DD has had a top saying "my heart belongs to daddy" I haven't found one saying "my heart belongs to mummy"

The worst one has to be "future wag" courtesy of Primark I find it offensive and sexist.

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Scaredycat3000 · 27/07/2010 17:44

I wish I could return them to the shop, but she buys most things for him in outlet/factory shops so are mostly non-returnable. They still cost way more than most of his plain, colourful t-shirts that he has, so the waste of money bugs me.
prism and KarenHL totally agree, but I would as you agree with me

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wubblybubbly · 27/07/2010 17:46

YABU and rather ungrateful.

If we're given anything for DS then I make sure they see him wearing it at least once, whether I would choose it myself or not, to acknowledge the kindness of the gesture.

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Scaredycat3000 · 27/07/2010 17:47

Oh and MIL is always telling us how broke they are, so it's doubly annoying as you know they can't afford them.

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Mollydoggerson · 27/07/2010 17:50

If you don't like the t-shirt, accidentally tear it/throw bleach all over it and hey presto problem is gone.

yabu and overly precious I think.

Here comes trouble might mean, here comes a mischievious, curious and playful little chap. It's hardly nasty, but maybe a bit naff.

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Scaredycat3000 · 27/07/2010 17:55

WB I'll be less 'ungrateful' when MIL stops handing over a bag of shit expensive clothes then gives a sob story about how broke they are and then DP goes and buys the food for Sunday lunch for 10, which we can little afford ether.

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