not to let my sister bring her dogs into my house?

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I invited my sister, her DH and their DD (21) up for Sunday lunch and my sister asked if she could bring her two dogs. My text back to her explained at how much I was cringing answering her request in the hope she'd understand how difficult it was refusing but I asked if they be happy in the garden? (nice day)

She replied she'd leave it then, with no kiss at the end of the message. I was a bit miffed and replied 'Catch you later'.

I sent her another text the next day asking if she was ok generally as I was still unsure if it was the dog 'issue' but didn't get a reply.

Mum rang 2/3 days later saying that she'd spoken to her and she said I'd chosen my house over her and that I didn't understand the love she feels for her dogs.

I sent my sister a very long text back explaining that I do understand as I've got a cat and I explained that we'd made a choice not to have a dog and as she knows, we've just finished the kitchen and downstairs after 5 years of DIY hell and that we didn't want it spoiled. She is also aware of the stress we'd been under living too.
I reasurred her that I love her dogs and that there was no way I was choosing my house over her. I said again that her dogs could have stayed in the garden whilst we had lunch and then we could have gone for a walk up the hill at the back of the house.

I didn't put this in the text but we have off white polished tiles with off white grout which haven't been sealed yet. Also, her dogs are big, with long beards which are prone to massive drips and they are very, very excitable and bubbly and I was just worried about them damaging something in our small home.

My friends, little short haired dog comes into our house and is very welcome as she's no problem.

Yesterday, mum rang me to say that my sister has given her my sons birthday card to give to him meaning she has no intention of seeing him on or near his birthday?

AIBU to want to keep my house looking nice?
AIBU to offer her dogs my big garden? (just incase someone thinks the garden is an issue IYKWIM)
AIBU to reassure my sister she is loved and it isn't personal?
AIBU to offer to cook her dinner?
AIBU how I tried to explain to her that I found it difficult not to offend her?
AIBU how I tried to explain my reasons regarding 5 long
bloody years of DIY hell?

what a moo. call her and ask her if shed like to discuss the situation with you, and say yes you are choosing your home over her dogs presently, as 5 years of stressful and expensive DIY could be undone in minutes by the dogs, no matter how well behaved.

just wondering, people who do take their dogs to other peoples houses, why?

i might take my dog to my friends farm but it never occured to me to take them round when i was visiting people. is there any particular reason or do your friends ask you to bring them?

My mother has never forgotten me after the day she (unasked) brought her large dog to my small house and I asked her to take it out the house because it was scaring DD half to death (she was literally stood shaking and screaming).

Poor diddums couldn't possibly be left in the garden and I was very rude for not letting it in the house (apparently).

Dog is child substitute for some people.

My sister told my mum 2/3 later that she wanted to bring the dogs because one of them was ill? If it were me, I would have not accepted my lunch invite and stayed with the poorly dog OR had lunch and gone straight after but her initial text reply indicated that she wanted to come over for lunch AND take the dogs up the hill .

wishingchair, yes will do.

NarkyPuffin, she lives about 10 mins away.

Thank you mumsnetters, I really do appreciate you taking the time to reply. I'd hate to be narrow minded and to assume that I was automatically 'right' without running it past you guys.

I will wait for a 'brave day' to ring her as a tad fragile atm but I will definately ring her.

So she wants to take a sick dog and bundle it into the car for an unnecessary journey, so it can be at your house whilst throwing up or having the runs or whatever all over your new floor?

She is clearly just being emotionally manipulative and selfish. Sell her organs on ebay.

YANBU. I've heard that some Hindu and Muslim householders do not allow dogs inside houses, and that also goes for people with allergies to dogs and people who are fed up with interminable house cleaning (like me). The dogs will be perfectly happy in the garden.

And I do love dogs!