to cut my DDs hair - WWYD?

[undercovamutha]

DD (4) has quite long hair, which is absolutely gorgeous [biased mother emoticon]!. Whenever it isn't tied back, she always gets compliments about how lovely it is, and how lucky she is etc etc.

However, cos it is so wavy/curly, it is a nightmare to brush and wash. DH normally handles bathtime/hairwashing, but I brush DDs hair in the morning. We are both utterly traumatised at the moment about DDs behaviour when we brush it.

It has always been a trial. We have tried a million things to make it easier (detangling spray, different brushes, different shampoos, talking to DD, cuddling her whilst the other one brushes it etc etc). Recently it has got so hard to brush it - she screams, writhes, rolls on the floor, and has even made herself sick! And this is with us trying to be as gentle as possible!

DH is adamant that she needs to have her hair cut short, and that he is not putting up with it anymore. I kind of agree with him in one way - but her hair is just so beautiful!

Also my mum did the same to me when I was younger (although I have quite ordinary/boring hair), and I was often mistaken for a boy, so I have my own ishoos about the situation !

Would I be being unreasonable to agree with DH and get her hair cut short? WWYD?

Oh and herbal essenses it brill (the red one ESP)

Thanks everyone. I don't use a conditioner for her at the moment (I know I am useless!!!) cos I worry about her sensitive skin. She uses a fragrance free shampoo at the mo, but think I will risk a change. She sometimes uses the loreal detangler spray and hasn't had a reaction, so will risk their shampoo I think.

Hester - DD really does want long hair. She has a severe Disney Princess obsession, and to her long hair = princess!!!

Don't cut it condition it.
Plaster with conditioner and comb before rinsing, then plait loosely for night time. Also start teaching your daughter to comb it herself as this will hurt a lot less.
I well remember my mother half scalping me, and a slap if I cried.

Ouch! No wonder it hurts!!

This is a fab conditioner for children with sensitive skin.

www.greenpeople.co.uk/childrens-conditioner-lavender-200ml.aspx

cut her hair before she does it herself! you could be describing my dd 6 months ago, just before her 5th birthday she got hold of some scissors on a saturday evening and chopped just below her ear from the front as far round as she could get. i was gutted and given the timing had to neaten it up myself so she had a bob as it was the only thing i could do with what she had done. when we went to the hairdressers they complimented my job but it still took weeks to get used to it, i was genuinely very upset, silly i know but true!

since she cut it mornings have been so much better, her hair is more manageable and she is taking more responsibility for brushing it herself so i only give it a quick finishing off brush, now i wish we had cut it earlier, at first it was too short and a bit boyish but now its grown out a bit and can nearly have hairstyles again it is better

other people on her ehave nailed it. Combing when the hair has a lot of conditioner on is a lot easier. then just pat dry with a towel (no rough towel drying), wont need brushing again til the next wash if you manage it well.

let us know how it goes!

I have curly hair,and I haven't brushed it since 1974.My dd has fairly curly hair and I don't brush hers either,I just run my fingers through it to ease out the tangles,and I detangle with conditioner when she has it washed.Curly hair doesn't need brushing at all imo,but you could try an afro comb if you want to ease out knots.

If you are worried about conditioners, use Moroccan oil, or coconut/jojoba oil - a tiny amount rubbed through after washing is amazing, or you can use it as an intensive prewashing mask.