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AIBU?

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Original poster

to book a holiday without the dc's???

35 replies

mosschops30 · 20/07/2010 11:46

Me and dh have never had a full weeks holiday together without the dc's.
We've had weekend breaks, and 4 days away in Italy a couple of years ago, but Ive just had some money that I didnt expect and want to spend it on something we would never normally do, or be able to afford.

We will of course have our usual 2 week family holiday in the summer, plus trips as usual with the kids.

dh thinks its a bit weird to want to go without them but I just think a whole week being able to lie by the pool, with nothing else to do, would be bliss. Imagine not having to get up for a week

So AIBU and the worst parent in the world?

(oh and dc's will be with grandparents)

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Librashavinganotherbiscuit · 20/07/2010 11:47
Envy
Tortington · 20/07/2010 11:48

i went without dh and the kids ...twice.

sapphireblue · 20/07/2010 11:49

. Speaking as someone who has never had a night away from her kids and is unlikely to be able to until they are old enough to be left on their own......YANBU. And I hate you

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mosschops30 · 20/07/2010 11:54

lol @ sapphire
Yeah but if you could, would you???
My friend was always talking about having a nice adult break, we went away for 2 nights and she almost had a nervous breakdown

I just feel that I probably shouldnt be thinking that the best way to spend this money is on a break for me and dh but thats what I really want to do because we wont have the opportunity for about another 15 years

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rubbersoul · 20/07/2010 11:58

Do it! View it as a second honeymoon and spend some special time together.

How old are your children?

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mosschops30 · 20/07/2010 12:01

We didnt have a proper honeymoon (3 days in Dublin) because we had a huge 4 week holiday with dd the previous year to Australia.

Dc's will be 14, 6 and 1 when we go next year

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cheltenhamgal · 20/07/2010 12:02

Definately do it, you may never get the chance again

sue52 · 20/07/2010 12:03

DH and I have done this often. After all the children will go on school trips without you so go on and book somewhere grownup.

Follyfoot · 20/07/2010 12:04

We're taking a week on our own this year...then we caved in and booked a week elsewhere too and asked our DCs if they wanted to come. As they are all 16 or over, we thought 'not a chance'. Ah well, next week the 5 of us go off on our hols!

Cant wait for the week on our own though I have to say

rubbersoul · 20/07/2010 12:08

'We didnt have a proper honeymoon (3 days in Dublin) because we had a huge 4 week holiday with dd the previous year to Australia.'

Definately go for it, and don't feel guilty!
I'm sure your children would have a great time with their grandparents

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mosschops30 · 20/07/2010 12:08

Im not saying I wont miss them, because I will and will probably phone them every night.
But I still want to do it

We're looking at booking an all inclusive suite in a 5* hotel, no mini discos and hokey cokey for us

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OhCobblers · 20/07/2010 12:24

do it do it do it!!!!

we go away every year for a weekend without our 2 - much needed time out to re-charge one's batteries!!!
later this year we're going for a week too!!

just as important as having a holiday with the kids.

midori1999 · 20/07/2010 12:33

Do it. You will have a wonderful relaxing time and the DC will have a great time with their grandparents.

DH and I have taken a few holidays by ourselves, something that is unlikely to happen again, and I have such wonderful memories from the. I do always try and book adult only hotels though, as if I see children there, I do get a bit upset and think 'oh, my DC would love that'.

The DC have always had so much fun they have never even missed us.

Litchick · 20/07/2010 12:37

Oh do it.
We go away for a weekend every year and it's bliss.
Can't manage to get longer but would if we could.

cryhavoc · 20/07/2010 13:03

Definitely NBU.

Next week DH and I are off to a spa in Bavaria for four nights. We get pools, saunas, beers and sleep, DD (2.4) gets spoiled by Grandma and Grandad - everybody wins.

Very jealous of 5 all inclusive. fondly remembers Caribbean honeymoon*

porcamiseria · 20/07/2010 13:11

sapphire , ME TOO!!!!!

I love to hear I am not the only support and babysitter-free person

OP, yanbu (bitch!)

cryhavoc · 20/07/2010 13:17

Ooh, didn't mean to bold that. Sorry - was meant to be mire thought bubbles than blatant bold boasting

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mosschops30 · 20/07/2010 13:19

I never feel guilty for our weekends away, but a week just seems like a long time.

The garndparents have just given us the all clear, just waiting on my boss now, but sure it will be fine, not exactly a peak time of year.

I will probably cry all the way there

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whoneedssleepanyway · 20/07/2010 13:22

I dream of going to the maldives or somewhere fantastic and just lying by a pool or on a beach, sipping a cocktail not having to worry about anyone other than myself.

do it do it do, but don't come back on here and tell us how wonderful it all was!!

nikki1978 · 20/07/2010 13:24

DO IT!!

DH and I go away for a weekend every 6 months without the kids and I don't feel guilty in the slightest . Kids love staying with their grandparents and I always word it that they are going on holiday to Grandma and Grandads. They can't wait to get shot of us. The weekend before last we went to Amsterdam for 3 nights. Bliss. Enjoy yourselves!!

nikki1978 · 20/07/2010 13:27

Oh and we did two a two week holiday at the start of the year to Australia and they were fine (I was a major one off due to my best friend getting married).

sapphireblue · 20/07/2010 14:57

of course I bloody well would! If you don't feel comfortable with a whole week, coould you do a 4 night stay instead?

GeekOfTheWeek · 20/07/2010 15:01

Do it

We are having 2 holidays this year. Making the most as you never know when the opportunity will arise again.

Enjoy

Deliaskis · 20/07/2010 15:08

Absolutely do it and YANBU. We all need a break from time to time and no matter how much we love our DCs (or any other family member for that matter), it is also sometimes healthy to have a little time for yourself.

D

upahill · 20/07/2010 15:12

My mum abd dad used to do this in the 70's.
We had lots of camping holidays in the summer and then In October or November mum and dad would go to Teneriefe or Gran Canaria for a week or two and we would stay and nan and grandads. We would go to school as normal.

I go one further and go away without kids and DH whenever I can

Disclaimer: I get more holidays than him and I can't take all my leave in the school holidays.