DP doesn't like kissing

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AIBU to be pissed off with DP of 5 years who has just told me he doesn't like kissing?

That's weird! Ermmm yanbu but I'd be a bit suspicious of this one tbh-is he still up for sex etc?
Could be he's just stressed?

I'm afraid I don't particularly like kissing - at least not on the mouth !

I used to say that to my exH - he was a terrible kisser and it was the only way in the end.

i am not all that keen on kissing, it just doesnt do anything for me really, dh of ten years LOVES kissing. thin it pees him off that i dont spend an hour kissing him in foreplay, but hey ho

Maybe you have bad breath.

Maybe your DP is autistic.

I hate kissing just personal taste.

Yeah, I'm not hugely keen either - I'm glad I'm not a freak. I can't even say WHY I'm not that into it...

Lol at 'personal taste'.

chiabom many autistic people like kissing?

my other half does not like kissing, except when he is drunk. hmmm does my head in...

yanbu to be upset, I really enjoy kissing and would miss the intimacy. Have you seen your dentist lately, some gum disorders can give you bad breath which you may not be aware of.

I have to admit i don't like kissing dp... he's got a really wet mouth and drools in my mouth. Can't stand it

I would never tell him that though so pretend i'm not keen on kissing

I'm not a big fan of kissing. The rare occasion we do kiss it is goooooooooooood because it's such a 'treat'.

I think kissing is a big part of early romance when you were taking time to build up to more intimate sex, foreplay etc (though these days probably not many spend days or weeks just kissing before moving to the next level). I think after years of being with someone it seems a bit pointless and I'd rather just cut to the chase. Quite an interseting topic though!

My OH hasn't been to the dentist for years and years. (never in the time I have known him and we have been together for 14 years) I have a real fear of poor oral hygiene. I really don't enjoy snogging him, but I don't let on, I could never hurt his feelings!

This is not going to help, but here's some food for thought, just in case there is something to be done before things get worse.

He may be falling out of love. If that happens, he can have sex but for some reason, kissing on the mouth becomes too much.

That's the first thing I noticed when I when I fell out of love with exH. Now that I'm divorced, and for some reason I get to talk about random topics with other divorced people, I have noticed that many of them say the same.

So don't get too pissed off, try to find a way to bring the intimacy back.

One of our couple friends have admitted to us (when drunk) that they never, ever snog. I find this rather odd - doesn't seem to bother them though!

It's a big part of our relationship - can't imagine not doing it.. But, if dh was a carwash type kisser, I'm sure I'd hate it.

i dont like kissing my dp as his breath smells like a cats ass

Your dp doesn't like kissing ...............you. Sorry op but after 5 years I think it would have come up before now.

Kissing is just about the most intimate thing that humans do. It's also the first step to a sexual encounter.

When the kissing goes the chemical attraction has gone.

In retrospect, I probably should have seen this 'revelation' coming.

He's never really been 'into it' and is basically rubbish at it anyway so it's no real loss to me.

I just feel like he's been a bit dishonest.

Not to put a bone into the contention, but 'prostitutes' have sex but do not kiss/snog because, to them, kissing is more intimate than sex.

I would be worried.

Do you mean on the mouth?I don't really snog dh unless we're in bed-bit inappropriate in front of the kids/ busy watching tv.
When we have morning sex I do tend to avoid full on snogs, but surely kissing everywhere else is an important part of sex? Is the sex reasonable?

DH doesn't like kissing with tongues. But loves kissing my lips and body and is incredibly affectionate and loving. He's always been like that. Nothing to do with my oral hygiene (which I'm pretty fanatical about), he just doesn't enjoy it.

To be honest I'd love a good snog sometimes, but it positively puts DH off so I'll settle for lots of kisses on my body!