Before I start, some of you will know who I am and I apologise for another post on my DSD but I was hoping for some insight into a problem she has. I'm not trolling, just looking for some advice. (I am still leaving my DP but can't just ignore what happens here until I leave).
Bacially as I have posted before, she has a problem with wetting the bed. She's 13 and has always wet the bed. Usually every night, sometimes less often but always more than twice a week.
She has been involved with doctors and the hospital who cannot find anything wrong with her.
I think I have sorted out the hygiene thing (she never used to get a shower and would go to school smelling of urine) which has changed dramatically but still she wets the bed almost everynight.
What I don't understand is, when she went on a school residential trip for a week, she didn't seem concerned at all about wetting the bed which I found odd and low and behold - she was magically dry all week.
As soon as she comes back, she wets the bed almost every night again.
Whenever she sleeps at a friends house or if a friend stays here, she's always dry and has never had an accident.
If she sleeps at a relatives house, she is always dry.
Out of curiosity once, I suggested to DP that he gives her an incentive to stay dry and so he decided to give her a chocolate bar for each night that she was dry. Needless to say, as soon as this incentive started, she was dry almost every night. When he got "Bored" of treating her everynight and stopped, she started wetting the bed again.
What really got me is that last week, DP was rushed into hospital and had to be kept in for a week. DSD was dry EVERY night that he was away (a full week) and as soon as he comes back, she starts wetting the bed again.
DP is furiously sensitive about the whole thing and won't have it said that she could be doing this on purpose. I feel bad considering the fact that she COULD have more control over it but surely if you have a genuine bladder problem, it wouldn't be such a convienient one?? The cynic in me thinks she's doing for attention or at least some of it. (She is constantly thinking up attention seeking illnesses and actually gets excited at the prospect of going to hospital with her dad).
AIBU for even thinking this? if not, what should I do because DP just won't accept any discussion of it.
Please don't accuse me of trolling, I've admitted who I am, but it doesn't make the problems from before go away. Thanks.