to be really fucking pissed off actually

[Ladyanonymous]

I may B U.

OH in Navy - only see each other (most)weekends.

Had nice w/e planned with OH this one just gone as I had no kids and OH went to see some visiting relatives from abroad 300 miles away (who came at short notice). I was unable to go with him as I have students. So spent weekend on my own and saw some friends etc(ended up working). Will see him this weekend for first time in two weeks and will spend weekend with him and my DCs.

School hols this weekend looking forward to weekend without kids weekend after to prepare for holiday and DD's bday and spend some time alone with OH. I have been very unwell the last 6 months and am looking forward to a rest in the hols from full on kids

We are then going away on holiday for a week just the two of us then having one of his DC's (and my 3) for 2 weeks. We have asked the mother of his other 2 DCs (months ago) if we can have them for a week so they can see their sibling. She has said no as she has a friend satying for two weeks .

He has now said today she wants us to have them the weekend after next (my kid free weekend). I have gone a bit mental as I feel I am dancing to her tune constantly when we have offered to have them for a whole week.

He can't get them this weekend as he can't afford the petrol and I can't lend it.

ARGH please be honest and tell me - AIB a selfish bitch step mother from hell?

no that noone shd be swearing at all!

Why - exactly?

Why is it wrong?

Speaking as a non Christian

lying is disgusting as well!
whats the need to swear exactly?
why is it wrong? because it sound disgusting when people say it
its not decent

children these days are so advanced and of course they lie for there birthday
kids are two steps ahead of anyone!

its something that i strongly believe in

Oh sod off, OP has a genuine issue here that she is trying to canvas opinion on. If she asked AINU to swear thn fine, but she hasn't so sod off.

Typos aplenty there!

aibu then

pregnantteen Why not start your own thread about your feelings on those issues?

i dont understand what the last two people said?
could you explain please?

With the best will in the World pregnantteen you are making a prat of yourself.

I spend all day behaving myself in front of my children and I come onto Mumsnet to relax. I am sure most of us could do without pious lecturing.

okokok you do what you please!
but i will be the one laughing in your face when your child starts swearing at u! u wait for that day and let me know how u feel!!!!

pregnantteen I've just read a few of your other posts on here and you are either a very bad troll or a very young girl going through a tough tough time.
Can I suggest that if you feel very strongly about swearing, you start a thread entitled AIBU to really disagree with swearing? Then you have a place to debate your views. But, can I say that if what you have said elsewhere is true, that you my have bigger things to think about right now.

But here is not the place, someone has asked for help and so this is her space (and anyone who wants to be involved with her debate).

Oh pregnantteen that's no way for a good muslim girl like you to talk.
Seriously, Worst Troll Ever.

I will do what I want thanks but I wasn't aware that I needed your permission.

ok understood
thank u !

bruvssss allow it yer, my mandems will bang you brevvvvvvvvvv, you are pussyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyys! come down to my endz init. Tell your little kids to bring their shankssss, coz im sure they alreasy own one. Bad parents, shame on youu. Skeen brother.

Right. Innit

Is it not past your bedtime?

nope
is it notpast ure bedtime!

u think u mums are badems here onmumsnet!
have u not seen the world outside!
idiots!

anf the onlyu reason i started on this thread! coz u idiots were swearing!
so dont get smart with me!

CHECK THIS AND THEN TELL ME WHO IS WRONG!

GOSH PARENTS HERE TELLING ME ITS OK TO SWEAR! AND IM 15 WITH MORE COMMON SENSE!

Anyway Ladyanonymous as I was saying...:

YANBU to try to gain some control of the situation, but if it were me, I'd get her to do it as it sounds like she doesn't want to please him in anyway (I'm just comparing to my situation). So, approach her (or get him to) and explain something about Naval commitments means that he really needs to plans his weekends carefullyover the next 6 months, so could she jot down the weekends she can do. Then, see how this compares with your list, if there are dates on her but not on yours, suggest one of yours as an alternative?
I think about Exes the way I deal with children and most men...let them think it was their idea and congratulate them wholeheartedly for being so clever!

OP I sympathise - like you've said I think you have to "suck it up" - but good idea about giving dates - makes her feel in charge [winl]