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To be a bit shocked by what i saw today.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 25/07/2010 22:53

I took DS's out today and shortly before we left I let the play in the splash zone.

DS2 had his shorts and t-shirt on as it was very very hot and sunny ds1 was in rolled up tracky bottoms and his t-shirt.

I was a bit shocked by a couple of things I saw.

1 was a little girl running around naked - which tbh made it difficult to take photos of DS1 and DS2 playing although i managed to avoid catching her in all but 1 photo and that one has been editted so she has now got black knickers on.

The other thing was a young girl possible 7yrs old in a tiny bikini who was crouched over the jets of the splash zone gyrating herself everytime the water shot upwards

Now while I wasn't directly watching her I could hear other people talking and finally one mentioned to her parents that this possibly wasn't the best thing for her to do in public.

I have to admit the 2nd thing was more shocking than the little girl running round.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 26/07/2010 00:05

Miss, the photos i took only had other kids legs or arms in, I was in front of my DS's when I took the pics.

That is why I didn't notice this child until I uploaded the photos to my laptop. and then I blacked out her bottom half prior to sending the picture to family.

There were not that many parents/children there and I would have happily put my camera away had I been asked. As I said there were others taking photos of their toddlers.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 26/07/2010 00:05

Miss, the photos i took only had other kids legs or arms in, I was in front of my DS's when I took the pics.

That is why I didn't notice this child until I uploaded the photos to my laptop. and then I blacked out her bottom half prior to sending the picture to family.

There were not that many parents/children there and I would have happily put my camera away had I been asked. As I said there were others taking photos of their toddlers.

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ChippingIn · 26/07/2010 00:05

ilovetiffany & booyhoo - they are both quite nasty posts. Just because TLE has a different opinion and often ends up defending herself doesn't mean she shouldn't post in AIBU or anywhere else she pleases.

TLE - maybe it would help to link to your posts on a similar thread last year?

GypsyMoth · 26/07/2010 00:05

This is getting stranger and stranger!!

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TheLadyEvenstar · 26/07/2010 00:07

Tokyo come on I did not photoshop a pair of knickers taken from a site. I used the paintbrush tool and painted a pair of more like shorts on the child.

What could I possibly be charged with? covering a child up so I could share a photo with family?

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booyhoo · 26/07/2010 00:07

the thing is TLES, in this situation, your worry is unfounded. you had no reason to believe the child didn't have suncream on. you had no reason to believe either of these children were at risk of anything happening to them.

truth be told when i see a thread that has been started by you i roll my eyes an inwardly say "here we go again". i usually just click out of them because they all usually follow the same path but sometimes curiosity gets the better of me and despite my better judgement i posted. and now i wish i never had because it is the same old thing. so i am going now and will be avoiding your threads in future. sory if that is harsh, but it is the way your threads make me feel. they aren't worth the argument.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 26/07/2010 00:08

Chippin which?

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GypsyMoth · 26/07/2010 00:08

No they aren't nasty posts......

booyhoo · 26/07/2010 00:08

chipping, i never said she shouldn't post here.

tokyonambu · 26/07/2010 00:09

Surely peadophiles are only a risk if you're a legume?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 26/07/2010 00:10

Boo but I am not arguing???? I posted to say I was shocked and then said you know you are right shocked is not the right word.

I am a worrier over some things thats life some people worry some don't. I don't let it affect me and I get on with my life. The boys are not henpecked or cossated they have freedom that is on par for their ages.

If you chose to steer clear of my threads thats actually no skin off my nose.

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tokyonambu · 26/07/2010 00:16

You originally said "one has been editted so she has now got black knickers on" Black knickers are hardly routine for young children, and one would struggle to understand why someone had photoshopped black (particularly black) underwear onto a photograph that is otherwise perfectly innocent.

S.84(2) and S.84(3) of the Criminal Justice and Public Order Act, 1994 would apply, from memory: the bit about indecent pseudo-photographs.

Try this one. A child is running around in a nappy. Someone takes a photograph and replaces the nappy with "black knickers". Can you see a problem?

Oblomov · 26/07/2010 00:18

boo posted my views on the paranoia. Op do you honestly think that your over anxious and sometimes paranoid views don't affect your children.
You may not have said anything today. But do you honestly think that you are not affecting your children ?

I don't quite know what to say.
You speak as if you've done nothing wrong/have no hang-ups. Being paranoid and thus teaching your children your paranoia, its nothing to be proud of you know.
You need to give this some thought and atleast try and regain some balance.

Monty100 · 26/07/2010 00:22

LES - why is this in AIBU? Why not in chat or....

You are always having defend yourself on here, have you noticed? I have.

TBH, I don't think you're paranoid. I actually think you are extremely judgey.

Oblomov · 26/07/2010 00:22

"am a worrier over some things thats life some people worry some don't. I don't let it affect me and I get on with my life. The boys are not henpecked or cossated they have freedom that is on par for their ages."

but that doesn't make sense."I don't let it affect me" bit. of course you do. it is who you are. how can you not see this.

if you were horrifically abused as a child, and i'm not saying you are, but if you had been, it does affect you. you may have counselling and it may get better. but you are in denial about how your personality affects your children.

mine affects mine.
all of us do.

how can anyone logically argue against that ?

TheLadyEvenstar · 26/07/2010 00:23

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SpottyMuldoon · 26/07/2010 00:24

How ironic that you were feeling all paranoid about paedos watching the kids when other people might have been thinking you looked well dodgy with your camera.

Maybe the other people were talking to the parents about you taking photos and that's why they put a t-shirt on the little girl.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 26/07/2010 00:25

sorry wrong link

here

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TheLadyEvenstar · 26/07/2010 00:27

Spotty, quite possibly who knows. I was taking photos away from where she was but who knows.

I was not abused as a child no. I was raped at 18. and can admit this may be why I worry

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Onestonetogo · 26/07/2010 00:32

that just looks wrong LadyEvenstar, the black pants are a sore. You might as well change your name to TheLadyPrudish.
But I accept that we all feel different about nudidity, so maybe you're more on the Victorian side od prudish than most people.

Oblomov · 26/07/2010 00:34

bless. you can't even see anything. its not frontal. a little peachy bum. its sweet. its natural.
oh i've come over all gooey.

TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench · 26/07/2010 00:34

You felt the need to cover up a blurred babies bottom?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 26/07/2010 00:35

it looks wrong to cover a child when I am sending the photo via the net to family?

I would rather cover the child and be safe than send a photo containing a nude child.

I don't have a problem with nudity as a rule but I am not overly keen on seeing it in such a public place. That is my opinion and as previously said we are all entitled to our opinions.

not to worry I am happy to replace the black with a tree/bush covering the whole child in fact i now see i can cut that bit out.

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TheMoistWorldOfSeptimusQuench · 26/07/2010 00:38

Sorry TLE, I don't want to bash you, but I'm alarmed by the level of paedo-paranoia that people carry around with them as standard these days.

This can't be healthy, and it is going to rub of on your DCs.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 26/07/2010 00:39

Themoist. I would rather it rub off on them than DS2 go through what DS1 did tbh.

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