to be getting irrationally ANNOYED with people who feel obliged to tell me what they ate in pregnancy and how it did THEM no harm....

[MrsFC]

Be that runny eggs, blue cheese, peanuts, pate, wine, tuna, folic acid, you get the picture..

It's MY choice. If I decide not to eat these things (or in the case of peanuts even if I do), I really DON'T care what you think. Why do you feel the need to tell me what you did and how it was fine for you.

I don't care about the Government 'infantilising women' (sorry head if you are reading this - I DO love you!), or how you drank a 'bottle of wine when you were seven months pregnant' or how they laugh at us in France and eat eggs and brie.

I honestly don't care. do what you like in your pregnancy and let me do the same.

Phew - thank you for listening. Hormonal much??

(I just read this out to MrFC and he asked hopefully if this was off my chest now & please could I stop ranting to him! )

People seem to think that a pregnant woman is public property, YANBU it is no one elses business.

I guess early pregnancy can turn the nicest of people into touchy, hormonal moanbags...

oh agree agree agree.

It's total one-upmanship, designed to make pg women (esp first-timers) feel daft and over-precious.

I knew the risk of listeria was very small, but giving up my beloved camembert was my choice.

I've made up for it since..

YANBU

I'm sure they don't really care what you do either. Just trying to make converstation and bond with you a bit, I expect.

YABU. Relax.

Save your energy for when everyone is giving you 'advice' on how to bring the baby up

Yanbu, this used to drive me crazy! My favourite was being told "well you'll need to eat a bit of meat now" I've been vegetarian for 16 years so no I won't thanks. Oh and being accused of being picky for turning down an unwashed salad. Some people think they know everything!

gets worse when you have baby and the "advice" dished out is all based on anecdote, and never did me any harm or a quacky study they read in newspaper

start practising your serene im not listening face.its an invaluable skill

I ate Parma ham throughout my pregnancies. Didn't do me any harm.

Like you said - you're being irrational hence unreasonable, obviously. Chill - you'll be wound up like a spring by the time the baby arrives if you're this aggro'd already over what is probably just making conversation. Perhaps those people giving you advice can tell how wound up you are and are just trying to help you ease up! Jeez.

I have genuinely heard from an "I smoked 20 a day and x is fine"

'Shut up you stpid cow' works a charm.

I hate the "they're laughing at us in France" one. Not only do my French sils not eat all of your list when pregnant (especially not the cheeses), they also have a strange phobia of salad. Nor will they eat any spices at all, anything containing soya, any low-sugar/diet products and, bizarrely, butter. They think I'm seriously risking a premature labour by eating mild indian food.

I take great delight in telling people this when they tell me the French drink red wine or eat unpasteurised cheese etc.

YABU, chill. You have a lot more advice to come for the next, say, 18 years so you may as well get used to it!

Oh Yes! Heard them all too when I was pregnant. Very annoying and unnecessary. YANBU. You will find this particular group of people will offer advice post baby, take mental note to avoid then also. You sound strong, keep letting their useless comments bounce off you. Good luck with rest of pregnancy.

YANBU because it's up to you what you do, but it is all a bit OTT. In my opinion, of course.

YANBU!!!!

(And I love you too).

I still maintain that the pressuring of pregnant women to do/eat/not eat certain things a) amounts to an almost moral pressure, and b)comes perilously close to treating women like irresponsible children that can't make their minds up sensibly and have to be told what to do.

But it is completely and utterly your business and no-one's got any right to make you feel bad about it. Might be an interesting conversation, like with your dear friends , but your body, your baby, your business, as long as you don't get 'wound up like a spring' as Assie puts it! (Not that you will, dear. xx).

Not worth getting annoyed about to be honest.

Sureky if you eat what you want and then there is a problem due to what you eat or touching cat poo or eating peanuts - then it is your fault and you will probably feel guilty eetc - but it is not anyone elses business - if you don't want to listen to it - tell them to shut up and bog off

People like to give advice/anecdotes - but it's just making conversation really!

Chill out about it, nod and smile and just do whatever you want anyway.

People used to say this to me all the time; it never did me any harm.

Thank you everyone - you know what - I think you are right - I while I may not be being unreasonable, my over reaction could be, just a teeny bit!

But writing it down and reading all your responses helped me calm my boots and ease up. In one ear and out the other needs to be my new motto!

head - you know me too well!

Thank you again everyone for restoring peace to the household - MrFC is delighted I have finally stopped ranting!

If you are getting grief (possible bullying?) from someone about the decisions you've made about your pregnancy, then tell them to shove off.

I think a lot of those "well, I did , and there wasn't a problem" could well be oneupmanship, but it also shows a lack of respect.

Yes, you could well be hormonally over-the-top, but surely that's better than smoking 40 cigs a day, glugging a bottle of vodka, and going bungee-jumping?

My advice to MrFC is to give you a hug and admire you for your knowledge and concern about your little one - and that he should tell anyone who's giving you grief about your choices to just sod off. Because the more he does that, the better for all of you.

It does not show a lack of respect to tell someone that you did things differently and it wasn't a problem.

How much respect do you need if you can't bear to hear anything that doesn't back up your opinions entirely?

YANBU
It's the attitude of "stop being so precious"

I was talking to my DH's cousin who had a newborn the same age as mine about the back to sleep thing, DH's Aunt started screeching "Oh well in my day there weren't all these rules, I just put mine on their fronts and they're FIIINE"

yes, your two were, thankfully. But there are thousands of babies lives that have been saved by BTS

It does show a lack of respect ski. It's saying you're being naive and silly and need a seasoned pro like me to tell you what to do

I drank in pregnancy and am happy to tell anyone that I did. But I would never ever recommend they did the same (unless they are asking a question such as "I want to have the odd glass of wine and think that would be OK, what do you think?"). It's up to each individual to make their mind up