To contact social services if I know one of the parents has taken drugs?

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I only know of one occasion, and the child was not in their care at the time.

It is definitely only recreational, as they work full time and it would only be done on an evening out.

yabvu. I'ld mind my own business.

What Totalchaos said.

yadbu. None of your business what they put in their body if they are not with child and not exposing child to any harm.

Don't be ridiculous.

If we're talking about an odd joint, and as you say, the child wasn't in their care at the time, so what?

If they're shooting up heroin while pouring out the cornflakes, on the other hand....

What? Depends if it was angel dust or weed really. One occasion and when children were not with them? AYHAL? (are you having a laugh?)

The child wasn't even there so not in any danger. YABVU.

YABU!

I hope that you've never smoked or drank since becoming a parent?

What parents do with their bodies only matters to ss if their children are harmed by it. Unless you can explain how this might happen then YABU. I can't imagine how over ran ss departments would be if they had to get involved with every child whose parents smoked a spliff or had a line of coke on a night out.

Do try harder....

So child wasn't in their care.

Has only happened once as far as you know.

I'm guessing you've never drunk too much on a night off, or had a drag of a joint then?

Put it in perspective.

The patients I work with are drug users and we don't automatically refer to SS. There are many parents on methadone who take heroin on top, usually on "paydays", who are perfectly competent parents - even if their parenting styles differ from mine!. Evidence of neglect or harm as a result of drug taking is grounds for a referral.

Wouold you care to report me too? I drank most of a bottle of champagne last night..and I was in charge of my children.

Recreational drugs are just that - recreational. I.e - they are not habitual and should have no impact on daily life including care of children. Using recreational drugs when your children are safe and being cared for is no worse (IMHO) than people going out and binge drinking on a child-free night out

No.

I think in the circumstances that you describe it is unlikely that social work would take it any further.

No way.

They were on a night out, without there children.

It's not as if they were shooting up in the living room.

Please, go and get a hobby. There are some great craft courses at the Adult Community College

I'm normally the first one queueing up with my pitchfork to yell, 'Tell social services', and I'm pretty hardline on combining drugs with childrearing, but even I think this would be BVU. You have to see that there is actual harm occurring, it's not just a principle: drugs = bad parent. If all parents who occasionally misused substances had their kids taken off them, there wouldn't be many children left at home.

Or is this you who took the drugs? Are you feeling guilty? If so, do say and we can have a proper conversation about that!

Why would you want to inform social services?

Bwahahahaha

YABU you busybody.

Ok hands up - not a troll but I was just asking in the third person as someone is threatening to tell social services this about my DH as he has done this on 2 or 3 occasions in the past.

Personally I don't feel it has any effect on his parenting, which is why I wanted neutral opinions - I agree with the majority.

Very sorry to mislead you, but I just wanted an honest perspective.

I'm a regular but have namechanged for this.

bad form to pretend IMO. But anyway - no, nothing will happen. You have to be actually putting a child at risk for SS to give a shit. Who is threatening you? How are you going to deal with it?