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AIBU?

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to think that there has been an over reaction to the Dr Pepper incident?

176 replies

TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 20/07/2010 15:58

Not my opinion but that of Chiabom amongst others who can hopefully continue the debate here instead.

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confuddledDOTcom · 22/07/2010 01:52

I've become quite angry and stopped reading.

I'm a Doula. I'm a Doula who has suffered from Birth Trauma (for the uneducated that means Post Traumatic Stress Disorder following a birth). For me it was having a crash section with a general anaesthetic. But I know some women (myself included) who have crash sections with general anaesthetic and don't suffer from BT.

I know of a woman who suffered it because the doctor walked in and said "right, lets get your pants off" why for that woman? Most women get told to take their pants off when pregnant, not always politely and lets not get into what they do when you do, often without warning!

Some women experience it because their baby isn't given straight to them, but that's the norm in America.

Maybe a more masculine example, why doesn't ever solider come back with PTSD?

The mind is a complex machine and it is far from predictable. What upsets one person in identical circumstances another person doesn't even think twice about. A "normal" person can be totally traumatised by something that seems trivial to every other "normal" person.

As far as this situation is concerned, if the child in question had been looking for porn of her own accord, if it was something that she'd taken an interest in looking up, I'm sure the mother and a lot of other mothers wouldn't have had the same reaction. The reaction was because anyone could have picked that up, they don't know who was on the receiving end of it. Maybe a 13 year old who is being abused saw it or maybe a younger child when their older sibling was online saw it.

Someone showed my sister porn when she was quite young, in this country it's called SEXUAL ABUSE* she was traumatised for a long time over it.

  • I'd think that's a good reason to not go out of my way to share porn with a child, I'd rather not end up as a Sched 1 thank you very much!
StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 22/07/2010 11:16

Chiabom seems to have abandoned the debate - one can only speculate why.

StewieGriffinsMom · 22/07/2010 11:59

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TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 22/07/2010 12:02

Oh well he was more fun than Jimbo.

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gorionine · 22/07/2010 13:51

Jimbo?

TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 22/07/2010 14:00

Jimbo was a fairly incoherent trollish poster on the original thread.

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gorionine · 22/07/2010 14:08

Oh thanks, I had only skimmed the original thread as I saw it very late and it was so big. Must have missed Jimbo.

confuddledDOTcom · 22/07/2010 14:54

Since seeing "Jimbo?" in my "Threads I'm On" I can't stop a certain 1980s theme tune going through my head.

gorionine · 22/07/2010 14:57

Is there some "ohh ha ha ooohh ah ah" involved confudeld

confuddledDOTcom · 22/07/2010 14:57

You asked for it!

gorionine · 22/07/2010 15:01

Oh I did not have that one in mind and now I am late for the school run! Will try later to find my Jimbo memory!

mumwhatnothing · 22/07/2010 15:08

Chiabom, you will never get politeness on an AIBU thread. It doesn't enter people's heads to be polite when trying to hurt, upset, annoy you because of your sheer audacity to stray to this thread. They feel it is their right to treat people terribly on this thread, I no longer start threads here but I do read it and feel sorry for numerous people who made the same mistake I once did.

Anyway.... I totally agree with Chiabom.

confuddledDOTcom · 22/07/2010 15:11

That's not quite fair. The very question you are asking isn't really asking people to go easy on you!

It's a good job you have a public profile on MN at least...

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 22/07/2010 15:46

Mumwhatnothing - you agree that pornography is not damaging for children to watch, and is, in fact, educational? Astounding.

LadyBiscuit · 22/07/2010 16:12

My first ever deleted post

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 22/07/2010 21:44

Oooohhh - get you!!

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 23/07/2010 02:08

Well, I officially declare victory on this thread, then, if Chiabom's not coming back.

Chiabom agreed that his opinion was based on an unsubstantiated personal feeling and he can't show that it has any more validity than ours.

Coming from, I'm going to stick my neck out and guess, a middle class white man who's always been taught that his opinion is more important than those of women, I think that's not bad going.

Anyone want to join me in a victory lap?

BitOfFun · 23/07/2010 02:11
StewieGriffinsMom · 23/07/2010 07:47

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PosieParker · 23/07/2010 08:32

I just googled scat porn, didn't know what it was, and found devoted sites to it.....so how come a poster said it's illegal? Is it?

Longtalljosie · 23/07/2010 08:33

In a sense, Chiabom, it matters not one toss what you think.

As gorionline has pointed out, showing underage children pornography is considered, under the law, to be child abuse.

As our chums in EastEnders would say, End Of.

Mayorquimby - you've misread the situation. The original OP's daughter agreed to let her status be turned into "something embarrassing". She didn't know what it would be but was expecting something like "I've wet the bed". She had to surrender her status to something chosen by Dr Pepper. They chose the statuses, including the 2 girls 1 cup one. She didn't understand what it meant when it popped up, so googled it but was blocked by the OP's child filters.

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 23/07/2010 08:34

I don't know if it's illegal, but it's certainly illegal to expose children to pornography of any sort.

LadyBiscuit · 23/07/2010 08:40

I shall be cheering you on. I've been up all night with a puking child so running is off my agenda this morning.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 23/07/2010 11:41

I'll do a victory lap with you, but at a slow meander because I'm letting myself feel tired and blue this morning. I'm skipping the gym too, so the lap will be my exercise for the day (I hope it's not too long).

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 23/07/2010 17:53

Can......(huff puff) I .......(huff puff huff) stop.....(hufffff puff) doing.......(puff pufffpuff) laps......(hufffff) now.......(pantpantpuff), please?