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to think its a little OTT in asking your DC for a 'snog'

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fartblossom · 23/07/2010 16:04

Just come from picking DS up from school (he has just finished Reception) and outside the gates another little boy in his class was telling his mum about his day and his mum said something along the lines of "Wow thats great, gisa snog". Now to me a snog is a little more than just a parent/child kiss. I dont for one minute think she was thinking the same as I was in the term snog, but I was a little , but then again this is the same mum who Ive constantly heard swearing to her child (not in a f you kind of way, but more of a I was waiting for the f-ing bus and the wanker of the bus driver etc).

Is it just me that finds it a little strange or have I got my perception completely wrong?

Thanks

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Shaz10 · 23/07/2010 16:05

I have heard lots of mums say this. I don't like it but I've got used to it, so it doesn't sound as creepy as it used to. I think it's just slang that's evolved.

StealthPolarBear · 23/07/2010 16:06

oh yes I've heard this, it is just slang but it's horrible IMO

rubyslippers · 23/07/2010 16:06

I smooch my kids
Trun of phrase IMO and IME not a description necessarily

rubyslippers · 23/07/2010 16:06

I smooch my kids
Trun of phrase IMO and IME not a description necessarily

thursday · 23/07/2010 16:11

i have asked my baby to stop snogging me once or twice. she's at the suction face stage

nagoo · 23/07/2010 16:12

I don't like it, but I've never used the word snog in my life so maybe I don't like that?

PuppyMonkey · 23/07/2010 16:13

Don't find "snogging" as bad as "fartbottom" personally.

PuppyMonkey · 23/07/2010 16:14

Ooh sorry, it's fartblossom

Still fart, eh? Sounds a bit rude that....

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fartblossom · 23/07/2010 16:14

Come to think of it Im not sure Ive ever used it either. TBH I think of snogging something you do behind the bike sheds when your 14.

Perhaps I was a little shocked, I did come straight back here to ask about it.

I just dont think Id use it myself (even less for a parent/child kiss)

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nagoo · 23/07/2010 16:15

'fartblossom' is entirely different

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fartblossom · 23/07/2010 16:34

Well now its fart vs snog?

Firstly, I personally dont think either is a swear word, yeah fart is a bit more risky than snog, but not exactly fuck is it.

Secondly, Im not talking about the actual words, but more about the way in which the word 'snog' was used by a parent to a 5 year old boy while asking for a kiss. Its a completely different issue to what we think of each others names. (At the time of coming up with my name I could think of nothing amusing - not very creative me - so just stuck with it)

Thirdly, I know that these are open forums and that anyone with access to the internet can see them (unless they are blocked for work or whatever), but I would imagine that most of the people here are over a certain age (early teens). Not that that really matters to me as like I have said IMO fart isnt exactly a swear word.

Lastly, after thinking it through and reading a couple of responses, maybe I was a bit OTT to be shocked, I honestly didnt think it was appropriate. No I dont wear pearls to whoever brought them up, infact far from it

So I really havent a clue why when I start a thread about a mother asking her child for a snog I should get jumped on about my onscreen nickname.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 23/07/2010 16:36

it's a bit icky to judge people for what they say to their kids, I mean it's implying they are being inappropriate to them , that's a serious insult IMO. YABU a bit.

StealthPolarBear · 23/07/2010 16:38

PM it took me ages to understand why you brought up the word fartblossom - just seemed to come out of nowhere

GetOrfMoiLand · 23/07/2010 16:39

I would judge. It's common.

So is calling your kids sexy. Woman at my old job left to have a baby, she called it Lexxii. came in to show the baby and she picked her up and went 'sexy Lexxii'.

I judged that as well.

I am a judgemental bastard.

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fartblossom · 23/07/2010 16:39

I was actually more shocked that the word snog was used (IE that it was said by anyone to a child not necessarily this mother), not that I actually thought she was being inappropriate to him. I tried to make that clear in my first post, maybe I wasnt clear enough. Sorry.

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fairylights · 23/07/2010 16:40

we used to say our ds was "snogging" us when he was doing that wide-open mouth kiss thing all over our faces but just in jest. Now he says that his baby sister is doing it if she does the same thing.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 23/07/2010 16:41

no I just mean that even saying the word is wrong could make someone who used it feel pretty crap IMO.

StealthPolarBear · 23/07/2010 16:41

yes ikwym OP - saying "give me a snog to a baby" seems odd to me too, in the same league as calling children sexy

YetAnotherIssue · 23/07/2010 16:42

I say snog to my kid and now I see it as warm cuddles and pecks with them instead of it's original meaning.

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fartblossom · 23/07/2010 16:45

Good job I didnt say anything then. I would never do that anyway. To me snogging is something 14 year olds do behind the bikesheds. Its slang for french kissing to me. I was more shocked that it is now being used to describe a kiss between parent and child.

But like I said, perhaps I was OTT before. I hadnt honestly heard the word for years and in my mind that's what I thought of. NOT like I said ealier she was in any way being inappropriate. I honestly didnt realise the meaning of it had changed now, but now it obviously has. I have learned that by the responses I have gotten. In other words I accept that yes I probably was BU, but now Im trying to explain what did make me think the way I did at first.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 23/07/2010 16:49

I do see where you are coming from though.

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fartblossom · 23/07/2010 16:51

I dont like the term sexy either. When DS was first born she called him saucy ewwwww, till I said I didnt like it. Same as sexy IMO

Thanks Fanjo. I was trying not to offend you cos I thought I had. Sorry

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 23/07/2010 16:52

no, no, no of course not.

I have never used those terms. just I could imagine if I did and someone said they were inappropriate I would be mortified.

PuppyMonkey · 23/07/2010 16:56

Fart {grin] just to explain, the in my first post about farts was supposed to indicate that I was joking - I'm not really offended by the word fart. Or snog for that matter. That smile means I am totally chillaxed....

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fartblossom · 23/07/2010 16:56

yeah suppose, although others saying they do and what it means to them have made me think that maybe it wasnt THAT bad a thing to say. I just didnt honestly think it was said in that context, but like I said in my first post Ive heard this women use swear words with her child so that probably didnt help the shock factor of it.

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