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AIBU?

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to inform the school?

53 replies

megawoman · 22/07/2010 18:40

Bit of an awkward one but I am friends with loads of people on facebook. Various sets of parents from the same school have been putting photos of children's leavers assembly on there. Today a parent also placed it on youtube. I understand about people wanting to see their own children etc but one clip is of all 45 children that are leaving the school and is a montage of photos of all children on starting and leaving the school. I am a governor at this school and felt the school needed to be aware of this as the disc containing photos is copyrighted to the school. One parent has now removed me from facebook etc as she told me she was annoyed that somebody had said anything and I explained it was me and why. Was I being unreasonable?

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scurryfunge · 22/07/2010 18:43

Are you annoyed because the school can't make any money from selling the disc?

sowhatis · 22/07/2010 18:43

i think its upto the parents of the children. but guessing the school must have some sort of policy on this.

Ladyanonymous · 22/07/2010 18:44

YANBU - Not all people want their kids plastered over the internet and if they weren't aware or given a choice its not fair.

You were being responsible and your position as govener may have been comprimised if you have not said anything.

katiestar · 22/07/2010 18:44

Yes

sapphireblue · 22/07/2010 18:46

YANBU. As a parent I would be mightily annoyed if someone had posted photos of my child on facebook/youtube without bothering to ask.

katiestar · 22/07/2010 18:46

Presumably all the child have given permission to be photographed otherwise they wouldn't have had their pics on the disc.The OP just seems to be upset that the school may lose out on selling parents pictures of their own kids.

megawoman · 22/07/2010 18:47

no not because of money at all I feel very strongly about this as children are vulnerable. As a childminder I am not allowed to take photos of children without their permission and what I use their photos for is strictly governed.

There are also many situations where you could potentially put people at risk for example Imagine you have escaped domestic violence moved to a new town and suddenly your child's photo in their school uniform is plastered all over internet a quick google will give you school address etc

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poppy34 · 22/07/2010 18:48

Yanbu- I don't even like family posting pics let alone random types from school without my permission.

megawoman · 22/07/2010 18:48

Katiestar where do I say anything about money? If parents want to copy other peoples discs they will but that would not be puttting it on the internet

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Buzzybb · 22/07/2010 18:48

Catch 22 I am afraid but then we deal with this in our hse by having a zero policy of any pics of the dc an any internet site, 3 of our dc are fostered and there are safety/security whatever you want to call it so I would be very upset and annoyed if someone did this so I would say YANBU, but I am sure plenty will say UABU sorry but am running away now

megawoman · 22/07/2010 18:50

Buzzybb exactly what I mean you refuse to have photos on internet but another parent could put them on without your permission you don't have to run anywhere

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sumum · 22/07/2010 18:51

i totally agree with Buzzybb. YANBU

porcamiseria · 22/07/2010 18:53

YANBU

purpleturtle · 22/07/2010 18:55

Buzzybb has made the point I came to make. YANBU

cleverlyconcealed · 22/07/2010 18:56

YANBU - we inform parents at the beginning of the production/assembly/whatever that they can take photographs but are not to upload photos that include others' children to the internet without prior permission.

I would inform the school and ask them to reiterate to parents that whilst they can do what they like with photos of their own children they need to consider the wishes of other parents.

ivykaty44 · 22/07/2010 18:57

If the photos were taken by the school - then the parents are not allowed to put them onto fb - fb do ask if you have cpyright.

All you nend to do is tell facebook that they do not have permission to use these photographs and they ned to take them down form their pages

First though you need to get a letter out to all the parents giving them chance to take the photogrpahs down themselves as they do not have copyright and there maybe photogrpahs within the groups of people that shouldn't or could be foudn die to this- though that is not the reason.

I will say I have done this and at first the person refused to tkae aphotogrpah down that didn't belong to them - but a second letter and possible court action did get results, they took the photogrpah down

toccatanfudge · 22/07/2010 18:59

agree with Buzzybb

crisproll2 · 22/07/2010 19:00

YADNBU. I would be FURIOUS if someone put my DS`s picture of youtube or facebook. And also what Buzzbb said.
(I think people were thinking about the money side of things because you mentioned copyright maybe?)

megawoman · 22/07/2010 19:02

crisproll2 thank you that makes more sense only mentioned copyright because I thought it would explain that photo's were made by school and that is why I informed them

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mummytime · 22/07/2010 19:04

The school might be vulnerable to being sued, as I am sure the picture permission form does not cover a video being posted on youtube.

I would inform the school.

If it was my kids school (I was relieved you said 45 leavers) I would be extremely cross, and kicking up all kinds of complaints.

scurryfunge · 22/07/2010 19:05

I think I jumped to the conclusion, sorry that this was a copyright issue. I didn't consider children on you tube, etc. (probably because DS and his mates constantly upload films of themselves on it).

DetectivePotato · 22/07/2010 19:08

YANBU, I would be happy for people to take personal photographs etc, but I wouldn't like them on facebook let alone Youtube.

megawoman · 22/07/2010 19:15

I did not think I was being unreasonable but I did start to wonder thanks

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nancydrewrocked · 22/07/2010 19:18

As an aside those of you who do object to photos of your DC being posted on the internet can you explain why?

Obviously people who have fled DV etc need not explain their reasons but for you average parents I'm really interested since I'm not too bothered about it (I accept it as an inevitabel consequence of the digital age in which we live) and I'm now wondering if I am in some way negligent or neglectful....

scurryfunge · 22/07/2010 19:22

pseudo images can be made for the benefit of paedophiles, nancydrewrocked